You’ve got that hot female on your mind. Or the classmate you’ve been eyeing for some time. Or what about the woman you met online. Grab your mojo! Here’s a simple guide to ask your crush out!..because how are you going to be in a good relationship, if you haven’t gone out on a date yet?!
Let’s change that baby! Even if you’re shy, you can get over it by reading this first!
1. Build connection
Let him/her get to know your great personality so he/she can be drawn to you. You’ll increase your chances once you have a connection.
2. Remember what she/he likes
Did she mention her favorite food? Or an activity he hasn’t tried? Or music that they like? Be intuitive so you have date suggestions that he/she will be into.
3. Confidence
Know your strong qualities and know that you’re a good catch.
4. Your approach
Depending where you met her/him…at school? at work? at the local starbucks? or online?..
Classmate- talk in person
Met online- call or email
At her workplace- talk in person
5. Ice breaker then the question
Follow-up on a point of your previous conversation or give her a compliment. Then mention, something along the lines of, ‘Remember we talked about _______. Let’s go to _____________ next week. What do you think about ___(suggest a day).’ This shows that you are assertive and you’re giving a suggestion, not a question.
6. Confirm the date
Call or email that person the day before to confirm pickup or meet-up location.
7. Remember!
Not every person is going to be your match, so don’t take it personal if she/he is not up for the date. There’s tons of great people out there for you. And if that person is a flake, then don’t overthink it. You want to invest your time in people who are mature and will appreciate you and your time!
LET ME KNOW HOW IT GOES!
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Hi Vanae,
As much as I know your advice is sound, gents like me just can’t or won’t make the first move (other than maybe a smile) lol
Lack of confidence? Probably. Fear of rejection? Probably. There may be a whole host of reasons. I do think there are answers to making dating easier and am in the process of writing a piece on it. Stay tuned
Hi Vanae,
You are HOT! I’m a big time fan of yours. Why? You fill a niche that everyone else aims for via books, articles…but I believe you are hitting the bulls eye with great advice. There are so many misleading and poorly thought out attempts at these subjects, but yours aren’t included in that category. Oh yea, Did I mention you are so HOT? ) You go-go girl!!!
By the way, I’m a beliver in fund raising for a good cause. I’m an engineer and with some of my associates, built a kick-ass pumpkin chucker and we get our workmates to pledge $ /foot based on the best of 3 shots of a 6 lb pumpkin. We do this just after Halloween each year. We raised $1500 this year for charity. We compete and we are now the 5th consecutive year champs in our competition in Ohio.
Just curious, how much time did it take you to run 16 miles? If you’re really looking to be competitive, you may want to try running up a few flights of stairs … it can help improve your endurance & shave off some substantial time.
1:19…subliminal message lol?
This is SOOOO CUTE!!! Doing your part to give back to the community
Love works in mysterious ways…
Hi Vanae,
As much as I know your advice is sound, gents like me just can’t or won’t make the first move (other than maybe a smile) lol
Lack of confidence? Probably. Fear of rejection? Probably. There may be a whole host of reasons. I do think there are answers to making dating easier and am in the process of writing a piece on it. Stay tuned
Cheers!
Hi Vanae,
) You go-go girl!!!
You are HOT! I’m a big time fan of yours. Why? You fill a niche that everyone else aims for via books, articles…but I believe you are hitting the bulls eye with great advice. There are so many misleading and poorly thought out attempts at these subjects, but yours aren’t included in that category. Oh yea, Did I mention you are so HOT?
By the way, I’m a beliver in fund raising for a good cause. I’m an engineer and with some of my associates, built a kick-ass pumpkin chucker and we get our workmates to pledge $ /foot based on the best of 3 shots of a 6 lb pumpkin. We do this just after Halloween each year. We raised $1500 this year for charity. We compete and we are now the 5th consecutive year champs in our competition in Ohio.
You are awesome…a role model for women!
Richard
“A role model for women” . . . hell, Vanae is a role model for EVERYONE.
Rock on girl.
Just curious, how much time did it take you to run 16 miles? If you’re really looking to be competitive, you may want to try running up a few flights of stairs … it can help improve your endurance & shave off some substantial time.
your post remind me the movie “Lonley Guy”. it was valuable to watch and more funny
I hear what ur saying but i think im way to nervous/shy to go thru with it
Awesome article, vanae!!!
I just needed this!
i just write them a note and ask them out