As I’m packing my compact suitcase with bright outfits and of course, my necessary technology for LA way early in the morning, I thought about how we have to have the right things to feel comfortable. (because my mind works on tangents and mental threads) I, then, started thinking about comfortability & adjustment with new someones. Something that isn’t brought up very often. You know what I’m talking about…the first nights of sharing your space with someone, but sometimes end in restless nights of tossing and turning. I begin to wonder (very Carrie Bradshaw)…What makes us feel comfortable? Is it the ability to let go? Adjustment with time? Compatibility? Music? Caress?
V’stars, how long does it take you for you to get used to sleeping next to someone new? and what’s your way of getting comfortable?
I’d say for me, it takes me a while to get adjusted to someone new, perhaps 3-4 times for me to get fully comfortable and drift into deep sleep. What about you, V’stars?
PS- Stay tuned! Will be doing collab vids and interviewing very cool peeps for the Vanae.com show this week!
I’m a dude, I just close my eyes and sleep. I could fall asleep next to anyone and be comfortable.
lucky.
I generally have an easy time sleeping next to someone new. Except sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night screaming like a dying camel with indigestion- scaring the living bejeebuses out of the girl I am sleeping next to.
ahaha like a dying banshe is more like it.
Vanae probably this question should be addressed to women more than men.
Most men will probably say the same.
Okay I feel stupid now…
you shouldn’t feel stupid. i think it differs from person to person, but my gut is telling me that men are heavier sleepers.
Call me old-fashioned, but I either feel comfortable with someone right away or, if I don’t, I’m not going to last with her.
do you think you can get comfortable with time? because eventho my last bf and i were super compatible and comfortable, it still took me 2-3 times to get adjusted.
I suppose it’s definitely possible. Just hasn’t been my experience. Of course, maybe I’m limiting myself because I’m so attuned to whether it feels comfortable and right that first time.
i think its about the trust. Anyway i’ve never been scared to sleep next to girl even if its a first time.
PS: I cant wait to see new videos !
Ha! I love Carrie! I’m probably the only guy who does to….ah well. I Love Sex in the City and I’M PROUD! Lol! Anyway, it actually takes me a little while to get used to sleeping next to a girl…Or well, I guess there are kinda 2 kinds of sleep for me. One is the sleep I need (around 4am or so, this type usually gets me unless there’s something to preoccupy me) or the sleep I want. That is the kind I think you’re talking about, the deep, comfortable sleep. And for me that takes maybe about 5 or so times to get to that stage. I also have to respect and trust the girl, otherwise it will never get to that 5th time.
PS- Have you heard? A Sex in the City 2 movie is in the works!!!!! And yes, in case you’re wondering, I’m the gayest straight guy you will probably ever meet.
hey victor,
yeah! i’ve been hearing about the sequel. i’ve seen every freakin’ episode of Sex and the City. and it was great to see the changes in the characters and fashion through the years.
Hi Vanae,
It’s funny, I was just thinking about the same thing, I recently met a new girlfriend and it’s a bit difficult to really fall into a deep sleep next to her. I think one problem is her size. I’m about 5’11 and she’s about 4’8. I worry about rolling over and squishing her, haha. I move around a lot when I sleep and I guess I have trouble letting go of the possibility I might push her off the bed or hurt her, etc.
hey juan,
i’ll let you in on a secret…human can’t be crushed in bed. it’s just like how babies can sleep in the same bed as moms, and it’s super seldom that the baby would ever get crushed.
our bodies would know. plus, you should cuddle and hold her when you sleep so you’ll know where she is.
let go and have your ZZzzzZz
if I’m interested in someone and I like him , I can sleep right away , but if I don’t like , I can’t close my eyes ( it’s just like that )
I’m a very light sleeper so it takes me forever to get used to sleeping with someone. After many sleepless nights my body finally stops caring and lets go completely, which scares me even more because apparently I talk during my sleep (looong conversations)…and yeah, that’s embarrassing!
i bet the guys find it more amusing than embarrassing. so don’t worry. i’ve had those who snored, laughed, talked and scream-mid-nightmare and it wasn’t embarrassing. we both laughed about it together.
Its a little strange at first but it gets better as time goes by. There is nothing better than pillow talk with someone you are comfortable with. In a ten year period I will spend 3 solid three years in bed. So with me its like maybe after 4 or 5 times then I am fairly comfortable and am over the self concious trip and am relaxed. Getting into bed on a cold night and cuddling is the bomb. In the meantime its all about my dog…the new website is nice. Where is that section where you can go to all the latest comments on different things like in the previous website? I liked that part.
hey martin,
which section are you referring to?
the ‘most popular posts’?
or ‘most commenting’?
Well the first 3-4 times, neither of us are doing much sleeping! But after that, it takes me a few more sleepovers to get fully comfortable.
Always sleep with one eye open.
In my experience…only if she has a tattoo of a dagger on her back.
Especially if she has a dagger tattoo!!!
Agreed.
Who will be sleeping next to you in the video, Vanae?
;- )
What makes us feel comfortable? No expectation.
How long does it take? Depends how clingy they are, but then again I usually end up with all the sheets. I guess I’ve been side lined a little too long to have bedroom etiquette.
Do you have trouble dating V, because you really can define a relationship. Pretty cute though. Maybe I’m going to cruise out and see you tomorrow.
you mentioned clingy..as in physically clingy or emotionally clingy?
i have an active dating life and loving it!
see yah at scoops.
Hey V, well I’ve never actually slept overnight with a girl but it maybe happening in the not too distant future. is there anything that i should abstain from/make sure i do. i.e. make sure you don’t push her off the bed or something haa!