Recently, Zoosk.com interviewed me and asked me to share dating tips for their community. I had a great time at their headquarters in SF and got the grand tour! Fun hanging out with Juliette there. Below is our video shoot (dating tips for women- asking men out on dates & online dating). Enjoy!
Awesome Chris, my designer, is in town so I’ve been busy showing him around. Admiring the beautiful bay, walking across the Golden Gate Bridge, the uniqueness of this melting pot. It’s nice to re-appreciate your area when a visitor is in town and you’re discovering your city all over again. And introducing yummy ethnic foods that are first-times for him (he’s from Germany). So we’ve had sushi, wonderful thai food, vietnamese pho and will be taking him to Ethiopian! So that’s a quick update of what I’ve been up to…
So now, I present another round of GAME DAE WEDNESDAE!
Survey: Do you find it refreshing when a female initiates? Or does it come off too strong or desperate? Or should males still do the chivalry work?
V’stars, I wanna hear it directly from you!
Basically, should females initiate? Lady v’stars, do you like to initiate? Thoughts?
I hear people say..”Women are complicated and men are so simple.” Women and men’s style of communication is very differently, heck, everyone communicates different as individuals. We want answers right now, while men can be more patient. Also, women typically don’t want to be confrontational, so we won’t ask you up front…but ask you questions to get clues instead. You know, a great book that breaks this down is ‘Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus”.
For Game Dae Wednesdae-
Ever wonder what he/she really meant? For this week’s game activity, we’re going to involve the V’star community to help decipher messages. Share something that the opposite sex says so that V’stars can shine some light on what he/she meant. For example:
What does she truly mean by saying, “I think we should be friends”?
Translation: “Nopes. You’re not the one for me and I can’t imagine us getting along romantically. We might end up as friends, but I can’t guarantee we’ll still be in contact.”
What does he truly mean by saying, “I’m emotionally unavailable” or “I’m not ready for a relationship right now.” Guys, share your interpretation.
Let’s demystify what the opposite sex is saying by start asking:
“What does she/he truly mean by saying ____________________________”
Many of you have been asking me ‘How do I get your E’book: Fuck Her, Fuck Him?’. Simple! You can pre-order it for $15 by submitting payment through my paypal (vanaetran@gmail.com).
I’ve decided to add more chapters to the E’book so it’s going to be released a bit later. It’s going to be well-worth it!!
Here’s my newest Vanae.com Show episode on:
Declaring 2009 as YEAR OF YOU
Women, Sexuality & Respect
In the last 2 weeks, you’ve been requesting this topic: ‘Should I go for my friend’s ex?’. This is very tricky area! Personally, I don’t believe in sloppy seconds and plus my girlfriends and I have very different taste in men. Hence, I will never venture into jeopardizing my friendship with any of my girlfriends. Love interests are a dime in a dozen!
You wouldn’t want to jeopardize your friendship. Let me tell yah…most people you are/will be interested in are not worth messing up your friendship… UNLESS you truly believe he/she is really THE ONE.
Here’s what you do:
1. Weigh out the consequences. How close are you with that friend? Is it worth it? If so…
2. Out of respect: Talk to your friend about how she/he feels about you dating their ex
3. Once you get ‘approval’, then go for it!
4. Keep in mind, that even if your friend gives the green light, that doesn’t mean your interest will reciprocate the feelings
What do you think? Have you dated a friend’s ex?
Vanae’s tip of the dae: Friendships (especially close friendships), lasts a lot longer than love interests! So give it much thought and consideration and be sure to talk to your friend before charting in nasty territory!
