My personal video blog on Virginia Tech and How To Love Yourself
My blog post on How To Love Yourself.
My most favorite part of coaching is the in-person interaction: whether it’s doing workshops, guest speaking or just having a discussion with young people. I’ve been on speaking panels and a guest speaker at different colleges and I absolutely love it! There’s something very powerful in the interactions. To really make a connection and have a peer-to-peer chat that’s more effective than a boring lecture, which you may feel like you’re being talked at, instead of with. The feeling that you’re truly making a connection and hopefully, they left feeling inspired to think about their health, their goals or for more self-awareness.
I recently did a talk at Virginia Tech on the topic of Interracial Dating and doing a live QnA session with the students. It was so much fun! We talked about societal/cultural/family pressure for us to date within our race and how to approach this communication. I’ve always loved talking with young people. Their energy. Their curiosity. Their intelligence and just the fun discussion to provoke more curiosity and understanding.
In a way, Im fulfilling one of my dreams.
I remember being a freshman in college, sitting in class and looking up front to the guest speaker who was presenting. She was older. She was talking about sexual health. She seemed as though she was reading through a list of notes. There was no connection. The information didn’t soak in. I couldn’t even tell you what I learned from that talk. and I remember thinking…
I want to educate, by connecting with young people. One day, I’m going to stand in front of classes and groups of young people and have a discussion with them. In order to really get through to students, the connection has to be genuine. Powerful in the personal experience. Verbage and language has to be aligned. The main thing, the student and speaker has to relate. I’m going to do that in a fun, peer-to-peer way and make a difference.
and today, I’m blessed to say…I’m doing exactly that. Doing workshops and speaking with young people about sexual health (for my non-profit Rock Your Awareness), dating, communication, relationships (through my life & dating coaching), impacts on multi-cultural communities and growing up as Asian American.
So thank you to Tom Medina and Virginia Tech for the wonderful opportunity!
Love You Vanae
-From Jeff,
love yah too v’star jeff!
Vanae – I loved this message.
You are really connecting with people and genuinely helping others while living your dream.
Now that is a great life!!
thanks, i appreciate the kind words
Oops and in answer to your question “How do we love ourselves?”
For me I love the beach. I have just had my first weekend off in a long time and even though right now is Monday in Australia (you guys are behind!) – I chose to work a few hours down at my favourite beach in the world – Cottesloe Beach. I breathe in the healing energy, swim, lay in the sun, meditate and pray for inspiration, then I write!
I am looking forward to reading how others love themselves.
the best thing I love to do alone is driving my car alone and go somewhere empty ! singing for myself . when I’m home I play my favorite video games alone . I just love being alone ^_^
I think you hit the key to loving yourself in the beginning of your video, Vanae. “Do things that you’re interested in.” If you don’t know what those things are yet, open yourself up and start experimenting and finding out what your interests are!
Personally, I love music, writing, reading, and dancing (amongst other things) and I try hard to make sure all those things are included in my life to some extent…with a full-time job, clinging onto all your interests is hard, but if you just inject a little bit of it into your weekly routine (writing in a journal, listening to a new album on your commute home, or dancing in your room as exercise instead of going to the gym), you’ll be so much more well off!
Jennifer, that is so true.
Also if someone doesn’t know themselves very well or has forgotten themselves (been working too hard, looking after everyone else..) go away for at least 3 days by yourself. Take some time out to chill – works wonders!
In Bali, Indonesia, I usually chill out up at Ubud. Then wander around the markets, eat great food (organic and stylish everywhere there), go to art galleries, go to restaurants, read, write, swim,
…. hmmmm could be time to go again!
That’s definitely a good tip, Cathy! Your 3day getaway sounds marvelous, I think it’s time for me to schedule my own