This new episode of Vanae.com is a response to Qaadir on knowing your worth and putting your foot down when someone is not treating you right. Ladies and gents, never put up with someone’s bs in hopes that they will reciprocate or like you. If they recognize how great of a catch you are, they wouldn’t be treating you like that in the first place.
You are hot commodity. You have outstanding qualities. So save them for someone who deserves it.
V’stars, what do you think?
Vanae’s tip of the dae: If that person stood-you up even once, that’s where you draw the line. If the person wants to reschedule, be straight up and tell him that he needs to work for it to earn a hangout with you! Let them work for it. And when I say work for it, I mean, work FOR IT! Scheduling the next hangout, planning it from A-Z, confirm with you and go the whole nine yards. If anything less than that, Fuck ‘em. There’s too many other hot commodities out there, don’t waste your time with sub-par peeps.
He approached me. Tan skin and drunken, he slurred, “Excuse me miss. I’m a nice man and I’m hungry. Can you help me out?”.
Our natural instinct during these moments is to say, “Sorry, can’t help you” but I wanted to help him (in a way that would be meaningful). I replied “Are you hungry? I can buy you something from this Starbucks.”
“Not from here. I like Carls Jrs. It’s on Market and 5th Street. It’s around the corner”, he replied. I thought for a second..turned my head from this homeless man to say to my friend, Jacob, “OK! Let’s go!”. I was ready for this adventure. Then the three of us were on our way to the place ‘home of the 6 dollar burger”.
Along the three-four blocks of busy foot traffic, I gotten to know this gentleman- who went by ‘RED BULL’. A Sioux Indian who walked with an arched back and swurved while he took his steps. People looked at our odd trio. Jacob (nice clean cut Jewish guy), me (outgoing Asian girl) and Red Bull (Native American homeless guy).
As we walked into Carls Jr., I could see the employees look at Red Bull with the hesitation thought of “Oh no, not another bum”. But our trio walked straight up to the counter and ordered 2 combos for Red Bull. We sat down and had a nice conversation.
I bet homeless people just need someone to listen to them and have food in their belly. As we waited for his food, I learned about his past, how his wife is from Novajo and about his daughter. He shared how he left his parol 20 years ago. Came to San Francisco on a bus and was released from prison years ago, and today, he’s 50 years old. “I’m a survivor”. he repeats. After he got his combo meals, munched on some fries…we parted ways.
That was the best $14.62 I’ve ever spent.
Conversation + Human Connection = PRICELESS
Vanae’s tip of the dae: Often times, it’s easy to say ‘no’ or shut people out. If I hadn’t open up and took Red Bull out, I wouldn’t have known an interesting person. So the next time someone approaches you (to strike a conversation or a homeless person), TAKE A CHANCE and share a conversation.
V’stars, share the last time you took a chance with someone…what did you learn?
Even when it seems like a long battle, don’t give up because there’s so much to life! Whether it be pursuing that person, fighting cancer, going for gold or improving intimacy with your partner! Here’s an amazing video between a battle of buffaloes, lionesses and an alligator. Goes to show that you never know what the outcome is!
Instead of the Monday Vanae’s Album of the week, here is my ultimate playlist of my sexy-tunes. Enjoy during your workday or to work those sexy times.
you may not know this about me, but all my good friends do:
i cuss like a sailor
i sometimes have male humor (whatever that means)
i love mangos
i used to be a tom-boy
i find anything related to ‘sexuality’ very intriguing
i email my coworkers writing in third person
i love to share videos that are hilarious
vanae’s tip of the dae: share a youtube video (perhaps this one) to someone you like, for a nice weekend laugh. perhaps your best friend. your neighbor. your mom? life is to be taken lightly. esp during times of economic meltdown, we need material to make us smile and laugh.
PS- this video portrays the mindset of dumbwits and doucebags. no offense to any females, thought you’d enjoy a laugh.
