highlight : forgiveness
after a breakup, you wonder if you’ll ever be friends again…considering all the pain, mistakes, intensity, love, happiness, and sorrow that you went through.
two highlights of my year are:
1) forgiving my most recent ex-boyfriend, BT
2) more significantly, forgiving the man who broke my heart in 2005, JB
it took me some time to get to this place of zen and realization that holding negative energy, makes your life heavy..it weighs it down. it was a major move to forgave JB, when got in contact with me after 3 years.
then, one of the main things that helped me come to forgive BT, is reflecting back to my most recent relationship with him and realizing how healthy it was. it was the best relationship i’ve ever had. we shared our lives, our love, our friends, our compassion for people, our love for music and our growing pains. WE WERE BEST FRIENDS.
then we lost that closeness once we broke up, because i had resentments for the mistakes he made. now, i think about those mistakes and they are a speck of sand compared to what we can absorb from this world, from each other. to lose a best friend because it didn’t work out romantically…it’s a shame.
but i do have to mention, in order come to this point of forgiveness and peace, you must have spent enough time away from each other to reflect, understand and be at peace with yourself. it took me 3 years to respond to JB and let him know that i forgive him. and tonight (after more than a year), i also forgave BT.
but when i did, it meant the world to me. as it did to them.
have you forgiven your ex? how did you let them know?
vanae (feeling light as a feather)
I just broke up couple of months back and after reading this, somehow I still find it very hard to have her as a friend, especially up to now, I still love her and I can’t forgive myself for the hurt i caused her.
I salute you for being to do something I fear I might never have the courage to do so.
Your words makes great sense, and hope one day I could do the same as you did.
Laterz
Comment by X — July 22, 2008 @ 4:21 pm
awe,, I never realized that you are going to get to personal with your shares online.. I thought you will just be tipping and giving guides for a Happier persona of a person,,
hearing this kinds of stuff really makes us know more about you..
I have learned to always forgive anyone,, either ex GF or enemies.. I may feel annoyed with some, but I never keep any anger or some sort.. I learned forgiveness after realizing that God always forgives us, so who am I not to, right?
Comment by Pahn — July 25, 2008 @ 9:42 am
I have forgiven and responded positively. Another’s choice was no repose at all. It is whatever.
Comment by Adrian — July 29, 2008 @ 3:28 am