Yes some people can have a healthy relationship with no sex at all… but that is not the case here, sexless is a man who is looking for intimacy in the relationship, and she (for whatever reason; we will get to that later) does not. From what I can tell from the limited information given, this is not/will not be a healthy relationship if something is not done about it.

I would first talk to her about it. I don’t mean take her out to dinner, give her flowers, and wine then talk… no~ Don’t do that. Talk to her about it in a comfortable place (maybe your home, bedroom, living room… whatever). Be truthful, express yourself, your needs and how you see this as a problem. Then ask her about her “drive”; why is it so low, is there anything I’m doing/could be doing differently?

You’d be amazed at how many people I have known in this situation. In the end, after talking about it, for many reasons things have worked out. The couples sex lives picked up, and with a boom.

There can be many reasons for a low sexual drive. She may just not have experienced the tops of the top, she may be in to “different” things (ever thought about exploring your sexuality together?), and more. Now I’m not telling you to go out and get some silk rope, paddles, and a whip… 0.o …but there are many MANY books (both in store and online) many you can get for free about sexuality, sexual expression, passion in the bed, all that stuff. Maybe during the talk you have with her, you could talk about exploring together some time.

The bottom line is; you want to get her drive higher, but not push her there. Let her find her way to a higher drive, with your assistance. Find ways, talk about ways, and explore them.

Oh ya~ I may be an “unconventional” lover (D/s, ext…) But I would never tell anyone to seek out a “behind the scenes” lover. Cheating on your wife will not do any good for the relationship!

Im confused here, whats the issue, you were saying that your woman has high sex drive and that she might cheat, is that right?Or ar you contemplating to find an excuse to cheat.Man, either way you lose,

We man tend to have ego as big as the universe,look in the mirror and ask yourself this question, is it me or is it her?

Are you bored with her,marriage is like planting a seed to your favourite plant or taking care of your favourite pet, it needs nurturing and a real lot of work and of course love.

i dont mean to tell you what to do with your life man, cause whatever you decide will have implications good or bad.

The word value is overrated,till its loses its true value.If you still value and honor her work and build your marriage,nurture it most of all never give up on yourself and your love one. Love wins all

bobby, how did you upload a photo to your comments?

woman can keep her problems for years.. hahaha
so just figure out. If she still worried bout her problems than maybe it make her mood bad for ( u know what i mean )