droom droom…Mickey mouse here I come, kick you in the nuts, yay!! LMAOOOOO

I totally agree that there’s a wide range of reasons that some people are still virgins. It can be by choice or just by circumstance, or a mixture of the two. I’m sure that there are some people who aren’t virgins and still wish they were.

Unfortunately, for guys, it simply brings about a negative connotation and even more peer pressure.

And while I respect those who wait until they’re married, they definitely set themselves with high expectations for their fellow unexperienced partner.

I don’t want to be the bearer of negativity…

But…

I think that a 25 year old male virgin is kinda creepy. In fact a group of friends and I talked about that over drinks this past weekend and they agreed, if they met someone who is a 25 y/o with the big V… Immediate creep status is set. Not intentionally, it just is what it is. “Nature of the beast” in a figurative sort of speech.

The female population in the group took this idea to a WHOLE new level…
Like they couldn’t consider remotly entering into a relationship with someone being a virgin at that age. Then going onto wondering “why” and they basicly agreed that holding out on sex because of religion or “waiting for the right one” is an excuse not a reason… hence, creep status.

LOL This topic, and that group,one of those “had to be there moments.” what do you guys think?

Its been a long time since I have been one or come across one, but I agree with your advise (again). Fantastico!

These videos and comments like Locus have got me freaking out. Seriously i was cool with it, i thought, no use stressing when the time comes things will be ok. But apprentlly i am just a creepy dude. I am feeling that this fact, that i am a virgin at 23, precludes me from any meaningful social interaction for the rest of my life………

Iam 19 and still a virgin. The reason I still am is because of a thing known as social isolation was surffering for it for about two years I tried very hard to meet friends I have just meet one there about 6 months ago turns out he was going through the same thing almost. The two of us went out cluubin and pubbing almost every weekend but I think most men get a girlfriend through being introduced by a friend, so originally they were friends of friends to start off with. Girls rarely get with men they don’t know. I do have plenty of friends but they live far away with me. One thing I will tell others about the matter is try not to hide it although you might be ashamed. The more you open up about it the more people will open up to you and you will realise theyr is nothing to be ashamed of they are plenty of late boomers out there!! and often the ones taht aren’t wish they were and saved it for someone special. Sometimes it can be a choice religous belief or whatever. But another one people miss out on is no social life = no dating life wicth = to no sex life!! if someone for whatever reason is dropped in an area were he knows nobody thing get very difficult!!

In my opinion, some people can’t get it in their head that not all guys have done the deed by 18. I’m only 22 and still a virgin. I am, without a doubt, the shyest and sometimes most awkward guy you’ll ever meet. I may be a good guy to be around, but several things have happened when I was younger that put me off going after women. I know people tell me to let go of any situations that occurred in the past, but sometimes it’s always hard to let things go. I remember having a talk with someone a while back and she gave me the talk about why I still haven’t had sex. I guess my shyness is so intense that it’s hard to get past it. I’ve only dated one person in my life and I told her that I was one, but she was really skeptical about it. We never consummated because we didn’t date for that long and she had other things to worry about. But she told me that it wasn’t a bad thing, but what she felt about it was more of a personal thing. I even thought about going through a prostitute just to get it over with, but then I was told and agreed with the fact that it’s never good idea to do that.

Why is it that male virgins are looked at as losers and female virgins are virtuous? Like Dave Strange, I have little confidence and I’m very shy with issues about trusting people. When I finally get comfortable enough with a women to tell them how I feel I get “You are such a nice guy” shit. I not necessarily scared of rejection it’s more I scared about the indifference she has toward my feelings.

America has a very strange culture in which its people encourage promiscuity before marriage, and then think that they can realistically expect that when married, both they and their spouse will be able to settle down into monogamy. Yet then they are suspicious of each other, often rightly so. Marriage today is often compared to a ball and chain – monogamy is often seen as something to be feared, commitment to be avoided. Bachelor parties are often attempts to get one last taste of singlehood, before the drag of lifelong monogamy. After tying the knot, roving eyes and casual flirting with others continue once the monotony sets in. With these attitudes, it’s no wonder that 65% of partners (both male and female) cheat on their spouse, and 70% of marriages end in divorce.

I’m saving myself for marriage. I intend to dedicate myself body, mind, and soul to one and only one woman for the rest of my life. I intend to raise happy children in a stable home. By holding myself to this standard in a culture where promiscuity is not only accepted but expected, I am demonstrating my unwavering integrity and faithfulness to my future wife. It is my belief that this will help to foster complete trust, and therefore a deeper and more meaningful love between us. To me, marriage will be a joy.

Now, any concern of being thought of as creepy for my virginity doesn’t bother to me. After all, it would be pointless to hold myself to this standard if I wasn’t going to hold any potential dating partner to the same. Any woman who is a virgin wouldn’t think I was creepy at all. The problem is that finding such a woman in American culture is a very rare thing. Very few Americans think ahead about their lives the way that I have, and only a minority percentage of the religious types follow “old-fashioned” wisdom that would keep them straight.

Basically, my choices are to hope that I get unbelievably lucky and find a good woman here in America, lower my standards both in myself and in women until I find a common denominator, or seek out a woman from a foreign culture where chastity and monogamy are still valued. The sad thing is that this standard really isn’t very high – after all, everyone starts out with virginity, anyone could be faithful, it’s just a matter of not getting swept away by hormones and pressure – yet very few are strong or wise enough to do so. In today’s world, where does a faithful man find a good woman?

29! I love older women, you are so cute for your age.

but what about me who is a virgin but who has no choice, Since Im a guy living in a hispanic community virginity is a huge peer pressure and I can no longer take the humiliation and wish to change that but have no idea how especially since Im 19 and the pressure is VERY stressful.

You mentioned in your “Deeper” video that some people are virgins because of previous trauma. That sums me up, very adequately. I’m only 18, but I’m highly sexually stunted because of past events. I’m pretty sure that I’m going to be the 25 year-old virgin that you’re talking about soon enough.

I’m 28 and still have my big V. I really was goal focused and put it off. Now my body has caught up with me that I really need it and can’t find anyone. In my area of Canada being a 28 year old virgin makes you un-dateable it seems.

I thought I’d put in my two cents worth on the virgin subject. And sorry it’s long, I get a little verbose when writing.

I am a guy, I am 28, and I am a virgin. (Sounds like a support group introduction, doesn’t it?). For me it’s a mixture of choice and choicelessness. I have my standards and it is my choice not to give it up to a prostitute or some bar fly for a one night stand (I don’t drink, so I don’t go to bars anyway).

But that’s typically where the choice ends. Every time I’ve chatted with a woman, got interested, and thought about asking her out for a date I’d find out through the conversation that she already has a boyfriend or husband. And the ones I have asked out have all given me a flat refusal right away. So I’m not just a virgin, I’ve also never actually been on a date.

Being a virgin is something that I am neither proud of nor ashamed of. But it is something I’ll keep hidden because I have been ridiculed for it in the past, back when I was 19 or 20. Judging by some comments I’ve seen people make in the past (here and elsewhere) it isn’t, in a general sense, socially acceptable. And it’s even laughable when people won’t date you because you’re inexperienced, but you need to date in order get that experience.

As a side note, I’ve always found the question “why are you a virgin” akin to asking a woman, “you’re 28 [or whatever age], attractive, and successful. Why are you still single? [a.k.a. What’s wrong with you?]” But hey, there is a bright side to it all. I know for a fact that I’m clean and disease free; and I won’t have someone showing up five years later with an invitation to the Maury Show demanding a paternity test and child support.