I currently have a crush. Yes, I’m past my mid 20′s and I actually have a crush on someone. The term ‘crush’ never gets old. In fact, it’s cuter as we get older.
Vanae’s definition of crush: someone you are really fond of, whether you’ve acted upon it or going to.
When, why and who was your last crush? Could be someone you’re dating. Could be your husband. Could be someone you’ve never spoken to.
I’ll start with mine:
*Recently in the last couple of months
*Because he’s charismatic, intelligent, sexy and has a deep voice that can melt anything
*Mr.
Update: Ha, you guys are so cute! Encouraging me to go for it! I’m in the process, but definitely taking my time for depth and quality 
TAG! Your turn!
First I just want to say I’m so glad I stumbled across the awsomeness that is Vanae! I love your site and your videos and your advice is wonderfull and really works!
Thank you so much for what you do and just plain being AWSOME!
My last crush was a girl I wound up in a four and a half year relationship with. She was just wonderfull and we became great friends and it kind of went from there. We broke up a little while back and it hit me pretty hard. Your site and advice has helped me get over things and come out of my shell and meet other people.
Again, thank you Vanae, You ROCK!
Peace
John
hey john, welcome to the V’star community. so glad you found us and thanks for sharing your story!
we’re here for yah!
=)
Vanae
-Last few months
-Because she makes me laugh until it hurts, she’s selfless, never gives up, and is beautiful.
-Rachel
aww that’s sweet
V
I’d also like to say that this website is great!
I have a crush now, with a girl I don’t have any classes with nor know her last name.
Kinda Sucks, but I’ll have to talk to her somehow.
thanks andrew. yes, GO FOR IT! walk up to her and ask her something school-related or ask her opinion on a local restaurant.
let us know how it goes.
V
I’d love to think that this topic was inspired by my Heartness video in which I named Vanae12 as one of my crushes on YouTube.
In any event, I had a severe crush on an old childhood friend whom I saw again after many years. We just clicked and I actually thought she was the one. But when I learned the feelings weren’t mutual, that ended that story very quickly.
Still, I managed to let it go and am just careful about crushes from now on.
hey R,
it was partly inspired from your video, though i don’t have a youtube crush. but i thought this would be fun to play with you guys.
it’s good that you let go, just be sure not to completely shut out your heart.
=)
No crush very recently, but the last was a friend. I’m told from friends that she is my type…hahaha I have a type I guess.
ha. this reminds me of when i go shopping and i see a dress or outfit and think, “oh, this is sooo Dana or _____” friends can basically package/summarize our likings and personality because they’re outside looking in.
I’m new to this site, but some of the info on here seems like it might help if i use it,
i have a couple of crushes, though i know they won’t work out, both girls tell me that they only see me as a brother like figure, got any tips on how to change that?
Last crush was three years ago. She had huge beautiful eyes. She liked almost exactly the same music and tv shows I did. She would say sweet things to me. Went to a concert together and we were being cute with each other. We didn’t know that the other actually like the other. I ended up moving away. Last summer I was going to fly out to surprise her and take her out on a date. A week before I boarded the plane she fell in love with someone and they’re currently still madly in love with each other.
Ah well. I can’t wait till I have a crush again
it’s great that you’re hopeful! trust me, a new crush will come along soon.
wow, i just felt like a ‘fortune cookie’ for a sec there.
V
every day… loads of times! too many different people!
* Been having a crush on her for about a year now and been next to me for about 3 to 4 months.
* Features I like are her hair and her smile is so
bright it can open up anyone’s eyes.
* I love waking up to you in the morning, Love.
* Can’t wait to walk down the aisle with you, but I would love it more if you would just pick a date already.
* Fatima
CUTE!
thanks for sharing Dex!
V
*Met her last year in early december!
*Because she can light up a room with her sunrise eyes and smile. Because she makes you want to live up to all you can be. Because of her subtle dorkiness which only makes you adore her more.
*my tough omelet.
aww that’s cute. thanks for sharing tom!
Hmmm my crush is badass, she’s all of 5’7 blonde and blue eyes, the thing is she’s movin back to fl. her and her sister and sister’s husband are drivin. she asked me to come n’ i told her i’d thing about it. i bought my ticket last week to come back from fl. she doesn’t know but her sister and brother in law know. i figure that actions speak louder than words… matter of fact one nyte we was hangin out with some friends, she had to much to drink, and some guys tried to give her a drink, so i took it from them and drank it right in front of’em, it was lace cuz i got messed up. but yeah, what wouldn’t i do for her.
Echs:
Be carefull bro, its not safe to take a situation as that so lightly… I got rigged once, holy hell that shyt is potent as fuck! I swear I slept like almost 18 hours, thank a higher power for my amazing friends being there for me…
Hope your okay.
take care.
-nearly a year and half ago, @ a 3 day rave
-She and I connected in alot of ways
-We ended up together; now no longer
****BUT****
The most super friggin amazing thing just happened. My best friend called me a little while ago and informed me that a former crush of mine hit him up on myspace and gave him her number to pass onto me.!. SCORE!!!
Date is all set for Friday!!
hells yeah! let us know how it goes Locus!
Let’s see I used to have a crush with this friend that I knew 2 or 3 years ago. I remember every time I saw her it was like time just slowed down at that moment when I see her. The feelings kept coming back for a couple days and then disappear. Unfortunately never really got to the point when I thought it would gone farther. But anyways I’m pretty excited about tomorrow because I have a Christmas party for my company. The funny thing is that I’m going with a blind date. First time in ages…LOL
Your website is awesome VANAE!!! I’m glad that I bumped into your videos in You Tube and now I subscribed to you site. =0)
hey JP, have an awesome time at your christmas party! let us know how your date goes!
and welcome to the V’star community!
V
Maybe I’m wrong here, but Isn’t a crush when you desire for someone but (for one reason or the other) nothing happens?
Like the old stereotype, where the schoolgirl gets a crush on her history teacher in high school. Or longing from afar at the cute girl in the corner of the lecture hall but never quite getting around to talking to her.
Once things start happening romantically (going out on a date), then it becomes a relationship (even if things fall apart right away – because you both overtly knew).
I suppose I’m just splitting hairs though.
I guess I’ll talk bout my old one. We met at college and were good friends. A smile that would brighten the room and made u forget what to be mad about. I would visit her at work to see how things were, but started closing off my feelings. I don’t know why just felt it had to be done. I tend to do that alot. Just shut down my feelings then focus on my training. But every now and then when I come across her page on facebook, I sometimes wonder what if I had pursued it more? Ah, whateva. Moving on-LOL
Great site Vanae! Can’t wait for the book. Takecare
hey nionxo, if she’s on facebook then why not say hello?
connect and spark a conversation. you never know!
I’m very happy you get the crush on someone!
Great felling!
So now… it is YOUR turn, darling, to follow your instinct, go beyond the fears and doubts and GO CATCH this very lucky one!
thanks suga. i have a good feeling about this one.
=)
V
My last crush was a girl at a church.I didn’t realize I liked her alot until I just called her randomly (yea…I dunno how I did that) we talked alot over the phone, more than in person. We kinda both liked each other but it was very awkward when we met at church bc it was church and everyones there. I actually believed she was the one and told her the forbidden phrase (I lov u). I think the things started going downhill after that. Haha. It’s been almost year and a half since then but I’m still struggling to get over her. And I stumbled across vanae!! Thank you for all your effort!
But anyways she had beautiful smile, kind eyes, and was very innocent.
Well my Current Crush is an amazing girl I met at a club when i was visiting some mates. It was kinda like Crush at first site, haha, I was sitting there. Drinking some kinda fruity drink so i could enter this comp to win stuff and there she was standing at the bar. Took my breath away, I went up to her and we spent the night talking. I didn’t leave with her, don’t really like the girl that do that with strangers, but we had a great time and now I have no way of contacting her, which kinda sucks. But I thank my luck that I met cause it was most fun I have had in ages. On a side note, I won that competition, got a scarf and a kiss from each of the promotional girls, go me.
Update!
The date went AMAZING.!.
Mongolian BBQ and drinks, then later meeting up with a few of my close buds and going to a techno club was a PERFECT time. She and I had a blast, then we topped of the night by going back to her place where we played some cards with her rommies and looked up Bob Ross- The Joy of Painting vids LoL.
A few drinks, great enviroment and music, and some good conversation is the basic ingrediants to a wonderful date.
She gave an invite to come out to her house party tonight, but I think ill sit this one out.
Ha, im perfectly content with our lunch date planned for next week.
Ya know it was great going out with Shelly, but to see her after all this time is a blessing in its own right!
HIGH FIVE! glad to hear it was amazing!!
v
Way to go Locus, i’m glad to see everything on the up and up..
im crushing im clueless lol
i giving her lots of signs dat shes special to meh
[teddy bear, ask her to winterball, braclet, etc]
and im getting no reply at all or i dont releaze it
any help?
I don’t think it’s really a good idea to just buy alot of stuff for a girl. I think some of us guys think girls will like us more if we buy them gifts but one thing I realized was that girls and guys are really different. I think it has more to do with spending more time with a girl than gifts. Not that gifts are bad but I think there are appropriate time for gifts.
But of course I may be totally wrong so email vanae!!!
hmm, from a chick’s perspective I’d say girls and guys vary by individual. so I must agree to a point with boomnvibe. be more observant of her jon (not stalker tho k, dude?) to see what she truly likes. guys who shower me with gifts too early scare me off but if a guy’s stingy and making it way too hard a chase i also get turned off. it’s difficult a balance i know! (no wonder I’m still single haha).
i will now contribute to my crush. a college classmate from years back. we met as undergrads in the same major and KIT from time to time.
he and i dated other people while still staying in contact. we just haven’t pursued anything because we’re pretty lethal for another – passionate in every way so I have physical distance keeping us at bay LOL. does that make sense to anyone? idk but yea we’re like the 2 in Hancock.
good luck everyone! Thanks Vanae for allowing us to share
ps i saw a pic of you at a recent Yelp Elite event @ Temple my cousin was there lol
HI VANAE!! LMAO
oohhh a crush huh!?? lol
anyhooo.
Go watch these Korean Movies!
My Sassy Girl
My Little Bride
Worst Husband Ever
kay ttyl.
good luck with ya crush yo.
go watch A SAD STORY jerome! it’ll totally make you cry!
Vanae
I will! My friend… is a total Korean movie freak LMAO…
I’ma watch it… but if I forget _o___
He’s probably gonna make me watch it.Pwahaha
I hope its a Happy Cry.
i’ll get back to you when i watch it.
:] If you have the time.
My Sassy girl is the best one to watch.
Go to mysouju.com to watch it under Korean Dramas.
(100 pound beauty I hear isn’t bad either. I gotta keep up with my friend ;o)
While studying over in southern Spain for the year I met this cute girl. She is fluent in three different languages and my major is Modern Languages (Spanish, German, and Arabic). I could tell that she was interested in me, and I was definitely interested in her… the only problem was that she left to study in the US for the year while I stayed in Spain. What’s more when I return to the US she will be coming back to Spain. I guess it wasn’t meant to be.
You won’t really get this unless you watch the Korean version of (My Sassy Girl) Calin but…
“Fate is building a bridge of chance for someone you love.”
….rrr I still have to burn that movie and the new I just got called 100 pound beauty.
I wish I had more time on my hands ;\
Hey Vanae. Let me first say that your website is awesome!
Anyway, my last crush is my current crush whom I met because we work together. She’s smart, funny, ambitious and beautiful. We met while I was at work. And i’m completely head over heels for her.
Well Vanae, after listening to your advice on Sideline guys, I moved on. And wouldn’t you know it a few days later I find myself crushing on a new girl
I met her a week ago at Relay for Life, a fundraiser for the American Cancer Society. She’s so energetic and fun, full of life, and makes me laugh constantly. And she returns the attention I give to her. =]
Thanks V, your advice made an improvement in my life. =]
When: Since January!
Why: He’s smart and sweet AND he has a speech impairment that gives him a British accent. He really enjoys my attention and I enjoy giving it to him!
Who: My co-worker, Alex
Why I’m not going to act on it: He’s 3 years younger than me. And I’m 19.
I studied in London last year for 8 months and fell for Tom. He was so different from the other sexually-frustrated jerks at my campus; sweet, intelligent, strong, not to mention he was (and still is) the most handsome guy I’ve ever met. I never went for it because the girls-to-guys ratio at our school is 3-to-1 and was intimidated by so many other hotter and cooler girls being around him.
I do plan on returning to London this year or the next. I hope we met last year for a reason because there was definitely a connection.
LoL!! mine im about to travel all the way across the world for lmao…
It happened a few months ago… and i’m cushing because he has the ability to talk to me and make me understand things without disrespecting or offending me, he listens and just lets me express myself, than changes the topic so i can forget… he’s very mature.. and sexxxxxyyyyyy… lol i hope he doesnt stumble upon this.. lol
crushing****
Hmmm My Crush, is the really geeky guy that no one seems to like but I think he’s the sweetest thing ever. He’s sort of dorky and has very unusual interests but I guess I’m really attracted to him. I’ve never told him I feel about him and there alot of my friends who think he’s to much of a loser to date. So I pretty much keep my feelings a big secret.
just a question…how do u have a crush o on ur husband or wife? lol. instead of a crush shouldnt it be like a super sparked up sexual attraction? haha just a thought. first i wanna say to C.M. right above me, who cares what others think, do what makes YOU happy. and who knows, it could turn out well n ur friends may be wrong.
my crush.
haha!
-shes sexy
-smart
-caring/conciderate=turn on
-cute voice=hot
-determined
-a smile that makes me speechless. but mine makes her faint
When: 1 year ago, In my Visual Studies class, Frosh year of college.
Why: Oh my gosh he was so adorable and seemed really sweet. There was just some connection there. We laughed at the same times in class. Always bump into each other randomly.
- He would always fall asleep in class and his hair would fall over his eyes and his head would swing from side to side. It was too cute for words.
Who: The one I let get away.
[ I regret not asking him out then/ making my intentions clear. I got nervous because
1) he was 6 years older. More than i’m used to dating.
2) not sure if he had a girlfriend
3) I wasn’t even sure if he lived in the US/Korea. Long distance may not have worked out.
4) Shy/ Fear of rejection
Hey! First just want to say you rock! New to the site, but I watched plenty of your vids. Mucho love!
So… looking at it, I really want to find my “type” if there is such a thing.
1. Sporty/best friend- She had a troubled past which kinda brought me to her. Physically not “usually” what I’m attracted to. She was everything, she could make the sun rise with her smile. I identified with her and we had a connection. It ended badly. Lost contact with her… I was the sideline guy in that relationship…. I was young, I was stupid, o well.
2. Strong Morals/Strong willed. She was just straight up amazing. She did charities, she volunteered her time to the church, bio major while doing it all with class. Also… She could SING!! omg… I heard her ballad that she wrote and it really did bring me to tears. I LOVE girls who can sing. I had lunch with her more than a few times, but… never followed through… I can’t seem to find her ( i have her number) but…. I don’t really want to come out of the blue and ask her out…. meh. Bad panda…
3. Forbidden/Connection – Her smile doesnt just brighten your day, it takes you with it and fills your soul… Its indescribable. She is amazing, and it shows. Many of my friends and similar crushes on her, one of my best friends in particular, so…. forbidden. I had many a talks with her and we really just click. Ares + Leo = Good! But…. Forbidden due to a friend.
4. Eyes/Fits- I had this dream about a girl that fits perfectly in my arms when I hold her. And she does. Its the kind of hold that completes you for no real reason. You just feel at home and whole. She is so soft and welcoming. Just a great person overall. Personality, amazingness. She is a friend of a friend and I see her often. Maybe…
Anyways…. long rant… What is a type anyways? bahhh humbug
>>Because he’s charismatic, intelligent, sexy and has a deep voice that can melt anything<<
Wow, so that was YOU that’s been calling me anonymously and wanting to talk at night. *grin*
CM
I dated a woman 16 years older than I for two years. She was strong, intelligent, funny, prideful, hardheaded, and a survivor. So many people use their past experiences as an excuse but not her. As I get older, I only wish to have as much fortitude as her. Waking up to her smile, fixing things around her house, the smell of her hair and that little hint of country in her voice is some of what I miss most about her. She was the most beautiful woman to me and I lost her…
No matter where life’s journey takes you Kassie, there will always be a piece of you with me in my heart.
My crush,
She makes me catch my breath every time i see her,
When I look in her doe eyes a sense of warmth and happiness come over me,
Her spunky attitude, always teasing back and forth.
How brave she tries to be all the time.
How un-outdoorsy she is.haa!
My mafia princess.
i will now contribute to my crush. a college classmate from years back. we met as undergrads in the same major and KIT from time to time.
he and i dated other people while still staying in contact. we just haven’t pursued anything because we’re pretty lethal for another – passionate in every way so I have physical distance keeping us at bay LOL. does that make sense to anyone? idk but yea we’re like the 2 in Hancock.
good luck everyone! Thanks Vanae for allowing us to share
ps i saw a pic of you at a recent Yelp Elite event @ Temple my cousin was there lol
ps. he’s attractive for many reasons.
poetic & paints a picture with words
sensitive to my moods and provides comfort @ the drop of a hat. romantic as hell when temps drop & tells me I’m beautiful … oh yes, he & I feed off each others’ energy whether that’s corny jokes or horny jokes LMAO XD
Hi Vanae, it been a blissful period that i found you during my hard time. I am truly admire what you do & big applause to you for helping countless wounded soul.. Keep it up !
Leo Jaydon