Comments on: How to love yourself

By: Donald L. Murphy

Donald L. Murphy — Mon, 19 Jul 2010 02:50:24 +0000

I love myself and my sense of humor. I think I am more beautiful in a creative way. !

By: Vanae

Vanae — Wed, 21 Apr 2010 01:24:58 +0000

hey andrew,
so happy to hear about your journey of loving yourself and finding happiness!

good luck with vancouver film school! i hear it’s great!

Vanae

By: Andrew

Andrew — Tue, 20 Apr 2010 08:01:56 +0000

Yo Vanae! Just wanted to say that your videos have really helped me through 2009, and its really weird that you just put up a video on “How to love yourself”. I say this because in my last relationship, she said “Andrew, I dont think you love me.” I knew I did, I mean after 2 years it had to be love right? But, heres the catch, I remember her telling me that “In order to love someone else, you must love yourself”. That day she said I didnt love her, I said many weak things, “I dont think I deserve you, Im not good enough, etc.” I even asked her, “Well how am I supposed to love myself?” she told me I had to find that out on my own. We’ve not been together for a while now, since last christmas, and it gave me a chance to really focus on me. What I want to do with my life, how I can learn to love myself. To answer your question, I love myself by my music. Being single for a while now has taught me that we have too much in our lives to mope around about a lost love. I took it as a learning experience, and as a building block to a castle. Ive matured from it, got a part time job, applied to Vancouver Film School, and really focusing on my happiness. I know I love myself now, its a matter of time until I can enter that castle.

My names Andrew Lumapas, Im 19, Im a musician. My dream is to become a successful video game composer.

And I hate to admit, your videos = my guilty pleasure. haha

Cheers V,

Andrew

By: Simon

Simon — Sat, 16 Jan 2010 22:36:41 +0000

sorry
line 3 word 6 means acception

By: Simon

Simon — Sat, 16 Jan 2010 20:40:26 +0000

hey,
i have a problem.
how can you love yourself, when nobody does it?
i mean,i have no cceptions, how can i love myself when i know that i have nothing?

i’m sorry for my bad english and hope for understanding because i’m from germany

By: Brian

Brian — Sat, 09 Jan 2010 07:06:10 +0000

That’s right Vanae. And i am a person who are learning myself and it’s getting better, but i got a question. If I accidentally love someone and put my 100% energy into her what should I do to stop that? Well i dont have this problem now and I am trying my best not to get into this situation either, but that was what happened to me few years ago and that was really a rough time.

So my question is how to love myself even if i am into a relationship?

By: Vanae

Vanae — Wed, 06 Jan 2010 17:03:18 +0000

BTW- thanks ben, for sharing and reaching out a hand to another v’star. you straight rock for that!

By: Vanae

Vanae — Wed, 06 Jan 2010 17:02:37 +0000

hey Ash,
ben shared some really great thoughts and questions on approaching ‘how to love yourself’.

first, it’s an understanding of ‘why you feel that way’ and ‘what can i do to feel better’.

then it’s action, whether to shift your mindset to appreciate yourself more and do things to make you more happy. some activities, ben mentioned above.

a v’star recently shared this quote “Know that it’s? your decisions, and not your conditions, that determine your destiny”

-Anthony Robbins

email me if you’d like to chat more, dear
Vanae

By: Tana

Tana — Wed, 06 Jan 2010 06:32:19 +0000

For me honestly, I am always trying to improve myself and work on my inner self… but the whole confidence thing has gotten me almost all my life… When I was really small, I was always outspoken but it changed when I started going to school…. I never got pre school so when I entered kindergarden I was a slower learner. Anyways… basically the teachers always organized these meetings with my parents acting like I would never amount to anything… I have nothing against hairdressers but they were pretty much saying I could be a hair dresser just because it is one of the easier job and only requires a grade 10. Also things like them saying I didn’t know what up and down was, which i did, and them pressuring my parents to put me into special classes that would get me really no where, it was really just really harassment… It kinda effected me all my life thinking I was never good enough but I just feel like I have been living with this belief for so long, it just doesn’t want to go away. I have so many dreams in life and so many things I want to do… But the confidence thing is what holds me back because then I seem quiet but really I am not, just not confident with myself.

By: Ben

Ben — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 23:18:39 +0000

Hi Ashley,

There are times in life when everything seems to be going against you.

You say you never really have a good day. What stops you having a good day? Is it other people’s behaviour or attitude toward you? What would be a good day for you?

If other people are mean or nasty or ignore you – that says a lot more about them than it says about you. But YOU know that you are a good and decent person who deserves care, attention, love and affection, and the right to be happy and enjoy your life.

If other people are nasty toward you or try to hurt you – YOU do not have to put up with it. You have the right to ignore what they say and the right to protect yourself. You deserve respect – therefore give yourself that respect. Recognise your feelings. Say out loud to others what bothers you, what you find unreasonable in their attitude or behaviour. Don’t put up with disrespect from others.

The people around you – or your “friends” – can appear to be selfish, uncaring, unreasonable at times. But people are people – with all mixtures of bad and good qualities. That is how they are. But these are not the only people you can be friends with. There are other people out there who can offer respect, kindness, and understanding. Try to talk and meet with people outside your normal circle of friends.

Think of an activity that you like doing, that you might enjoy (maybe with or without other people – going to the movies, kicking a ball in the park, hiking in the countryside, cooking and eating your favourite food, going to the music store). Take time out to do this activity regularly – let your mind and body relax and allow yourself to forget about life’s problems for a while.

Start loving yourself by giving yourself that respect, that care, that understanding that you deserve.
There is plenty of good advice on this site.

regards

Ben