Hey V’stars,
I want to know what you want to ultimately achieve in your dating life. Is it…
More confidence to approach people?
To be emotional self sufficient?
To stand out in the online dating world?
To get a girlfriend..
Whatever it may be, I would love to know what you truly want to achieve in your dating life! Leave it in the comment below and one of you will win a free pass to my workshop:
Enjoy my first episode of Vanae.com Show in Costa Rica!
Adios!
Vanae
i just want to achive like a long term relation ship all my other 1s lasted for bout 2 days bc i was nervous and i think thats whats stopping me bc i just think im trying to hard to impres her and at the same time to not be nervous
I think you are overanalyzing. Do you know for sure that those relationships didn’t progress because you were too nervous? It certainly doesn’t help, but it’s not always THE dealbreaker in developing attraction either. I learned to not be nervous…and most of my relationships STILL only last 2 days. Your dating life will improve if you are less nervous, but that does not mean any of those women would have been good girlfriends.
what I want to achieve is two parts.
the first part is related to me, I need to accept something about my sexuality that is really hot, but I don’t like that I like it.
The second part is finding someone who can accept that to, but still accept that I might change and not like it.
yep complicated, and no can’t explain in here… have to resolve it on my own.
what’s this hot thing about your sexuality? would love to know
message me privately, wizzaaaam
I want to have a long relationship also.
What’s stopping me is that I am always scared that he is going to hurt me or break my heart so I start acting distant and it ends.
I’m kinda too young to go, but help would still be nice
the first kiss/date/relationship lol entering for funz. have fun learning spanglish vanae =)
how about, SPANKglish?
I would like to gain Intimacy with another person. Spice up my life a little bit more and try something new for once. I guess what its stopping me is money, since im not currently working and well that im a little insecure sometimes.
hey german,
i’m actually going to be doing an episode on ‘how to date when you’re broke’. because dating shouldn’t stop because your funds are low. you just need to be more creative
Vanae
What I would like to learn is getting woman to be interested to start with. It seems that every woman I talk to gives off a vibe of “I’m not interested or I don’t care.” I really don’t understand that. What I would ultimately like to achieve is a Girlfriend.
What am I looking for? Someone to share adventures with. Someone fun and daring. Willing to do something a little stupid but exhilarating. Like Free-running. Or Like Skydiving. Have you ever done that? Totally doing that before summer is over. Someone to go scuba diving with me, go snowboarding with me, and someone who wants to try to kick my butt in martial arts. That is what I’m looking for right now anyway.
What’s stopping me you ask? Probably the fact that I got out of a 2 yr relationship pretty recently and I’m still not over that. Btw, any tips to help out on that one? Is time really all I need to get over a past relationship?
what i want to achive huh?
thats a good question. ive never had a girl so i dont really know how the whole love thing works but personally, i want to achive happiness, dont we all? i want to achive happiness not only with someone, but with myself as well. i want to be able to be myself and really have a meaningfull bond with my future sifnificant other. what is stoping me? im insecure, it sucks cause after 20 years im tiered of being alone.
I want someone who will add value to my life through the experiences of shared adventures and emotional intimacy. That value does not have to come from a girlfriend, even though at this point in my life, I would prefer that type of relationship. Some interesting prospects have come into my life recently, and I want to develop the confidence to act on those opportunities without hesitation. I do well online and receive many compliments about my profile and initial emails, but I’d like to make myself more available to potentially positive experiences with the people who intersect my life — through school, parties, or other activities — who I have been keeping at an unnecessary distance because I lost many mutual friends in a previous breakup. There are candidates to date there, and it’s time I take advantage of those opportunities.
I just need the confidence approaching the opposite sex. I was just walking my dog and I saw two pretty girls walking from across the street and looking at me, and all I was thinking was how do I approach them. Well we walked past each other, my dog trying to pull me towards them while barking “shame on you”, and I was nearing home feeling my day slipping away. I’m a 19 yo bloke who is looking for change!
and sorry I wpn’t be able to attend the workshop if ever you picked me, as I live up north. I just thought maybe you could reply or something lol.
I want to be confident and comfortable enough in my own skin to flirt. My securities are actually internal.. I don’t feel interesting enough, outgoing enough…etc. etc…to even become FRIENDS with a guy. My goal is to just GET a date.
hey taylor,
how old are you and where do you live?
vanae
Hey Vanae!
Hey Vanae:
For Spanish: It may be a little late, but, you can get these little, $5, Quick Study Sheets they sell at Fry’s and most book stores like Border’s, or Barnes and Noble, on Spanish conversation, vocabulary, verbs, and grammar. They’re these 8 x 11″, tri-folded, plastic coated, light weight, sheets you can put in a backpack. You’ll find they’re EXTREMELY helpful; maybe you can pick up some out there.
As far as my dating life goes:IT SUCKS! Literally!
I seem to attract ladies either sucking on their thumbs, or sucking on their gums! Jailbait or Geriatric! I just can’t seem to attract eligible ladies from ages 21 to 35. They’re either young enough to land me in prison, or and old enough to be my mom! Older women are ok, if you’re 18 and she’s 25, even at 35 the hotness factor isn’t all lost, and you may still be able to have kids, but when you get past 40, WTF? Sooooo, since I don’t want to date my mom, and going to jail is out of the question, what do you suggest I do?
Dear Vanae, what i would like to achieve in dating life is to get a great relationship with an amazing women. I wanna create romance and also have a lot of fun.
What is stopping me that i dont know with who i can date with ? Even if im talking on the online dating sites for a while with some ladies and i ask for a number i got that response: ignore. I never hearing again from them. Its just ridiculous.
And in everyday life i just cant see an opportunity to get to know someone. And even so how to ?
The one thing i would love to archive in a dating life is true love. All my life i’ve never truely felt loved. I have found what i like to call blind love which to you is an on/off relationship i’ve been in plenty of those. I want someone who loves me…for me. i want a woman that doesnt care about my physical appearence i want a woman that truely dearly loves me for my personality. Although this is hard to find i have given up on it. Love today is hot bodies and a$$hole boyfriends so i give up on it. Ill let love find me. My ultimate goal is to let life work its way and if im meant to be loved then i will and if im not then im going to cope with reality. After my last on/off relationship finally ended i lost myself and confidence so now im letting life take its corse.
Hi Vanae,
I Think the most important words in spanish for a Tourist is “Cuanto Cuesta” (How Much does it Cost) Por Favor Gustaria Comprar/Ordenar ( I would like to buy or Order depending on the circumstance. And always Say “Por Favor and Gracias for every request, that way you don’t come off rude and demanding.
You Wanted to know what A Guy (me specificaly) wants from his Dating Life. An egotistical Guy would say to get Lucky with every chick he meets or to have anyone he desires, but for me none of these things would be right. I think because I have lived the hermit Life for so long and because growing up I didn’t have strong role models of what a Healthy Relationship looks like , for me it is essential to go back to relationship basics and in General to Learn to feel Good about myself and others. I think what I want More than anything is to change my outlook on Relationships from Negative to Positive. I want to be someone who feels good about People, I want to be able to Love with all my Heart and with Confidence and Courage. I want to convert my fear of Love into Hope,Optimism, Courage, Self Confidence, and know and have faith that Love is truly The Most Powerful Force there is and more than know it intellectualy but to have it encoded in my DNA, so that it is a living breathing part of me. I hope this is not to vague a picture for you of what I want from a relationship. Mostly I think the inner qualities are what are the most important and this is what makes or brakes a relationship and most importantly it has to come from inside you, it has to be sincere and it has to be Love for the Sake of Love and Not Human Interest. So far I have only been able to Attract Human Interest and therefore I have never been Happy. Please let me know if you choose me or not for your workshop. I would be willing to Pay Money to Take your Workshop if I am not the Winner of your Contest. So Please let me know the Stats of the Worshop and Price so that I can make arrangements. Have Fun in Costa Rica.
I just want to actually go out on dates. I wouldn’t have a problem asking women out, it’s just that I don’t have money to spend on dates since I can’t find a job anywhere.
hey sal,
you brought up a great topic that i’ll be doing a special episode on “how to date in this tough economy’. so i’ll be showing ways to be creative with limited funds, because dating shouldnt have to stop because you don’t have much money
=)
keep an eye out for it!
Go for ice cream; It’s cheap and it taste great. If things are going good then you can go to the park.
picnic in the park!
1-cheap
2-casual clothings
3-everybody less nervous because its not the usual date settings (movie/dinner etc.)
4-its better than a movie(you can talk), its better than a dinner (you aren’t confined much in space), you would see each in a more natural way non-challant, sitting in jeans on the ground comfy in your skin.
yep yep, works…
I am looking for a mate. Like an eagle. Dates are cool, sex is cool, companionship is cool but my goal is to find a mate. Maybe have children and just live life to its fullest with a female partener. Sharing life and enjoying the journey whatever comes along. Maybe changing the world and maybe not. Giving and getting good hugs from the one you love and the one that loves you. Not sweating the small stuff but being aware that sometimes the slightest thing could be the most important thing. Maybe I need practice dates or something. I want love like penguins have in “March of the Penguins” or how eagles court. I had a nice date tonight, a great dinner at a really cool restaurant and then an hour or so at an incredible museum…..still with the effin dog though
I like your question
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I reckon experiencing things would help me grow and i’d be mentally stronger for life’s challanges.
When Im strong enough im happy to settle down with the right person (:.
I guess I would make this simple: How do I get people to talk to me and vice verses and not just in any causal conversation? I know that sound like real loser but I seem to be lacking something here.
Se Habla espanol?!
Hi, for me dating is fun but trying to meet girls and expressing myself is sometimes a struggle. Sometimes/many times I get to wrapped up in thinking I am not good enough or measure up to ones standards. I think negative thoughts about myself which holds me back from being the person I want to be and being able to show the real me. I am looking to better myself for me and for someone who will accept me for me. I feel like I have a lot to offer but dont have the confidence to show it. blah. haha hope to see you in SF Vanae!
-Hopeless romantic
I kinda know the issue I have and the solution to it. I tend to be pretty friendly and fun with other guys and girls I’m not romantically interested in, but when it comes to girls that I am interested in, I tend to become more shy and awkward. I want to achieve that level of fun with the people I am interested in, yet still create some kind of romantic undertone, so I don’t fall into the friend zone.
What’s stopping me is me. I need to be able to let go of my inner critic, go out, and have fun with meeting people I’m attracted to. I also need to be able to be able to flirt more, so that they know I’m interested in being more than just friends.
I find it interesting reading this thread, since I wonder how much of this is sort of a self-fulfilling prophecy, where people THINK they have issues and therefore subconsciously make themselves behave that way.
I would like to have the conifdence to be able to approach woman and ask them out as I have never really had a girlfriend and I am tried of being alone.
What I want from my dating life?
I’ll be specific.
I’m head over heels in love with my best friend on the island (we live on Oahu). My friend is a wonderful person whom everyone loves to be around.
I want to know how to capture my friend’s special attention. There is definitely already chemistry there.
I am w-a-y- -out of practice.I havent hooked up for 20 years. women are too distant and mysterious for me.I have never cheated on any woman I have been promised to.But if I am not promised to you then it is open season.Here is the way it really is.If you are some one who does the deal and has lots of success with “options” then go for it.But not sin.ooo that makes me one of those people who does not believe in premarital sex. There you another topic any takers?
Da G meista