Comments on: Sex for the first time

By: MK

MK — Fri, 17 Jun 2011 13:15:05 +0000

Hey Vanae i love your vids they are awesome and helpful…i am in high school…and i wanna ask this girl out…any tips? coz i am nervous that she could reject or embarrass Please help!

By: ultra love

ultra love — Fri, 21 May 2010 14:34:08 +0000

When your ready, you will know. Just be honest with each other about how you feel. The first time having sex is a very special moment!

By: aimar

aimar — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 18:14:49 +0000

hi vanae im 18 years old and im totaly confuse. so i dnt knw wat2 do, i had sex with one of my best friends and i knw that nothing can happen betwwen us but we still close each other so now i cant be with some body else because he was my first one what can i do?????

By: Vlad

Vlad — Sun, 09 Aug 2009 17:04:04 +0000

Vanae,
Thank you for the article, but I have more questions for you… about “emotional attachment”…
My story:
The girl I met is a virgin. I took her to bed, and she told me she has never done it before (though she is 30 and had 3 boyfriends in her life – I found it very strange)…. Anyway, I passionately kissed her, fondled her, orgasmed her, etc…
How painful is that? We have been trying for more than one week, but when I was trying “to do it”, it was so painful for her, so she always jumped away.. we have been trying almost every day… and we did not go further than oral sex…
Could this experience create “emotional attachment” ?? Or one requires penetrating sex for “emotional attachment” ???
Please give some comments, because I can not sleep and eat now… I am deeply in love with this girl… I wish she became “emotional attached” to me then we would get married and have kids

By: Mickey

Mickey — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 04:28:18 +0000

I’m pretty sure if you have to write to an advice website to know if you’re ready for sex or not, YOU ARE NOT READY.

By: BaldJSun

BaldJSun — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 05:21:28 +0000

good comments Saru,&good advice Vanae.in my opinion,the youth have that kind of capital,which called time.we still have time to correct our mistakes in the rest of our lifetime.of course,we have to think about it before we made any decision.but Just follow ur own feelings is my principle.maybe it will get hurts,but we could regard it as a kind of treasure.it teach us to grow up.after that,u will have a stronger mind…this kind of mind will help us to face any difficulties in the rest of our lifetime

By: Saru-chan

Saru-chan — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 01:52:30 +0000

You’re right. There are many who don’t wait, but they also don’t know what it is like to wait. Fortunately those kinds of situations work both ways.

Kind of like having a food for the first time. We’ll take chicken for example. There are many kinds of chicken, even more ways to cook said chicken, and even more different twists on those recipes not to mention the ability of the chefs that cook the chicken.

Now, if you only had one kind of chicken, cooked one way, with only one recepie, and the same chef, then you won’t get much of a different taste and won’t know what else is out there. You’ll want to try something new, but you’ll also come to trust the judgement of the chef that prepared the meal. It would be much harder to change because you have nothing else to compare the chicken, the chicken you know and love, to to see if it is better or worse.

Some will experiement to see if what they have is good enough or if they should higher their standard. Others are happy with what they have and don’t want a change. Others will also experiment only to find out that what they had was better than what else was available. If they had stuck with what they had, however, they would have only what they knew and could be happy with it for it was the first and only in their lives.

And, before anyone jumps the gun, I do like to argue, but in a friendly way. It helps me to understand more and further my knowledge of people and different topics. Also helps in these kinds of relation things that I tend to do.

And I never told anyone to sit on one side or the other, but instead to not do something that they would later regret. No person wants regrets, but if they do then more power to them.

And I can’t believe that I just related sex to chicken…

By: Vanae

Vanae — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 17:20:07 +0000

great point will!
=)
V

By: Vanae

Vanae — Sun, 01 Mar 2009 19:28:06 +0000

thanks for your thoughts saru-chan.

each person has their own pace and beliefs, whether they want to wait til marriage or not. it’s an individual decision that only that person knows for sure what they’re ready for.

i personally believe that couples should have sex before marriage, to explore & understand each others bodies and work their compatibility.

i know couples who waited until marriage only to find out that they are not in sync. it’s the hard-realization and to work much harder now that they’re hitched.

in regards of sex, people should make their own smart decisions on what is comfortable and be healthy (mind and spirit).

By: Will

Will — Sun, 01 Mar 2009 17:27:26 +0000

The trouble with people who say you should wait until you are married is their advice is never based on them having tried both ways (because you can’t).

Some people want to wait.

Most don’t.

No one should be told on which side they should sit.