Bonjour my V’stars!
I wanted to do something fun for this week’s Game Dae Wednesdae! We’re playing I SPY.
I want you share something funny that just happen to you or that you see! Either tell me in comment below
OR EVEN BETTER
take a picture of it and send to ayvanae@gmail.com so I can post your picture here.
=)
Here’s mine (found in front of a house in SF):
Vanae’s tip of the dae: “There is invisible writing on the back of the diploma you will receive, and in case you didn’t bring lemon juice to decode it, I can tell you what it says: YOU ARE BRILLIANT, AND THE EARTH IS HIRING. The earth couldn’t afford to send any recruiters or limos to your school. It sent you rain, sunsets, ripe cherries, night blooming jasmine, and that unbelievably cute person you are dating. Take the hint. And here’s the deal: Forget that this task of planet-saving is not possible in the time required. Don’t be put off by people who know what is not possible. Do what needs to be done, and check to see if it was impossible only after you are done.” – Paul Hawken’s 2009 commencement at the University of Portland
Something I love to do when I’m at a restaurant is to identify couples having their ‘first date’. Often times, I can spot it from a mile away. Here’s what I usually notice:
*how close they are to each other -their personal space
*how they move their hands when they speak
*how often they smile and if they smirk
*how engaged they are in conversation
Last week, I spotted a first date was when I was at a New Orleans themed bar/restaurant. To my right, was a tall curly haired guy chatting away with his date. I immediately knew it was a first date because she wasn’t sitting very close to him. Another give away was that she was asking him ‘getting to know you’ questions. And it was very obvious that he was really attracted to her.
How and when was the last time you spotted a first date? What did you notice?
We all been been-there-done-this! I know I went through one 4 years ago and came out of it stronger and here to share my experience. Unhealthy relationships are usually with the one we fell flat-on-our-face-for. So intense that you lose yourself! But you need to recognize the damage before becoming handicapped.
Signs that your relationship is unhealthy:
1. Your significant other is the only person you hang out with
2. You flake out on people & responsibilities to spend more time with your gf/bf
3. There’s abuse (mental, verbal, physical, emotional) from either sides
4. You have no support system besides him/her
5. Deep down, you feel like you’ve lost yourself
6. You’re constantly disappointed
7. There’s constant jealousy and no trust
8. He/she restricts you (hanging out with certain people, goals)
Get out of there as soon as possible, or you’ll build up so much resentment that you’ll explode! If you do, it’ll be too late to salvage a friendship.
Gain a healthy relationship through:
A. Balance
She/he can be an important part of your life, but not what your life is all about. You need to balance your time, priorities, wants, needs and self.
B. Communication
Don’t let things bottle up inside. Be sure to communicate effectively to improve your connection. If you there’s something bothering you, then tell her/him that.
C. Understanding
Take the time to listen and understand where she/he is coming from. This will help with patience and it’ll strengthen your bond. She/he will feel like they can open up to you.
D. Independence
A person who can hold their own (opinion, goals, thoughts, social life) shows independence. No one wants a super slingy person.
When did you realize it was an unhealthy relationship? How did you get out of it?
