Your answer is especially helpful, Vanae, because it prompts us to step back and ask why the situation seems difficult, why it matters that she’s not calling back, and finally why she’s important int he first place. Maybe she’s hot, maybe the chemistry in even a first meeting seemed dizzying, or maybe there was some other click. For me, a big part of putting the response of an individual woman — any individual woman — in perspective is to remember that she’s not the only one out there for me. That’s not to minimize her specific hotness, chemistry, etc. But it’s to appreciate the abundance of different, amazing possible connections out there. Yea, I know that bumps up against a certain romantic idea of finding “the one.” A revelation for me, though, came from stepping back from a fixation on one woman to appreciate the how many ones were possibly out there for me. That’s another, very cool romantic idea.

Hi V!

Wow, that was just what i needed to hear. Thank you.

What I usually do in this situation is leave a message, text, or email saying “So you’re playing hard to get… I see how it is. You know, I really dislike flaky people. I am a very busy person and I have things to do. So if you do decide to give me a call back, I’ll see if and when I can fit you in to my schedule.” Most of the time it works, sometimes it doesn’t. If it doesn’t I brush it off, and I realize there are other people out there.

“It’d be easier if people would be straight up and tell you if they’re not interested instead of leaving you hanging.” -
I think this is the meat that’s missing from the plate.
I was recently put through the “Dating hoops” because my female friend believed that I should be dating. After a couple of awkward get-togethers between myself and the lady in question, we both agreed that we are friends. The important part is that we were honest. -
The meat on the plate Your advice is right on Vanae!

I agree that the match may not have been good from the get go, but I feel that this approach shows confidence. If you think about it good looking women are constantly being hit on by men. I think you’ll agree with me on at least that much. Therefore, I believe there has to be something that sets you apart from the rest. One of the ways to set yourself apart is confidence. All I’m saying is that from a glance women see me as average. In other words I’m just another one of those guys that asks for your number. Then when I leave the girl the message, she begins to think that maybe there’s something more to this guy. It basically gives me another chance and allows me to rely on something other than my looks. If the girl doesn’t call me back then she just wasn’t attracted to me, plain and simple, and I believe that there has to be attraction for any relationship to function properly.

Something very similar happened to me recently, i tried calling and txting this girl I started to like (we work together)she didn’t reply or call back. I can live with that but what bugged me is that she tried to act like nothing happened straight after when I saw her next, plus she told me a couple of weeks before that she liked me (we always playfully flirted with each other), in two different situations, I didn’t know if she was joking and was kinda stunned, my feelings for her obviously grew from there. But I kinda came to the realisation that she was just playing with my head, thus helping me move on, which I have thankfully.

Hey V

Hey! vanea well i gota question to ask you. say theres a girl and you work with her how would you be able to ask her out without causing any problems or awkwardness…

i just started talking to this girl about a month ago. from the beginning she loved me. everything about my conversation my looks my lips we even kissed and had a great time 1 night. but now throughout the days she really dont call and text no more like she used too. am i being too nice or am i shortly bt slowly running her away. also do i start getting mad or press the issue or does that make it worse…