it really called out to me because it’s a realization that i’ve absorbed through the years. understanding and being the real you. and i AM doing what i love. and i’d add this to my list of ‘what makes you happy?”

vanae’s tip of the dae: today, spend time thinking about someone in your life who has passed. it’s okay to miss him/her. but be sure to spend more time thinking of good stuff…memories and what that person meant to you.

already at 9:30am and i’ve already had 2 highlights of the dae.
1) my sis telling me that my brother is here and is protecting her (which brought me to my ‘tip’)
2) someone asking me about my highlight and then we had silly morning convo

who did you think about today? and what is a good memory you’ve shared?

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“(Healing Childhood Wounds) Events from childhood, our first experiences, have the power to shape our lives. Some do so immediately, offering us challenges to overcome and encouragement to make use of our talents and interests…Other events seem to lay dormant until adulthood, when our closest relationships help to bring out the deepest aspects of ourselves. This is when unexamined lessons can be put to use and untended childhood wounds make themselves known in a call for healing.

We may discover issues of trust coming up, or perhaps we find ourselves mirroring actions from our past instinctively. No matter the case, we have the power within us to heal ourselves at the deepest level. With the wisdom of an adult, we can be the loving parent or guardian we needed as a child. Knowing that we are each whole spiritual beings having a human experience, we can nurture ourselves from that wholeness, and then reach out to others as well. We can recreate scenarios in our mind’s eye, trying different outcomes and following them to their logical conclusions. In doing so, we may be able to imagine possible reasons a situation occurred as it did, and even accept that it could not have happened any other way. With the wisdom born from age and experience, we might be able to see events from a different perspective, bringing new understanding and freeing ourselves from any hold the past may have on us.

Life offers opportunities to clear these weeds in the gardens of our souls. However, when we want to focus on easier and more pleasant tasks, we are likely to pass up the chances, leaving the wounds to continue to drain our energy and resources for living life fully today. We might find we need support to face the events of the past, so turning to a trained professional who can offer tools for healing can be a valid choice. As long as we remember that the child we were lives on within us, we are always free to go back and right old wrongs, correct mistaken perceptions, heal wounds, forgive, and begin anew.”

when was the last time you reflected and digged deep? what did you discover about your childhood and the person you are today?

notice the announcers biting back their tongue and yelling in astonishment when america’s took it by surprise.

so whether you’ve met someone great, and early on think he or she is the one…
say that you’ve never received a speeding ticket…
predicting a winner before the game ends…
NEVER SPEAK TOO SOON.

i do it because i love connecting with people, sharing lessons that i learned that may save others, express myself and spreading lighted-heartedness and open deep dialogue. THIS completes the part of me who wants to be a counselor/therapist.

most of all, i do it because it may impact others in a positive way. here’s a sweet note that makes it all worth it:

subject title:” You have no idea how much you have helped me.”

“Hi, I’m _______.

I grew up in the bay area, but continued to move all over north America. Im now working as a makeup artist in Toronto. I was talking to an old Friend in Oakland and she told me about your vlog on youtube. My background, with moving, and having a family tree that has Asian, Middle eastern, Native, & European. On top of those oddities ive become a makeup artist for film/TV, makes dating difficult as the schedule and work means any hours and traveling a lot. I often don’t fit into any one click, too much an American for the Canadians, too white for my Asian friends, and something else for everyone else. Always seems the other half of me is wrong.

I just wanted to say thank you, i found you blog and it reminded me of home, gave me some confidence in trying to tackle dating again in a new city. And your so cute ;). Keep it going, your helping people, I appreciate what your doing.”

this was my highlight of my morning, what is yours?

two highlights of my year are:
1) forgiving my most recent ex-boyfriend, BT
2) more significantly, forgiving the man who broke my heart in 2005, JB

it took me some time to get to this place of zen and realization that holding negative energy, makes your life heavy..it weighs it down. it was a major move to forgave JB, when got in contact with me after 3 years.

then, one of the main things that helped me come to forgive BT, is reflecting back to my most recent relationship with him and realizing how healthy it was. it was the best relationship i’ve ever had. we shared our lives, our love, our friends, our compassion for people, our love for music and our growing pains. WE WERE BEST FRIENDS.

then we lost that closeness once we broke up, because i had resentments for the mistakes he made. now, i think about those mistakes and they are a speck of sand compared to what we can absorb from this world, from each other. to lose a best friend because it didn’t work out romantically…it’s a shame.

but i do have to mention, in order come to this point of forgiveness and peace, you must have spent enough time away from each other to reflect, understand and be at peace with yourself. it took me 3 years to respond to JB and let him know that i forgive him. and tonight (after more than a year), i also forgave BT.

but when i did, it meant the world to me. as it did to them.

have you forgiven your ex? how did you let them know?

vanae (feeling light as a feather)

i have a plan in mind that i’ve been working on to do a global campaign, that will be released in january 2009. watch out! vanae’s coming to your neck of the world! and you heard it first here.

let’s enjoy matt’s video:

the one(s) exist anywhere on this earth. and you may meet him/her randomly but most likely not when you’re looking for it. but here’s a funny episode of ’sexy beijing’ where a jewish chick is looking for a bf in city of beijing.

i love the theme. (i’m a huge ’sex and the city’ fan!)
also, love how fluent she is in mandarin. totally catches people off guard.

Danwei TV Sexy Beijing - Looking for Double Happiness - Funny bloopers are a click away

can you listen to this and not feel sexy?? not move to the beat? yeah, i thought so.

can i say…”smooooooth”?
the way the move… SEXY!

Americas Best Dance Crew (Season 2 Episode 2) Supreme Soul

http://youtube.com/watch?v=fIp1v8d20xU

what has helped you through a break-up?

“vi vi” is my most recent nickname, which i think is cute and it comes in handy! typically, when i’m at a restaurant or public setting, it’s hard for people to pronounce or spell my name, so i go by ‘vi vi’ just to make some lives easier. i love giving people nicknames (well naming things in general). and when someone gives you a nickname, i think it’s special…gives you some insight on your relationship with him/her.

my past nicks have been:
- nae nae
- vroom vroom van
- caravan, minivan
- vanae nae
- nympho (uh, don’t even ask, =)

what are your nicknames?

ps- when i have kids, i’m going to give them these nicknames…”kiwi”, “coconut” and “mango” because these fruits are awesome. tropical. and carries a great cuteness.

everyone who knows me, knows that i love asking ‘what’s your highlight of the dae?”.
i believe in it.
i believe it’s an important question to ask and think about.
the few moments it takes to think about your highlight makes all the difference to make your day even better. and you don’t dread the coming day..because there’s another highlight waiting to happen. every. day.

so what’s your highlight of the dae?

quote by Elbert Hubbard

vanae’s tip of dae- “there may be moments when you are blind, but realize in time to move in a different direction before your heart is handicapped.”

have you saved your heart from becoming handicapped?

‘together’ is theme in vietnam. from living together, eating together, bonding or sharing together. the culture is rich yet lifestyle is simple. barefeet, honesty, sharing family dinners, working hands, and low red chairs..vietnamese culture keeps you grounded. it keeps me grounded with the values that make up who i am.

vietnam is special and i wanted to share it with you. what’s your cultural background?