Vanae: Your Relationship Guide

Maybe only time will tell?

or u make it upfront that he’s not getting any?

Possible video topic: LJBF - in a female perspective.

How do girls see LJBF, especially when that comes outta their mouth? you ever used this before?

can’t wait for the video

A. How to tell if guy is into the girl just for sex/physical?

Hmm… When he keep mentioning that you girls have nice body, basically mention about your physical. Guys just want to have fun. I believe all girls do. Some guys would just tell them upfront that he has a wife or girlfriend already and we go dating just for sex is like having a sex partners=D

B. How to tell if the guy wants to date the girl (possible relationship)?

Any thing he do he will be conscious. In his mind he will always looks to be the best in front of the girl he like. Basically he may not look so natural. Sometimes, you can see guy blush or getting hotter or perspire. haha.

He may be extra care about little details that the girl mention. Maybe she like pink colour. Or she love to eat watermelon. All these he will remember.

Most importantly, the girls will feel it. Girls have the “6th Sense” or what i call intution which is usually 99.9% accurate.

Let me throw a new twist on this ALWAYS interesting subject:

The GAME
- Guy appears to come across as genuine
- Hooks you in
- Has sex with you
- Has you end things
- Time passes (months at times) then somehow he mysteriously shows up again to relight whatever fuse you have left
- You are seduced again
- The vicious cycle repeats all over again, each and every time, getting easier for him and harder for YOU.

Signs of the Game
- Alcohol induced meetings
- Late night meetings
- Odd and inconsistent text messages/voicemails that at times blatantly asks for sex
- Odd and inconsistent meetings between girls you helped introduce him too. There truly is nothing like “sexworking (networking) the community”
- Having attractive words never measure with the actions of the encounter “I just want to be friends…to get to know you better” (to get to know your vagina better:))
- A different person while on the prowl around other attractive targets
- Always coming to your place and not his
- Pimping you and your sexuality out to other friends
- Having you while still being “involved” carelessly/irresponsibly with older/past targets

Basically I have seen and been in encounters enough to see, that at times, these are some of best “rules” to live by; but it is only true men that can respect their woman by sticking around and never becoming predictable…

R-E-S-P-E-C-T

A. How to tell if guy is into the girl just for sex/physical?
The guy is always into the girl for the sex/physical. He might find her personality and idiosyncrasies attractive as well.

B. How to tell if the guy wants to date the girl (possible relationship)?
If he is sincere in his words and actions.
If he is willing to put up with you withholding the initial sex.
If he sticks around after initial sex, and lives up to the standards and expectations of how you want to be treated.

Here is what I have seen over the years on how people, unfortunately including myself, treat women. I have had better luck in getting into a long term relationship acting like Category A. I usually end up a “friend” if I use category B. So,

A. How to tell if guy is into the girl just for sex/physical?
- Plies her with alcohol or other inhibition reducing substances. (I think of your date rape drug joke)
- Displays wealth and power
- Tells her what she wants to hear
- Flatters her physical attributes
- Treats her without respect
- Encroaches on her physical space

B. How to tell if the guy wants to date the girl (possible relationship)?
- Asks about family
- Offers solutions to comments
- Brings woman to events with family, children, relatives, co-workers
- “Opens up”
- Acts respectful

Yes, its weird but true. Category A will get you married, category B will get you a new friend with all the drawbacks of a girlfriend and none of the advantages!

Hi Vanae, how are YOU? this is steve from hungary, remember? hehe.. For your next video topic: ONLY SEX? or REAL DEAL? Please see my comments below.
FYI, up to now I’ve been following David DeAngelo’s cocky and funny approach and it works in this culture too. Been meaning to write to him and ask him what YOU are the best person for me to answer so I’m really glad to know You. My question is, what the best way to approach asian woman? I mean asians who though moved to the west still keep their eastern culture. I have this special connection with asian women working over here..and i enjoy dating them.

Oh, i almost forgot merry xmas! By for now and see my comments below.
Kissesss
Steve

A. How to tell if guy is into the girl just for sex/physical. I’m not surprised that while guys want to know how to meet women, women needs to know how to keep man around. The reason it is hard to tell if the guy only wants sex is because they for sure want that first. The question is if he wants sex only with her and for how long of a time..I think it is easier to tell what he really wants after getting sex is not an issue for him anymore. Then the focus of the relationship can really shift to the relationship..but i know some girls dont want to have sex before they really know true intentions, commitments, and measures of love (especially in the religious america- luckily never seen it my country).
I think all guys want sex, and a relationship as long as it doesnt require so much commitment. Now it is love that changes the whole thing so you can always question commitments but for testing love you need to know what love is and what love is not. Now im not saying that i know what perfect love is but I found 1. Corinthians 13 in the Bible to best list what love is not…and of course actions speak louder than words.
FYI, my fav. book about love is The Psychology of Romantic Love by Nathaniel Branden.

About questioning commitments and to check motifs and test love ask the guy things that might scare him off if he is not serious. Like, would you want to get married in the near future? Or what would you say if i kept the baby if i get Pregnant? I think it is ok. to bring these questions up too early, and see what he responds.. Also, the guy will tell his friends right away and all his friends will talk him out of the relationship..so he will make a decision if she is a ‘keeper’ or not. After that any commitment will be a burden when there is no true love and the guy will runnn when not getting sex all the time. I do think that to be fair to him and to yourself you need to experience eachother thro some physical contact before making long-term commitments. Sex and physical unity expresses things words cannot.

B. How to tell if the guy wants to date the girl (possible relationship)? I guess the question is how to tell if he is in it for the long run when he wouldnt express what he really wants. Most guys want a relationship with any girl they like but the question is for How Long.. For 2 weeks, or for the cold winter, or for long time? So girls can assume that if he looks interested then he would try it out with her. How do you tell if the guy is interested but too shy to show it? I think when you see shyness then you know that he is trying to hide his feelings and passion for you. Why do guys have to brake the ice all the time??.. Dont wait for him to touch you..touch him first. Touching on the face is the best ice breaker when you sense some chemistry between the two of you. Any girl i like would touch my face I’d kisss her right away,hehe

Ps. please do feel free to edit this long content so only relevant sentences will be shown on this site. And would be glad to receive an email from you concerning my question above.

The fact is that in most cases you won’t know. Guys who are really smooth can fool anybody and have no problem lying about stuff. These guys are called pickup artists and they have learned the art of getting girls to do ANYTHING they want. They are just as willing to wait for sex as the next guy because they are also getting it from somewhere else. My suggestion… if you really want to know, ask the women that know him. If you can get to know the people he works with, especially women, they can tell you whether or not you are just the flavor of the week so to speak. His male friends might just as easily lie and say something untrue about him so that THEY get into your pants. It might sound bad to do, but you really should verify even little things that he tells you to ensure he’s not lying about anything. If he’s lying about little things, he’s lying about bigger things too. This should all come before you trust him in the bedroom. A guy who’s got nothing to hide won’t mind you doing this, even he catches you doing it. Also, don’t buy into the idea that a guy will change his past behavior, it won’t happen and you’ll be left wishing you had been smarter about it.