An expectation that comes up often during our checklist of suitor’s qualities is…perfection. Will this person meet 10 out of 10 qualities you look for? Highly unlikely.
See,
He or she doesn’t need to be perfect.
How you approach her doesn’t need to be perfect.
What you say to him doesn’t need to be perfect.
Life doesn’t need to be perfect.
YOU don’t need to be perfect.
Your ability to grow and evolve as a more conscious/ compassionate/ developed human being, THAT is perfect. So this reminds me of this DailyOM article: SETTING YOURSELF FREE
“When we make mistakes, we think that we are failing or not measuring up. But if life is about experimenting, experiencing, and learning, then to be imperfect is a prerequisite. Life becomes much more interesting once we let go of our quest for perfection and aspire for imperfection instead.
This doesn’t mean that we don’t strive to be our best. We simply accept that there is no such thing as perfection—especially in life. All living things are in a ceaseless state of movement. Even as you read this, your hair is growing, your cells are dying and being reborn, and your blood is moving through your veins. Your life changes more than it stays the same. Perfection may happen in a moment, but it will not last because it is an impermanent state. Trying to hold on to perfection or forcing it to happen causes frustration and unhappiness.
In spite of this, many of us are in the habit of trying to be perfect. One way to nudge ourselves out of this tendency is to look at our lives and notice that no one is judging us to see whether or not we are perfect. Sometimes, perfectionism is a holdover from our childhood—an ideal we inherited from a demanding parent. We are adults now, and we can choose to let go of the need to perform for someone else’s approval. Similarly, we can choose to experience the universe as a loving place where we are free to be imperfect. Once we realize this, we can begin to take ourselves less seriously and have more fun. Imperfection is inherent to being human. By embracing your imperfections, you embrace yourself.”
This is something I often remind myself when I’m getting into the perfectionist mode. “It’s OK, being flexible, shedding and gaining new layers..that is where it’s really at. Doesn’t need to be perfect.”
V’stars, what do you think?
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I love this. It couldn’t be more true or pertinent.
I like that , awesome article ^_^ but we shouldn’t neglect and let it go neither
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I totally agree on the fact that, “Trying to hold on to perfection or forcing it to happen causes frustration and unhappiness. Great article!
First: perfection comes from what we think; and what we think is in our fantasies, the perfect thing in our fantasies is made from what we already know ( I supose that kind of girl is perfet ). But… if I go to real life I may NOT find what is in my fantasy… but also I can find things, “very good things”, I didnt even know could exist… and may be much better than perfection… are something NEW.
Another important thing: it´s good to be looking forward perfection, high standards or big goals, but it´s like school, everyone wants the degree, but is important to enjoy every stage you are involved knowing that the GREAT things will come because you are working in every stage. Life is like school? Maybe always… when I´m 64…