This is very important topic to raise to the public to have a discussion. I know that our society tends to shy away from heavy topics such as rape, crime and assault. But awareness and change happens, when we can discuss openly and move towards change. The fact that not a lot of people even heard about this incident, is even more reason why this is important.
I believe that the world is good and full of good people. The world also contains bad people who contribute to terrible crimes such as the one I refer to in the video above. So I don’t think the world is going to shitz, nor is men to blame here. Because that’s not the root, nor is that an active way of dealing with this.
In the day in age of filming ‘people’s misery’ as entertainment, are teens getting desensitized on what’s real crime and pain? The implications? Because the unsympathetic behavior and lack of realization on how detrimental the situation is as it was taking place.
I think a big component of this stems from parenting today. Are kids and teens not taught enough respect, values and citizen responsibility as the generation before?? Doesn’t matter how busy parents are, it’s how they spend their time with their kids. I know my parents were gone alot due to working but when they were home, they laid down the law. It was very clear that discipline and morals were distilled into each and every one of my siblings. Meaning that, if I was there at the incident, I would recognize it was completely wrong and I would do something about it! So this is the wide lens view.
That’s why it is extremely important to me to help our current generation to be healthier, more spiritualized and introspective so that we’ll have happier and balanced generations to come.
Now, I know that it ultimately boils down to individualist decisions and actions. We need to do something. There needs to be awareness and understanding of why this is taking place. How do we reduce this from happening? Especially the young individuals involved, whether they did the actual crime or was one of the witness who stood and took photos/videos of what was going on!
V’stars, what do you think we should do to reduce this from happening?
Females, always roll with at least one trusted female friend so you take care of each other.
Males, no girl deserves to be mistreated or physically assaulted. No one. How can we get more people to be responsible citizens to intervene when things like this go down? How do we help as many males as possible to respect women?
There’s 3 areas of initiation:
1. Approach and initiating a conversation in person
2. Initiating to show interest and ask someone out on a date
3. Initiating physical intimacy
V’stars, comment below on other tips you have for initiating!
Here’s the new Vanae.com episode on initiating and thanks for your v’mails!
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Awesome Chris, my designer, is in town so I’ve been busy showing him around. Admiring the beautiful bay, walking across the Golden Gate Bridge, the uniqueness of this melting pot. It’s nice to re-appreciate your area when a visitor is in town and you’re discovering your city all over again. And introducing yummy ethnic foods that are first-times for him (he’s from Germany). So we’ve had sushi, wonderful thai food, vietnamese pho and will be taking him to Ethiopian! So that’s a quick update of what I’ve been up to…
So now, I present another round of GAME DAE WEDNESDAE!
Survey: Do you find it refreshing when a female initiates? Or does it come off too strong or desperate? Or should males still do the chivalry work?
V’stars, I wanna hear it directly from you!
Basically, should females initiate? Lady v’stars, do you like to initiate? Thoughts?
Your patience did not go unrewarded. Here is the brand spanking first Vanae.com episode since I’ve been back! Part of Game Dae Wednesdae:
What are other scenerios you wish people would be UPFRANK? Comment below!
Something I love to do when I’m at a restaurant is to identify couples having their ‘first date’. Often times, I can spot it from a mile away. Here’s what I usually notice:
*how close they are to each other -their personal space
*how they move their hands when they speak
*how often they smile and if they smirk
*how engaged they are in conversation
Last week, I spotted a first date was when I was at a New Orleans themed bar/restaurant. To my right, was a tall curly haired guy chatting away with his date. I immediately knew it was a first date because she wasn’t sitting very close to him. Another give away was that she was asking him ‘getting to know you’ questions. And it was very obvious that he was really attracted to her.
How and when was the last time you spotted a first date? What did you notice?
