I want to share V’star Aaron’s story on how he was liberated after listening to my advice and confronting the flakey girl in his life:
So just wanted to tell you this story that I hope your other Vstars will relate to
I had this flakey girl that I was totally into. She worked at my job and for whatever reason I was attracted to (can’t always explain attraction in logical terms)
Anyway, I had hung out with her a few times but noticed that she wasn’t returning my phone calls. I confronted her about this head on about a call she did not return where i invited her to meet me for an art walk (she likes to paint). Basically, I told her “This is a HUGE turn off for me. I have my job and school which keeps my life occupied and i don’t have time for social games”. After she said, oh I’m not playing games, sorry you feel that way…I continued
“this has been a pattern and its a pattern I’m sick of being in.” after that she responded “well maybe its best if we are friends” which at this point i calmly stated “you know, i don’t think that’s going to work for me” after she asked why i said…”i’m not looking for a friend, and if i was, i would want one who would return my calls”.
It felt so liberating!!! Please guys, confront the situation head on….you will feel so much better and confident in the end. KNOW YOUR WORTH!
V’stars, if you’re in this situation, you know what to do. For those who been there and liberated, what did you do and how did it feel?
Bonjour V’stars,
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Very often, I receive emails about your situations.
and very often, the reason why you’re in these situations is because you haven’t realized that you’re the sideline person!
Below is the new Vanae.com episode to give you clarity if you’re a sideline person and give you motivation to move forward to get what you deserve.
Forward the post/video below to any of your friends or close people who are stuck being the sideline person.
Give them a wake-up call. They’ll thank you for it.
Q. I recently became good friends with this girl…we have common interests, get along great, and have same outlook in almost everything in life. I like her a lot but she has a bf for 5yrs. Her bf has recently cheated on her with another girl. so this girl i like, slept with me. This is happening frequently now between us. I like her alot, she knows how i feel about her, but i want something more than just a booty-call. What should i do?
Booty Call
A. Dear Booty-call,
Sticky, sticky situation, ay?! What to do about this chick, who’s cheating on her cheating bf with you? Sounds like that girl is taking revenge on her bf by hooking up with you. This, my dear, is what I call a cross-fire. Not sure of what she’s really doing…You’re caught in the middle and it’s not a good place to be.
First of all, you are helping her cheat. Again, you are the OTHER MAN helping her cheat!
Second, it’s challenging moving from bootycall to a serious relationship, let alone that person suffering from being cheated on.
What you should do?
Tell her exactly what you want! You’ll know her true intentions and what she wants from her response. If she’s not on the same page…GET OUT OF THERE. As if your house was burning down! Save yourself because if you stay, you’ll just be a sideline guy who just got burnt BIG TIME!
V’stars, what do you think? What would you do?
Vanae’s tip of the dae: Be honest with yourself in what you want and tell the other person. Don’t be afraid to bring it up to the other person, because if they felt the same, they’ll want it too. If they don’t..Fuck ‘em. Your time is better spent, playing pool or spending time with someone who does feel the same! You deserve to be with someone who deserves to be with you.
Q: Hey Vanae, I need some advice. I’m really interested in this girl, and she said she was interested in me too. But she says she’s going to be single for a while. Well we used to talk about 4-6 times a week, but now in the middle of our conversations she’ll hang up to go talk to another guy. She says she’ll call me back, but she doesn’t. What should I do?
A: Honey….sounds to me like you’re the sideline guy. This girl is stringing you along, making you watch the game from the sidelines, instead of playing. When a female tells you ‘i’m going to be single for a while’…that’s a red flag! It means she doesn’t picture dating you. You should stop talking to her right away. A person who truly likes you, would respect you and would not prioritizes another person over you in mid-conversation. Sweetie, you deserve a lot better than that. Drop it like it’s hot, cus you ARE hot shit! Don’t let anyone string you along and waste your time. You’ll save your time for a better match and ultimately be happier.
Whenever you’re in a situation or relationship, which doubt kicks in..ask yourself:
Ideally, how would I like to be treated by him/her?
Does she/he treat me that way?
If not….a lightbulb should be going off right about now.
Vanae’s tip of the dae: You deserve someone who deserves you.
