-don’t be too emotional on the first call (she/he might think your emotionally unstable)
-don’t be too open (you might freak them out)
-try and not talk too much

Bah Humbug! Listen to my when I say this.
DONT listen to these stupid rules -_-.
The worst thing you could do is overcomplicate matters and show them a fake version of yourself.
Take a lesson from vanae’s videos and just bring lots of enthusiasm into the conversation.
Fun is contagious.
If you’re having fun with them, they’ll be having fun too .

Good stuff. Also, when you do talk, it’s important to use the improv comedy rule of “don’t say no,” meaning don’t be negative at all, or it will kill the scene. This means don’t say things like “I’m not athletic” or “I’m not coordinated” even if you are not. Say what you are, not what you are not.

But before that, you can call the next day if you think she likes you. Texting beforehand is a good idea. For example, I once met a girl who always wanted to be a pastry chef, so I text her the next morning “OMG! Just had the best banana nut muffin EVER and thought of you. -From: the cute mad scientist you met last night who is going to call you later to get to know you. When will you be around?” If she likes me, that will usually get “haha, you are so funny. But cute? We’ll see about that :p . On break right now or free in evenings if you want to chat.” This way when I call, she knows it is me who is calling, and she totally owes me a return call if she is interested, even if she is a “rules girl”, because it demonstrates consistency if you call when you say you will. If she doesn’t respond to your text, you can still call a day later…ONCE.

Sadly, I do know girls who will not call a guy back, even if they are interested. They are also the types who expect dinner at a NICE (their emphasis, not mine) restaurant on the first date. So you dodge a bullet if they don’t call back.

just be yourself and don’t be weird.

You have to calm down, have fun, and really listening what she is all about, gathering info about her to make something to talk about with her, founding commonalities.
Dont overthink, dont overcomplicate. Think about it like that: people are doing it all the time and did it for many years, and they didnt need a special techniques. They were learning through experience

LMAOOO! I LOVE THAT GUY! i’m subrscirbing to sky. haha

OMG VANAE! you did it again. I was thinking of something. and you answered it with your blog conscidentally.
thank you. haha

Once you call, be confident and be yourself is the best thing to do. I still get nervous when I get a new number… to calm my nerves, I go to the gym or run, and watch the news.. RELAX!

What you should NOT do is lie about anything to hype your image, cuz if she does decide to hang out or to have a date, she is going to find out eventually. Your time is precious, so don’t waste it through lies.

Hope this helps
Peace,

JD

Vanae, I only just discovered you via Youtube. You rock girl!!! How did you get to be so wise? Not sure if I’m in a position to advise people about dating. I mostly rely on luck, humour and failing those sympathy. What do you think of the three day rule? You know if you meet a girl Sunday call Wednesday. Also is there a section on your site where one can ask specific questions?

don’t give her number out to your friends and then have them call her multiple times, in an attempt to get her to go out with you. that would probably be one way to get on her nerves

dont ask to hang out right away ie. hey its _____ fromte h other night what you doing tonight want to do something? gotta get teh conversation going first and dont throw too much at them at once ive seen it happen! and you probably wont hear from them again. and say you leave that one message and they still dont reply ever dont let it get you down always think ” thier loss on knowing a great person” ^_^