Comments on: What to do when s/he flakes

By: Lexi

Lexi — Tue, 05 May 2009 21:10:13 +0000

Hi Vanae

I’ve just seen a video of you on Youtube and I think you are great! (it was the one about gaining confidence) you are doing a fantastic thing helping strangers out, I’ve subscribed to you and I thought I’d check out your website too.

Lexi
xxxxx

By: Tom (Mediautomatic)

Tom (Mediautomatic) — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 21:34:20 +0000

Time is money, so make sure you’re not wasting both.

By: Tom (Mediautomatic)

Tom (Mediautomatic) — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 21:31:16 +0000

Sadly I’ve found myself at a point where i’ve a number of messages only to find out she flaked on me. As much as you want to try and see if she’ll pick up if you call her again try and restrain yourself. Showing time value goes a long way. Gah it really does suck when a date bails last second though.

By: Kein

Kein — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 13:20:56 +0000

Only once have i let a girl get away with constant flaking, and that was because i was head over heels into her. Anyway long story short, her ego got so pumped up that she could have been my spare tyre. To this day still don’t understand why she flaked when she created all the attraction between us, maybe just to get that inflated ego. Don’t know.

p.s. how/where do i submit these kinda questions in order for V to answer??

By: vanae

vanae — Mon, 27 Apr 2009 08:30:53 +0000

I LIKE THAT!
(might have to use it sometime). i’ll credit yah

By: Locus

Locus — Sun, 26 Apr 2009 22:08:12 +0000

LOL Flake on a bill and there goes your financial credit… Flake on MY time, there goes any personal credit.
..Just a thought..

By: diffident&demureDUDE

diffident&demureDUDE — Sun, 26 Apr 2009 02:34:42 +0000

i’ve never really been able to express this before
but thanks to vanae.com (and vanae, herself) i am =)

i would like to believe that i know myself very well
but when it comes to girls i’m as lost as can be
i slouch and my walk’s apprehensive

finally i found an interesting girl and
mustered up what it took to initiate to the first step
i straightened my back and got my swagger on (kinda)
in the end, i got her number but to no avail
i received one too many excuses, one too many rescheduled dates
it took awhile, but the truth really does hurt

do you think it would really change the outcome?
if she knew what i had to go through to talk to her
i thought about it and i think it’s no
if it wasn’t meant to be, it wasn’t meant to be
i’ll move on from this and go fishing again
hopefully sooner than later

vanae, your words of wisdom are very inspiring
you’ve allowed me to reevaluate the situation and
learn from it even more

By: Glenn

Glenn — Sun, 26 Apr 2009 01:30:50 +0000

You are not pathetic. You know, I went through the same thing with someone for the past few months. One day I say, that’s it, erase her number from my contact list, and the next day she comes back all doe eyed and I take her back, and her excuses as well.
The next day,bam,she’s texting me saying she can’t show up for a “date” etc. As you say, I’m tired of being a spare tire, or a convenient filler in her schedule – Vanae, I liked your opinion on this matter. I’ll let her know she can get back to me if she wants to, but I’m going to be busy for a while with other things….let’s just hope I truly have other things to fill my time with.

Good Luck

By: vanae

vanae — Sat, 25 Apr 2009 02:15:54 +0000

exactly!

By: vanae

vanae — Sat, 25 Apr 2009 02:15:35 +0000

thanks shady