Comments on: Game Dae Wednesdae: Assholes or Nice Guys? http://vanae.com/game-dae-wednesdae-assholes-or-nice-guys/ The freshest coach to empower you for love and life. Mon, 07 May 2012 13:43:39 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Charlie http://vanae.com/game-dae-wednesdae-assholes-or-nice-guys/comment-page-1/#comment-9416 Charlie Mon, 20 Jun 2011 03:24:12 +0000 http://vanae.com/?p=3564#comment-9416 True, being nice and confident is the secret. Assholes can fake the confidence, which is the first thing you need, but quality chicks need more. You must have standards! <a href="http://www.singledudetravel.com/2011/02/nice-guys-finish-first/" rel="nofollow">Nice Guys Finish First!</a"</a> True, being nice and confident is the secret. Assholes can fake the confidence, which is the first thing you need, but quality chicks need more. You must have standards!

Nice Guys Finish First!</a"

]]> By: Mo http://vanae.com/game-dae-wednesdae-assholes-or-nice-guys/comment-page-1/#comment-8143 Mo Sun, 14 Nov 2010 19:34:27 +0000 http://vanae.com/?p=3564#comment-8143 I think there are levels of assholes such as men that are the permanent assholes that are always the ones that are always mean to people, abusive always rude, don’t have good manners and just constant pricks. Those are the assholes that eventually ends up being alone a lot because after awhile his friends, girlfriends etc get sick and tired of his assholeness, start to ditch him, make excuses to not go hang with him. Then there are the guys that can be assholes without being mean, rude and knows how to not be a prick. Such as assholes probably should be called mischievous assholes that like to pull pranks such as for instance I consider myself this type lol where examples (as a kid trying to get a stick stuck in a bicycle spoke while moving and watching friend fly off bicycle by succeeding getting stick stuck in wheel spoke while moving), (throwing the M40 firecrackers that couldn’t be put out with water into friends toilet and blowing up friends toilet lol), laugh at people that trip, I guess maybe it’s called the mischievous asshole lol :). I think there are levels of assholes such as men that are the permanent assholes that are always the ones that are always mean to people, abusive always rude, don’t have good manners and just constant pricks. Those are the assholes that eventually ends up being alone a lot because after awhile his friends, girlfriends etc get sick and tired of his assholeness, start to ditch him, make excuses to not go hang with him.

Then there are the guys that can be assholes without being mean, rude and knows how to not be a prick. Such as assholes probably should be called mischievous assholes that like to pull pranks such as for instance I consider myself this type lol where examples (as a kid trying to get a stick stuck in a bicycle spoke while moving and watching friend fly off bicycle by succeeding getting stick stuck in wheel spoke while moving), (throwing the M40 firecrackers that couldn’t be put out with water into friends toilet and blowing up friends toilet lol), laugh at people that trip, I guess maybe it’s called the mischievous asshole lol :) .

]]> By: Anon http://vanae.com/game-dae-wednesdae-assholes-or-nice-guys/comment-page-1/#comment-7610 Anon Thu, 29 Jul 2010 07:18:55 +0000 http://vanae.com/?p=3564#comment-7610 That seems really good advice, but it contradicts with the reality that I see when people date. First off, people tend to date the a-hole due to the fact that they'll have a "fun" relationship, but they tend to dislike that person due to the fact he/she is annoying and crude to others. Even so, that doesn't mean that they're nice. I guess the nice part is what makes the relationship stable. Even though they should go for the nice girl/guy, they feel they won't have fun with him/her, so they go with the a-hole. I'm not over-exaggerating with this comment, but I can say that I'm grateful that someone believes that they should go for the nice person. I should be that way, but it isn't. Whether it's dating or a relationship, it's going to be the same thing, in a bad way, but a few made it work that way. That seems really good advice, but it contradicts with the reality that I see when people date. First off, people tend to date the a-hole due to the fact that they’ll have a “fun” relationship, but they tend to dislike that person due to the fact he/she is annoying and crude to others. Even so, that doesn’t mean that they’re nice. I guess the nice part is what makes the relationship stable.

Even though they should go for the nice girl/guy, they feel they won’t have fun with him/her, so they go with the a-hole. I’m not over-exaggerating with this comment, but I can say that I’m grateful that someone believes that they should go for the nice person. I should be that way, but it isn’t. Whether it’s dating or a relationship, it’s going to be the same thing, in a bad way, but a few made it work that way.

]]> By: Adamska / Revolver / Sam...take a pick. http://vanae.com/game-dae-wednesdae-assholes-or-nice-guys/comment-page-1/#comment-7269 Adamska / Revolver / Sam...take a pick. Thu, 20 May 2010 19:21:52 +0000 http://vanae.com/?p=3564#comment-7269 The tactics work. Period. And I'm saying this from the stand point of the person that could use them. But there is no authenticity. That's a huge fall back. I have to grin a bit when women say they won't fall for any tactic. People for the most part are trusting that people for the most part...are honest. I'm not telling people to lie. I'm not even telling you to use a "tactic". I'm just saying it's a ridiculous thought to say that one is impervious to all lies. Now telling a guy what kind of woman he wants is just as good as telling a woman what kind of guy she wants. People WANT what they want. Usually more when they are told NOT to want. But I digress. People do need to simply be authentic. AUTHENTICITY does not mean to pretend you like flowers and watching gossip girl. It means being who you are. Caring when you truly care. Laughing when something is truly funny. And being nice because you feel nice...not because you're looking at a solid set of hooters. Hell! Even getting annoyed and upset when you truly feel the situation warrants it is better than smiling when you're mad. Give love. Get love. Peace The tactics work. Period. And I’m saying this from the stand point of the person that could use them.
But there is no authenticity. That’s a huge fall back.
I have to grin a bit when women say they won’t fall for any tactic. People for the most part are trusting that people for the most part…are honest. I’m not telling people to lie. I’m not even telling you to use a “tactic”.
I’m just saying it’s a ridiculous thought to say that one is impervious to all lies.

Now telling a guy what kind of woman he wants is just as good as telling a woman what kind of guy she wants. People WANT what they want. Usually more when they are told NOT to want. But I digress.

People do need to simply be authentic.
AUTHENTICITY does not mean to pretend you like flowers and watching gossip girl. It means being who you are. Caring when you truly care. Laughing when something is truly funny. And being nice because you feel nice…not because you’re looking at a solid set of hooters. Hell! Even getting annoyed and upset when you truly feel the situation warrants it is better than smiling when you’re mad.

Give love. Get love.

Peace

]]> By: vanae http://vanae.com/game-dae-wednesdae-assholes-or-nice-guys/comment-page-1/#comment-7245 vanae Wed, 19 May 2010 01:43:04 +0000 http://vanae.com/?p=3564#comment-7245 agreed. i think there's a distinction between honing your social skills vs. using tactics/strategies with people (which is unethical, it seems). be genuine. be true and present your best self. :) thanks for sharing your thoughts cathy! agreed. i think there’s a distinction between honing your social skills vs. using tactics/strategies with people (which is unethical, it seems).

be genuine. be true and present your best self.
:)
thanks for sharing your thoughts cathy!

]]> By: vanae http://vanae.com/game-dae-wednesdae-assholes-or-nice-guys/comment-page-1/#comment-7244 vanae Wed, 19 May 2010 01:40:51 +0000 http://vanae.com/?p=3564#comment-7244 hey seb, agreeing with you about confidence & being interesting as traits that most human (male or female) is interested in. thanks for your thoughts and i'm really happy to hear that you're in love! name your first born 'vanae jr'? ha. i kid ;) hey seb,
agreeing with you about confidence & being interesting as traits that most human (male or female) is interested in.

thanks for your thoughts and i’m really happy to hear that you’re in love!

name your first born ‘vanae jr’? ha. i kid
;)

]]> By: vanae http://vanae.com/game-dae-wednesdae-assholes-or-nice-guys/comment-page-1/#comment-7243 vanae Wed, 19 May 2010 01:38:26 +0000 http://vanae.com/?p=3564#comment-7243 you're super welcome v'star shady. glad to clear up some things you’re super welcome v’star shady. glad to clear up some things

]]> By: vanae http://vanae.com/game-dae-wednesdae-assholes-or-nice-guys/comment-page-1/#comment-7242 vanae Wed, 19 May 2010 01:37:56 +0000 http://vanae.com/?p=3564#comment-7242 to be honest, i think neggin' (even before or after the pickup artist show) is messed up and unethical. it's one thing to tease and flirt, but it's another thing to deliberately put down someone. to be honest, i think neggin’ (even before or after the pickup artist show) is messed up and unethical. it’s one thing to tease and flirt, but it’s another thing to deliberately put down someone.

]]> By: Victor http://vanae.com/game-dae-wednesdae-assholes-or-nice-guys/comment-page-1/#comment-7226 Victor Fri, 14 May 2010 17:16:33 +0000 http://vanae.com/?p=3564#comment-7226 I think some of it comes down to composure. The passive guy doesn't even know what that means. The assertive nice guy and the asshole get it on some level and that's attractive to women. See clark Gable in gone with the wind, Leonidas in 300, Jim Lee Swagger in Shooter, maybe James Bond in... well any of his movies. These are guys who never lose their cool. Think.. maybe Napolean Dynomite for the passive nice guy or Jason Biggs in 'my best friend's girl'. These guys are dominant(NOT domineering), calm and collected in any situation. Napolean Dynomite... not so much. He gets emotional over everything and has NO cool. Now, all those guys I listed aren't abusive toward women which is why I listed them. They know how to treat a lady and that's why they stay attractive. An asshole might have the initial attraction and might even get sex but he won't last with most women much beyond that. Think Tucker Max in "I hope they serve Beer in hell". He's a dick. Funny, I'll admit, but not something emotionally stable, hot, and fun females want long term. Good stuff Vanae! I think some of it comes down to composure. The passive guy doesn’t even know what that means. The assertive nice guy and the asshole get it on some level and that’s attractive to women. See clark Gable in gone with the wind, Leonidas in 300, Jim Lee Swagger in Shooter, maybe James Bond in… well any of his movies. These are guys who never lose their cool. Think.. maybe Napolean Dynomite for the passive nice guy or Jason Biggs in ‘my best friend’s girl’.

These guys are dominant(NOT domineering), calm and collected in any situation. Napolean Dynomite… not so much. He gets emotional over everything and has NO cool.

Now, all those guys I listed aren’t abusive toward women which is why I listed them. They know how to treat a lady and that’s why they stay attractive. An asshole might have the initial attraction and might even get sex but he won’t last with most women much beyond that. Think Tucker Max in “I hope they serve Beer in hell”. He’s a dick. Funny, I’ll admit, but not something emotionally stable, hot, and fun females want long term.

Good stuff Vanae!

]]> By: Keith http://vanae.com/game-dae-wednesdae-assholes-or-nice-guys/comment-page-1/#comment-7221 Keith Fri, 14 May 2010 10:51:25 +0000 http://vanae.com/?p=3564#comment-7221 Great topic Vanae! I especially like that you mentioned: "tactics" All those "tactics" that people use only render a false accomplishment. Itz one thing to use a tactic to get someone's attention, or tell a joke, or something like that. If you have to constantly use tactics, then you're putting effort toward something that isn't worth it. Also, high percentage truism: The "playaz", the "game runners"; those people r usually horrible with expression of genuine intimacy & affection. A genuine heart felt adult come on is situation kryptonite for a "hustla". Itz like standing up to a bully. I guess if you think about all those "tactics" & BS; itz basicly passive aggressive bullying. I'm lucky. I had the opportunity to figure out what I enjoy in person. The slam bam thank you ma'ams aren't so shiney & desirable when you've made a real connection with someone. Great topic Vanae!

I especially like that you mentioned: “tactics”

All those “tactics” that people use only render a false accomplishment. Itz one thing to use a tactic to get someone’s attention, or tell a joke, or something like that. If you have to constantly use tactics, then you’re putting effort toward something that isn’t worth it.

Also, high percentage truism: The “playaz”, the “game runners”; those people r usually horrible with expression of genuine intimacy & affection. A genuine heart felt adult come on is situation kryptonite for a “hustla”. Itz like standing up to a bully. I guess if you think about all those “tactics” & BS; itz basicly passive aggressive bullying.

I’m lucky. I had the opportunity to figure out what I enjoy in person. The slam bam thank you ma’ams aren’t so shiney & desirable when you’ve made a real connection with someone.

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