This fun interview was with Raymond Lam, at AA Rising (a great website that highlights Asian Americans in the entertainment space. Here, I share more personal stuff like…why I became a life & dating coach….music I listen to…kissing on the first date..read below. For the rest of the interview, visit AA Rising.

Why did you become a life and dating coach?
Honestly because I want others to love themselves before loving others and reach inner fulfillment. Growing up I saw what low self-esteem and confidence did to people so I wanted to empower people for good change. Ultimately, so our children and generations after will be healthier and balanced.

What kind of responses did you receive from the advice you gave to your audience?
People are positively responding to my advice and I’m fortunate to receive emails regularly telling me know how my advice has changed or bettered their life. That’s when I know this is my true calling. It’s also pretty sweet when dating sites, TV networks and websites reach out to you as a dating expert. I feel very fortunate.

Do you live by the advice you give or do you find yourself in situations were you may contradict your own advice?
I try to be as aware of myself and my intentions. My advice is reflective of my own experience, my studies and being the go-to person for most of my life. This is not to say dating coaches don’t make mistakes. As human beings we all do and when we do, we learn and evolve. Each person is a walking experiment in this world and I’m definitely one of them.

Best pho joint in California? What kind of pho do you order?
This is a tough one since there’s so many good ones in San Jose, CA. I’d say Pho Ly in San Jose and Pho Vi Hoa in Palo Alto are my favorites. I always order PHO DAC BIET (the special) and yes, I can read and write Vietnamese.

Can you describe to me what “nerding out about social media” is?
I can talk about social media and video marketing all day! It’s so much fun, this powerful impact of new and social media and how to engage an audience to build a brand. So nerding out on social media, is fully engaging with your audience through these mediums and getting excited talking about it! Kinda like nerding out on Star Wars except, there’s no Chewbacca figurines to collect.

What kind of music makes you want to dance? What artist makes you want to get freaky and what new musical artist would you recommend?
I love electro music. Not only does it make me dance but it wakes up my day and makes it more fun! Daft Punk, Simian Mobile Disco, Hot chip, Cut Copy, CSS, Junior Boys, Yeah Yeah Yeahs and so much more. I also like T-pain and Sean Paul (my friends would think that’s completely random).Music that makes me freaky is typically certain songs but I find ‘dub-step’ and minimal electro is good sexy music.

New musical band:
There’s this local SF band that I’m really into. THE GEOGRAPHERS. They make really good music!

Why do some men cheat? Do you believe in second chances?
Men aren’t the only ones who cheat, women do too, but I think the reason why men cheat is because either their relationship is not fulfilling or he’s not ready to be fully committed. Yes, I do believe in giving second chances because humans make big mistakes. The hurdle actually is gaining the trust back…that’s a toughie.

For the rest of the interview, visit AA Rising.