Two games ago about super powers, I told you that I would choose the ability to change one thing for each person.
So if you had the opportunity, what would be THE ONE thing you would change in your life?
Mine would be:
My younger brother would be alive with me today.
V’stars, what would you change?
I would change my childhood, and my teen years, make them the good time they should have been. And I would have never been so angry with the world for so many years.
hey v’star mark,
yeah, it’s interesting how we don’t realize the impact of our childhood and teen years until we’re adults.
the wonderful thing is, it’s not too late to realize your anger and change that (if you haven’t already). you have the power. thanks for sharing.
Vanae
Hey there Vanae and V-Stars. My absence from this forum has been bit of a long one. I have been handling all the afairs with my fathers passing…
My dad was involved in a fatal motorcycle accident in October and that alone has consumed every ounce of my free time. Its good to be back! I feel like ive missed quite a bit.
So what would I change in my life?
I’d have my father with me.
hello v’star locus,
sorry that you had to go through such a tough time.
my thoughts are with you and sending you warm vibes during this time. i understand the roller coaster you’re going thru with such a close lost.
i’m glad you’re with us again and we’re here for you.
let me know if you ever want to chat.
hugs,
vanae
hey Locus,
I’m sorry about what happened to your dad. I’ve never had to go through that so I can only imagine. I hope you’re able to feel better soon. take care.
as much as i would want to change something i doubt i could… i know people say this all the time but i really mean it when i say, if i change one thing about my life i wouldn’t be the same person i am today.
the good the bad and the ugly[movie reference yay!] it has all made me to what i am today, and i know what i would really want to change, but i know for a fact i wouldn’t be the same by a long shot. my life would be different and i’m sure ALLOT BETTER!but thats not a trad-off i really want…if i could change something current without effecting who i was/am then i dfinitly would want to be able to do something as simple as drive, i know how basic huh…
i got terrible eye sight and its pretty bad and i manage everything, just have some embarrassing moments when i have to read signs and stuff that are too far away.. but i can’t driv andthat really really really makes things allot of other stuff really complicated
oppportunites really become stunted when you are stuck @ a certain mile radius, ya nkow…
bleh
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accepting what has happened into your life, is a noble choice as well. as they say ‘life happens’. if it wasn’t for all that happened in my past, i wouldn’t be who i am today.
so i totally respect your answer v’star jairo!
vanae
exactly, life happens and sometimes it can’t be helped, be it good or bad it just can’t be help. so why worry about somethings you have no control over.
if you can help someone, help someone, if you can help yourself help yourself, don’t play the “i can’t” card. but if its completely something out of your hands, then its best to not stress over it, it won’t change anything but make things worse if you do…
its like Capsizing in a river, once the tide gets you, its best just to hold your breath secure any vital areas and just let it take you down. it will push you back above the water shortly, if you panic and fight it you’ll just wind up under your raft unable to breath
having more time to think about it, i can honestly say i would want everyone i have ever met to have at least 200% more happiness in there lifetime then the average person
@Locus
good luck with everything, be strong and go through it one day at a time.as long as you keep your dad’s memory in your heart he’s never really gone.
I would go back and change last week.
hey camellia,
what would you change it to?
It was a really rough week. I got into a major argument with a friend of mines, which is totally weird for me, since I not a very confrontational person at all but needless to say it got very ugly. I wish it hadn’t happened.
Hi V’Stars!
And Vanae; you’re so dep!
Heinz sight has both tortured and taught me so much about life and relationship. If I was given a gift to change ONE THING in my life, I would honestly want to reverse all the sadness and heartache that I’ve caused in some people’s lives in my past… My youth, ignorance, and blindness caused so much pain for some and I was too arrogant to see what I’d done and chose not to change. By then, it was too late. But, I strongly believe that people CAN change because I am one them. Remembering when I was young, in love, and carefree, I broke so many hearts because I didn’t have the maturity to sustain a lasting relationship. And honestly, I really believe that I lost someone very special because of that. I actually tried to track down these people so I can offer some sort of an apology or something something of that nature. In truth, I don’t think my words would ever suffice vs. taking action in a physical sense. Damn, but it’s too little/too late. I took away so much and gave back so little. Now I am tormented and my conscience is literally swallowing me into an abyss. I feel all alone.
hey v’star quincy,
the fact that you chose such an admirable thing and acknowledge the pain you’ve caused people…THAT in itself is a powerful thing. and very mature/aware of you!
i truly don’t think it’s ever TOO LITTLE OR TOO LATE. i’ve forgiven people YEARS afterwards and no matter how long, they always appreciated it.
so whether it’s forgiving or apologizing with sincerity, it could be what the other person has been wanting, in order for more peace.
i say, go for it and connect.
not all of them are ready for it, but DO KNOW that you are a big and compassionate person for recognizing & apologizing. THAT is change in ITSELF.
Vanae
Quincy Buddy, you took the words right out of my mouth!!!
I know exactly how you feel but there is no need to despair. Everyone eventually gets a chance to redeem themselves and make amends for the wrong things they did in their past.
The important thing now is that you have a good conscience that enables you to reflect back so that you can make the necessary changes to make you a better person in the future.
Remember, we all make mistakes, now and in the future.
The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one.
- Elbert Hubbard (1856-1915), The Note Book
v’star cesar,
i simply LOVE the quote you shared at the end
“The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one.”
- Elbert Hubbard (1856-1915), The Note Book
LOVE IT!
Vanae
Hey Vanae,
I’m glad you liked it Vanae.
Here is another favorite of mine.
“Love isn’t finding a perfect person. It’s seeing an imperfect person perfectly.” Sam Keen
Things are not perfect. I don’t get to see my jailed up bro all the time. I don’t get to take back the rape I went through. I don’t get to take back the gun in my face from the day I got robbed. I don’t get to take back the moments I was made fun of in high school from being called a spic to being razzed for being a “loser”. I don’t get to take back the times I had my heart broken or the times I broke hearts.
I don’t care.
I would not change a DAMN thing. Everything I lost and all the things I’m not are what made me who I am. The struggles, the battles, the breakdowns, crying alone.
It’s mine.
It’s the reason I can find happiness today.
Yo. I still wanna put a pic up. How do I do that?
if i could change 1 thing in my life it would be to make my mum well because she has serious mental health
I would change the way I have treated those who are dear and close to me. You never kno whats going to happens so we should all make sure we tell those we care for just how much because you just might not get another chance.
unfortunately most people won’t learn that until its too late, then again its never too late to make up for something as long as you are doing it with the right intentions, so if you missed your opportunity to reconnect with someone, make up for it the second time around by not letting it happen with someone else you care about.
we all need to be a little more civil with each other, the last conversation we have with one another is the last memery and impression we have of the person, family being the only exception because we tend to forgive each other unconditionally