Comments on: Overcome insecurities

By: megz

megz — Thu, 30 Apr 2009 02:15:22 +0000

Vanae,,,

I have sister in law, and its been a year since her ex boyfriend left her!and until now i know that she still not move on for her past relationship with that guy, maybe because they’ve been together for almost 6 yrs…and she gave everything to that guy!and the problem is that their neighboors..and the guy has a new girl now which she always saw this two everyday and make things more harder for her now…because she still feel something for this guy,,,im worried about my sister because i know that she feels she lost a big part of her…we already tried everything to lessen her insecurities with the new girl of this guy..she always tought that she did all for that guy even giving herself and nothing she left for herself…vanae, really i dont know anymore how to help her now?maybe because she doesnt want to help herself also?can you help me what advice should i gave her now?is it acceptable that my sister express her anger with the ex bf?which she never did when she find out about the third party?so her feelings for that guy will go…instead of love it will turn to you know???she’s still young so she can always find another, but the fact is that she doesnt think like us!and she still wants that guy back..could you help me with this situation because i really want to help her understand and move on..thanks in advance Vanae….and good Day!

By: hornet

hornet — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 18:34:23 +0000

vanae ur the best!

By: vanae

vanae — Tue, 02 Dec 2008 05:34:41 +0000

thanks for putting thought into this, Gus

By: Jodi

Jodi — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 19:53:45 +0000

Great advice this really helps me!

Ever since my fiance proposed to me with a gorgeous diamond engagement ring from http://www.idonowidont.com we both have been freaking out about fitting into our wedding attire, especially me in my wedding dress!

He’s been going to the gym more often than before but I tell him to just be comfortable with himself because that’s why I love him! Now I just need to tell myself the same thing!

By: vanae

vanae — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 17:05:14 +0000

Congrats!!!
send me photos of your new place.
would love to see it.

=)
vanae

By: vanae

vanae — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 17:04:29 +0000

that’s awesome!
i have yet to skydive!
Vanae

By: vanae

vanae — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 17:04:06 +0000

thanks fellow CALI peep!
Vanae

By: vanae

vanae — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 17:03:49 +0000

good point bobby!
Vanae

By: vanae

vanae — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 17:02:21 +0000

thanks JR!

By: vanae

vanae — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 17:01:29 +0000

hey dear,
when i was in middle school, i got picked on about random stuff and what i regret is not saying anything back to these people.

when they say mean things to you, you don’t have to get physical, just talk back so they know you’re not invisible. whether it’s ‘wow, do you mean to be an asshole all the time? etc.

sometimes, a release of your bottled hurt is good. just be sure, not to explode. ask that person a question so he/she can think about it. and if they aren’t mature enough, fuck ‘em.

your life is more valuable to spend time agonizing these things and people.

to be heal the hurt, i know it can be hard, but find a way to release it (exercise, respond to that person, think of your great qualities).

Vanae