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Embracing

Embracing yourself and letting others embrace you.

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Currently, I am in a spiritual coaching program with 21 other loving individuals and while I was away at our first 4-day intense session, I gained something (actually, I gained alot). But one of things that I gained was Embracing.

Never have I ever felt so much love, compassion, and pure acceptance from what started out as a group of strangers, to now, true companions. Over the last few days, I’ve realized even more so the key way of loving yourself is to embrace yourself. During this journey of honesty and deep diving, we gained the essence of embracing ourselves as we are and allowing others to embrace each one as well.

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When I embrace myself, I don’t fight against my weaknesses. It’s part of me.
I embrace by letting down all my guards and let go.
I embrace all the thoughts while meditating. They cycle in and out of me.
I embrace my fears as they turn into the fuel to thrive.
I embrace my past into who I am today.
I embrace myself by being completely honest, strip away the layers and be comfortable, being nude.
When I embrace myself, I let go of how I am portrayed or want to be portrayed and simply just…be.

That, is very freshing and relieving, as I realized that being is such a lovely way to be. And down to the core, it starts and ends there.

I know that ‘allowing others to embrace you fully and let them love you’ may not come easy for many people. Heck, sometimes it takes a lifetime for people to be here and it’s on-going throughout life. But I experienced my wonderful program classmates opened up and allowed the two-way, group-way embrace and it was the start and it was beautiful.

V’stars, I know you can too. Have you embraced yourself? Letting others embrace and love you? How does it feel?

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Comment by Sam
2009-11-23 10:27:26

Embracing yourself is a hell of a task. It involves destroying the long time built “reality” of who you are, and what the world is. And then not only focusing on, but loving and exploiting the person that you ACTUALLY ARE. From the points of confidence, to the points of sadness and anger you experience, you must take them all in and express them all willingly without apology or second guessing.

4 years I spent on dating and social dynamics JUST to realize that I am worthy of love and friendships. No need for cool shoes, groomed hair, name brand clothing, lots of money, a car, a home, etc. NONE of that is what makes me worthy. The only thing that made me worthy was me. Isn’t that nuts?

And then people are usually much more apt to love you as well. Because all you have in you is raw emotion and expression. No fake shit.

Feels Good.

Comment by Vanae
2009-11-23 13:27:42

v’star sam,
i know! it’s such an awaking and great feeling when you realized that. glad that you shared!
:D
Vanae

 
 
Comment by Ivandechandra suandes
2009-11-23 10:39:01

*Embracing Ourself is also Part that we Forgive ourself and Others from vengeful.. :)
*Embracing Ourself to Know how much GOD Love us..
*Embracing Ourself to know that we surround by a good people, kind human and animal, Good friends and family. :)
*Embracing to accept what we are even thought we know that we are so LOW in human eyes and God eyes, and continue our living with happiness and cheerfulness.

Embracing ourself with hand to keep pray to god for people surround us to help embracing them. :)

God bless us…
Ivan. :)

Comment by Vanae
2009-11-23 13:28:47

yes, yes!
wonderful points v’star ivan!
i especially like ‘embracing ourself is also part that we forgive ourself..’

:D

 
 
Comment by Keith
2009-11-23 13:50:57

I think I might I have involuntarily embraced myself. I found this website called “personalitypage.com”. Itz basicly typology. A person named Kiersey has created a science out of types of people & personalities. This site gave me great insight on me; & also, explained alot, in relation to, why I fit into society the way I do.

I’m the personality type: ENTJ. The knowledge of this explains: If I am a rare personality type; & “birds of a feather flock together”. Then that explains why I’m some what of a “loner”, & am usually liked, but rarely completely accepted.

That maybe more in depth & scientific than where u were going Vanae; but I think itz good knowledge, regardless.

Comment by Vanae
2009-11-25 00:24:13

oh interesting. i just found out that i’m a type 7 (enthusiast) on the Enneagram (personality test).

would love to hear more about your ENTJ type. i’ll take a look at that website.
V

Comment by Keith
2009-11-26 07:29:18

Extrovert iNtuitive Thinking Judgemental

Thatz my basic one track psychological process.

I find keirsey.com a little more intersting.

Anyway, keirsey.com explains there are 4 general types. Rationals, Artisons, Idealist, & Guardians.

I found comprehension in knowing that only about 5% of the populus is my type. I also found some confidence in being such a rare breed.

This knowledge helps professionally also. It speeds up the process of finding out what you have to deal with in your work environment, & work day. Everyone either voluntarily or involuntarily goes toward work, new jobs, &/or new co-workers/people with the attitude of: what I’m going to have to contend with from you &/or here.

Being a rational. I rationalize that if someone is an asshole. Thatz what they are. Sometimes I deduce that they are either being an asshole on purpose, involuntarily, or if the situation caused there asshole-ness.

Generally though, I spend alot of time rationalizing why I’ve acted like an asshole &/or dumbass; when I’m not refusing to engage in baited scenarios by people who enjoy the annoyance passive agressive BS causes me.(had a bad day at work)

Anyway, itz cool science. I find kiersey.com the most interesting, & personalitypage.com the most descriptive of the types. Personalitypage.com’s decription of my type was dead on.

Itz been a couple of years since I’ve stayed estute on the subject; but I have been implementing the knowledge to others; like a big ole ENTJ field marshal does.

I’m going to guess that ur some type of Artison, & an extrovert. If you find me trying to guess that, to be, personal &/or private, I’m probably wrong, & ur probably an introvert.

I am also the king of run-on sentences.

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Comment by martin
2009-11-24 06:44:01

Wow…this is a good one I will be working on it. Really easy to say and so hard to do. You are so astute! Thanks what a great topic..

Comment by Vanae
2009-11-25 00:19:03

hey v’star martin,
i agree. it’s a hard task. but open-ness is the first step and it’ll be a on-going process throughout our lives.

:)

 
 
Comment by Camellia
2009-11-24 11:42:26

I think I’m still learning how to fully embrace myself. It’s hard to change the way you look at yourself sometimes but i’m getting there :)

Comment by Vanae
2009-11-25 00:20:05

girl, being on the path and getting there..that’s a great place to be. (instead of fighting against it).

we all walk down our own path and will get to where we want to be.

happy holidays!
V

 
 
Comment by Locus
2009-11-24 12:30:21

Embrace… I don’t truely understand it. Maybe one day I may be able to tear these walls down that I surround myself with.

Comment by Vanae
2009-11-25 00:22:11

hey v’star locus,
you brought up something important which is the actual barrier to embracing. the barrier is the walls that you mention.

what i did was breath deeply and surround myself with people who loved me and were accepting. with that support, i was able to let down my walls.

perhaps a convo with someone you love and trust, will guide you.
:)
Vanae

 
 
Comment by jaiRo - SugahBoogah
2009-11-29 13:46:53

i’ve reached the point of embracinng that its seems kinda awkward to me know…

to the embracer or embracee, lol…

so i’m just an embracer enabler now, i don initiate a hug or anything but if someone wants to hug me or says they need/want one im all for it.

its a good system, if you hug everyone then it makes it less special

 
Comment by Victor
2009-11-30 15:09:26

Here’s a kinda cool activity that’s sorta in the same vein as the embracing. I got it out of a buddhism book i was glancing through the other day. Whenever you’re starting to feel depressed or fall into a negative mood go somewhere where there are people and plant yourself among them. As you’re chilling, consciously wish each one good fortune. Something about it elevates your mood as well. I tried it and it works for me. Sounds likeit’s worth a shot right?

Comment by jaiRo - SugahBoogah
2009-12-04 22:31:11

that sounds like a good idea, ive done something like that too…

when im really sad i go and i buy some flowers, go to a busy place and i give them to someone i think that needs them

i did it at work 2 weeks ago, i wished them a gorgeous day and they felt better, and i felt better to

 
 
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