People often assume that experts have all the answers in their field. In fact, no one does. As humans, we all need help…we all have questions.
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I recently read this great story from DailyGood…let me know what you think:
“One evening I was parked in front of the mall wiping off my car. I had just come from the car wash and was waiting for my wife to get out of work. Coming my way from across the parking lot was, what society would consider, a bum. From the looks of him, he had no car, no home, no clean clothes, and no money…
“I hope he doesn’t ask me for money,” I thought. He didn’t. He came and sat on the curb in front of the bus stop and he didn’t look like he could have enough money to even ride the bus. After a few minutes he spoke. “That’s a very nice car,” he said. He was ragged but had an air of dignity around him.
I said, “Thanks,” and continued wiping off my car.
He sat there quietly as I worked…
“Do you need any help?” I asked. He answered in three simple but profound words that I shall never forget. We often look for wisdom in great men and women. We expect it from those of higher learning and accomplishments. I expected nothing but an outstretched grimy hand. He spoke three words that shook me.
“Don’t we all?” he said.
I needed help. Maybe not for bus fare or a place to sleep, but I needed help. I reached in my wallet and gave him not only enough for bus fare but enough to get a warm meal and shelter for the day. Those three little words still ring true. No matter how much you have, no matter how much you have accomplished, you need help too. No matter how little you have, no matter how loaded you are with problems, even without money or a place to sleep, you can give help. Even if it’s just a compliment, you can give that.
You never know when you may see someone that appears to have it all. They are waiting on you to give them what they don’t have. A different perspective on life, a glimpse at something beautiful, a respite from daily chaos, that only you through a torn world can see. — Cal“
I enjoyed the article/story. I find that if everyone in our world just gave each other a helping hand without expecting something back in return, our world would be less chaeotic. I as a person admits that I need to help people more, volenteer on things and just give myself to a stranger. Like a piece of my soul to even help them. Because its just the fact that your making a difference in this world, not to make your self look good but rather to make some one’s life better.
high five Tana!
Def. enjoyed reading this article.
“You never know when you may see someone that appears to have it all. They are waiting on you to give them what they don’t have. ”
So true.. I don’t think anyone ever has everything. There’s always something missing, and you can never be perfect.
I always try to extend a hand to anyone who needs it, no matter what shape I’m in myself. If everyone did the same I think we would have a much better world.
exactly, this makes us human and connect as a human race.
First of all, I would like to commend the writer of that story. He actually talked with, listened to; even acknowledge a profound statement from such a “ragged” person most would avoid, get offended by; no less even talk to.
It’s true; we ALL need help in some form or another. Just look up the definition of a psychopath, sit back, listen, and observe; you’d be shocked at how many people you know would fit that definition.
On that note, I would like to say that NOBODY and I mean NOBODY is perfect. EVERYONE does dirt, and has skeletons in their closets.(Some still have the stench of rotting flesh seeping from underneath their door).
I had a friend,I repeat, had a friend who ticked
me off because he was bagging on people who were homeless, incarcerated, etc. Get real, the only difference between the homeless and most of us today, especially in this economy, is a paycheck, and the incarcerated, well, they just got caught! People don’t realize how just one misfortunate event can ruin someone’s life forever. They could easily be in the situation as someone they have judged, ridiculed, snubbed, or screwed over.
really touching words ( don’t we all ? ) good article
Excellent point and so true. I have had numerous encounters with homeless people. It still amazes me how some will look at a homeless person as though they’re just a rummaging dog, or a drug/alcoholic just looking for more of the same. I have news for these people-homeless people are PEOPLE and believe it or not, actually get hungry!
and it could be that people are hungry for human connection
Excellent point Vanae! Maybe many of us that are not homeless are hungry for human attention too. Like I said, the homeless are people still.
Vanae.
What did you mean by that comment, to Bobby’s comment, to my comment?
I get that some people do need to get a job and all that… But sometimes people such as the homeless alcoholics just have lived and had problems in their life. Society always looks at these people like they are bums or losers, but the reason that their drinking or doing drugs could be from their past. If we show them we care, it could help them have some hope… plus we are our own worst critic, mabye subconsiously they dont believe that they could end up with a job or success, so they settle
Hay Vanae? If I email you do you respond to those messages? Oh and you really talk to your v stars on the phone?!
I try to respond to as many emails as possible and I do call people back. but the best way to get in contact with me is being an active V’star on this site or my V’star facebook page.
When I was a a really low point in my life, I took the decision not to fall in apathy but to help others and volunteered to work in a youth centre helping young people to hold on to their dreams and to find joy in life. Just as much joy as they found came back to me… So everything stated in this story is true and you get so much back when you are heloing others!
Wow, it just goes to show that even if someone had it all, they would still try to find that one missing peice…or something along those lines…not so good on the play on words…:P