I’m having a blast in LA, thanks to my LA peeps (Heavenly & Mikey!). So this is the first part of SEXtalk with the funny & awesome Skyy John.
What are your thoughts on this topic?
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I’m having a blast in LA, thanks to my LA peeps (Heavenly & Mikey!). So this is the first part of SEXtalk with the funny & awesome Skyy John.
What are your thoughts on this topic?
If you want it to be something meaningful it def cant be faster than 3rd date or later.
The best time is when the guy will get involved, he developed some feelings to gal (im not saying necessary love im saying when he really like this gal a lot).
And also i agree with Vanae it has to feel natural. Otherwise its gonna be awkward lol.
So, if you girls wanna long term relationship – dont get down too fast!
thanks for sharing the male perspective, seb.
how are things going since our chat?
hey everything is ok. I was a little bit busy last days. Last night i get back from philly and im planning to come back again.
Anyway i think its gonna be better if i will send you an email instead of posting everything in here.
For most guys I know, self included, never.
never..what?
Hi,
having a work meeting at a military base tomorrow at noon….so I rescheduled it and like 10 people are going to be there at 9am so I can go to SCOOPS!!!!Priorities huh. I think I know John from somewhere, he looks familar. Glad your,e having fun here in LA. Sex on the second date maybe. I don’t know. If you feel it then go for it. This is coming from a guy whos sleeping with a stuffed dog…I am excited about the ice cream and finally meeting you after coming back from the land of the dead. When I first went to your site I was barely alive…tomorrow I will be eating a giant hot fudge sundae and meeting you in person. Have a great Friday night in LA see you Saturday>
see you then martin.
LOL. I am glad I am not the only guy who is sleeping with his stuffed dog! hahah. I suppose it just makes us more adorable to the ladies..LOL..Cheers to all you V-stars out there..P.S.I think Vanae is wonderful. So glad I stumbled upon her videos.
hi,
lets assume that both parties are serious about settling down and getting married. and lets assume even further that they want a marriage that will actually last, and they’re willing to put in the effort to make it work. assuming these things to be true, then people should do it the old fashioned way by abstaining.
Everyone is talking about being in something serious, etc. Let’s get the other side! I’ve had several experiences with a few of my female friends where we both just understand that we both have needs. We’re still great friends in every case, but we also know that a relationship would never actually work between us. So we have sex. I’m completely up front about what it is and so are they. And honestly, one of my best female friends and I ended up sleeping together…I think the second time we hung out. We’re still really good friends. When we’re lonely we have each other. When we’re not, we have a friend to talk to about our significant other.
Just be completely honest with them, and (more importantly) with yourself and everything tends to work out pretty well. Even when it doesn’t, I’ve been lucky enough to still be civil with most of my exes. And I think a lot of that has to do with being so honest about everything.
Also, quick question, are some of you guys trying to fit into a sort of a ‘good guy’ model or something? I can’t be the only guy who holds these views!
hey victor, you’re not the only one with these views. i agree with you. there are different types of relationships and hook-ups, and in your best friend case..if you’re honest and both on the same page….it’s all gravy.
Personally, I don’t mind waiting for a girl.. but really if there is not a good connection or it takes too long (a few months is ok) then I have to agree with Skyy John, get the fuck out!
But most important is to talk about it with the person that you’re with.
Cheers!
Phantium
I’m with Phantium on this one, I don’t mind waiting a little while before having sex, at least long enough to get to know the person. While some women don’t mind getting in the sack right away, others prefer to wait until they are emotionally comfortable. I’m not one to take a woman’s dignity, because I truly respect them, so I’m willing to wait until we’re both ready.
I agree with vanea , it should be natural !
Oh yeah, in line with the topic of this discussion… Generally, I think I would expect to go on, at least, 3 dates before having sex with a lady. I think it gives us time to evaluate one another. Anything before that and I might get a bad impression about the lady. This doesn’t apply to every date though, because I might click with a lady right away, it’s just a general guideline for me.
When i noticed Victor’s post it remind me about my situation. I think 100% honesty is not good. I was doing it and it destroyed my relationship, coz it caused jealousy and finally lack of trust.
I believe that of course you have to be honest but not 100%.
Lol, I’ve actually had a similar problem before. I will add to my comment that you have to be honest, both with yourself and them. That was my issue at least. I wasn’t honest about what I really wanted. After I figured that out, it’s been pretty smooth sailing ever since. There are lines though. Obviously, if you’re sleeping with multiple partners, “sheila” doesn’t need to know when the last time was that “monica” and you had fun. Keep certain details out that will cause jealousy like that.
If you don’t want to know about the dick size of the other guy she’s sleeping with then give her the same discretion as you two learn about each other. And as always, be safe!
You guys are a great tandem.
I checked out skyyjohns channel. Kanye West is definitely out there; but he’s prolific & has a new album coming out. Thatz a “yes” on would I buy Kanye’s music(when I can afford it, it will make the collection). I just put his release: “forever” on my myspace page.
Anyway, the conversation was a great example of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. The female is asking about meaningful occurence. The male is refering to scoring.
I am always trying to have sex on the first date… Sometimes it works, if not, then sex on the second date is also ok with me…. Only once i regretted about this behaviour.. I met a girl i wish I had more dates before I took her to bed (on a first date)…. She was the girl I wish to have serious relationships, get married etc…. I am tired of having sex on the first/second date…. That is not what I want after meeting THAT girl