Lots of big and exciting things are happening in my world. Preparing to move, graduate program, Ford Fiesta stuff, coordinating single events and so much more. I’ll fill you in soon with a new Vanae.com episode.
The weekend is about here, thought you’d enjoy this video dating profile parody:
Thanks to all the V’stars who sent me warm birthday wishes! The answer to last week’s game is…28! I just turned 28 years old. The selected winner is GANNON! Congrats to Gannon and gracias to everyone who entered including the gentleman who guessed that I was 37 years old!
YOU ARE UNIQUE…YOU ARE MY V’STAR!
Help me create a more robust community for our V’stars by answering these 5 quick questions for Game Dae Wednesdae:
1. Why do you dig my life & dating advice over other advice out there?
2. Rate 1-5 (5 being highest), how likely are you to recommend this blog?
3. How did you stumble upon Vanae.com?
4. What led you to become a V’star (subscriber) Or, if you’re not a V’star subscriber yet, what would it take to convince you?
I’ve picked my winners from the Worst Date Story and they will be receiving their prizes in the mail soon!
For this week’s activity, it’s a survey question that I want you to answer:
“If you’ve sent a message to someone on a dating site, but they are not interested…would you rather have them ignore your message OR write back to say they are not interested?
Looking forward to your answers!
Love yah!
Vanae
UPDATE: So ladies and gents, survey says ‘It’s better to message back and let that person know you’re not a match, rather than leaving ‘em hanging’.
To support my friends who are running a TNT marathon, I’m donating an hour of coaching session to this fundraiser. One lucky good person will be selected to win this coaching! To enter this fundraiser, all you have to do is donate at least $5 (click on yellow donate button) to:
Q: Hey Vanae, I need some advice. I’m really interested in this girl, and she said she was interested in me too. But she says she’s going to be single for a while. Well we used to talk about 4-6 times a week, but now in the middle of our conversations she’ll hang up to go talk to another guy. She says she’ll call me back, but she doesn’t. What should I do?
A: Honey….sounds to me like you’re the sideline guy. This girl is stringing you along, making you watch the game from the sidelines, instead of playing. When a female tells you ‘i’m going to be single for a while’…that’s a red flag! It means she doesn’t picture dating you. You should stop talking to her right away. A person who truly likes you, would respect you and would not prioritizes another person over you in mid-conversation. Sweetie, you deserve a lot better than that. Drop it like it’s hot, cus you ARE hot shit! Don’t let anyone string you along and waste your time. You’ll save your time for a better match and ultimately be happier.
Whenever you’re in a situation or relationship, which doubt kicks in..ask yourself:
Ideally, how would I like to be treated by him/her?
Does she/he treat me that way?
If not….a lightbulb should be going off right about now.
Vanae’s tip of the dae: You deserve someone who deserves you.
I stumbled on your website a while back, and found your dating tips very useful and informative. It made me aware of different dating situations. I even called a girl out for making me into a sideline guy.
I was wondering what are your thoughts regarding dating single moms or women who have been divorced?
A. Of course, you have to think about what you’re ready for (casual dating, short term dating or long term dating) and be honest about it.
Divorced female…She’s been through a lot and ultimately her ex-husband wasn’t the right one for her. She’s probably grown to be really in tuned with herself. Why not date her? Could be your great gain. I have a couple friends who are divorced and they are wonderful and sexy. So yes, be open to divorced women. Just be sure that she had enough cushion time to deal with her ex so you’re not a rebound (esp if you’re looking for a serious relationship).
Single moms…this gets a bit trickier but you shouldn’t exclude this as a possibility. Most likely, she’s been through enough to know what she wants and looking out the best interest of herself and her kid(s). If you’re looking to date long term, remember to consider the possible dynamic of her kid(s) in your life. Are you ready for that type of commitment? As always, be sincere and don’t play games …we can see right through it all.
Are you a single parent in the dating scene? Have you dated a single mom or dad?
Here’s a cute video I filmed just for you! Very soon, you’ll be able to share this video card with friends and crushes on Valentine’s Day. Stay tuned!…In the meanwhile, ENJOY and go hold hands with someone you’re fond of!
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