Vanae: Your Relationship Guide

Many of you have been asking me ‘How do I get your E’book: Fuck Her, Fuck Him?’. Simple! You can pre-order it for $15 by submitting payment through my paypal (vanaetran@gmail.com).

I’ve decided to add more chapters to the E’book so it’s going to be released a bit later. It’s going to be well-worth it!!

Here’s my newest Vanae.com Show episode on:
Declaring 2009 as YEAR OF YOU
Women, Sexuality & Respect

Enjoy!
Love yah

Bonjour my V’stars!

How did you celebrate your New Year’s Eve? I was disco-dancing with my good friends in SF. It was a super dance.a.thon!

You guys have written in, called in and connected with me and I HEARD YAH!
With this new year, there’s going to be great changes to my YouTube show and to Vanae.com. (Especially more advice for my lady V’stars). My new video coming tomorrow!

Here’s some red goodness for your New Year’s celebration: Elmo the PIMP
Love yah,
Vanae

Something I love to do when I’m at a restaurant is to identify couples having their ‘first date’. Often times, I can spot it from a mile away. Here’s what I usually notice:

*how close they are to each other -their personal space
*how they move their hands when they speak
*how often they smile and if they smirk
*how engaged they are in conversation

Last week, I spotted a first date was when I was at a New Orleans themed bar/restaurant. To my right, was a tall curly haired guy chatting away with his date. I immediately knew it was a first date because she wasn’t sitting very close to him. Another give away was that she was asking him ‘getting to know you’ questions. And it was very obvious that he was really attracted to her.

How and when was the last time you spotted a first date? What did you notice?

It’s 2:18am. I just parked my car in front of my house. It’s been a long yet fun night of dancing in SF. I turned off the engine and rush out of the cold towards my front gate.

“Happy Holidays. You got home safe!” a stranger yelled across the street. I looked in that direction in the dark and there she was, a mid 30’s African American women carrying toys in her arms.

“Thank you”, I replied to her, as a reflex. I turned back to unlock my gate when I realized that it was nice that a stranger said that, so I wanted capture this moment. I turned around again and continued, “That’s really sweet of you to say!”.

The young lady walked across the street towards me saying, “We’re sisters. No matter what age, what color. We’re all sisters.” and she was explaining to me that she has been carrying the bear in her arms for her sister, all the way from SF on the bus. She smiled at me and asked if she could share a poem with me. I agreed. A poem that she wrote titled “Black Girl”. It was about rising above hardships and not being a lost black girl, but a FOUND one.

She didn’t ask for anything…just to share that poem with me. And she recited it with conviction. I was moved. When she finished her poem, she wished me a “Happy Holidays” and said to me “I don’t know what this will mean to you, but it’s my Christmas gift to you.” She walked into the night, after I thanked her.

She has no idea, but THAT was the best christmas gift I received this year! This beautiful connecting moment with a stranger. Which really triggered fuzziness inside me and reminds me how we’re all connected as humans. THIS JUST HAPPENED TO ME 15 minutes ago, and I felt compelled to document and share this beautiful moment.

What’s your best Christmas gift? I would love to hear all about it.