Much requested topic, I just finished the Vanae.com show episode on ‘dating more than one person’.
I think there’s nothing wrong with dating multiple people as long you are not exclusive and very honest with the people involved. If you want to be exclusive, then bring it up and have a conversation about it with your partner.
I’m going into the second week in Costa Rica and it’s been lovely. Great weather! Food! Good people! and dancing!
Here’s the episode:
Since I can’t really speak from personal experience because of my lack therefore, I can only speak on what I believe is considered “right”. Well, I think it really all depends on what that individual is trying to achieve by entering a relationship–or more than just one. If you’re trying to achieve higher social status, then one might want to date a plethora of people. But if you really want a strong steady relationship with a person, they might just want to stick with one. But getting a little personal, I’d never date more than one person because as of now I’m already with someone and I really do feel like I’ve found–not to sound cliche–the perfect guy for me. He accentuates the best in me and vise versa, and he really knows everything and anything about me. He doesn’t ever pressure me into doing anything–if anything, I gotta push him haha, and he’s not into anything that would be considered bad or morally wrong, including dating more than one person. He’s just as fixated on me as I am with him and I’m so happy
But getting back to the point, I would never ever consider dating anyone else because I feel like I’m basically satisfied with him and I feel like that’s one thing you should feel when you’re with the right person–completely whole and content, like you don’t need anything else in life except more time with that person haha which I can never seem to find, but hope to. Hope my answer helps!
thanks for sharing your thoughts nixie!
I can go biological and sexual behavior on this and what’s the most suitable thing according to it, but then I would be neglecting social norms in which ever place people live.
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So, as you said honesty is key
yars! honesty!
YES I DO
I guess everyone knows what works for them. I know I couldn’t do that. I get far too attached emotionally. I just prefer one person.
yeah me too !
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On a more personal level it depends on what a person is looking for in regards to dating more than one individual.
My personal view is that dating one or more people can lead to complications as time goes on. It’s human nature that the more time you spend with someone the more close-nit you become.
So you can imagine the complexities of a circle of three or more people who become intimately attracted to each other as time goes by. Even if they are all in agreement to the arrangement initially, feelings will eventually turn the scenario sour.
My Formula…Two’s a party, Three’s a crowd!!!
i can dance to salsa and a lil bit of tango, cesar!
Yea its perfectly ok to date more than one girl/guy at the same time HOWEVER in my opinion u shouldnt have more than 1 girlfriend at one time. If the girls ure dating aren’t aware of each other it is still a bit dishonest but if they are aware it opens invitations to a threesome xD (joke)
To me, “dating” means we’ve been out several times, have snogged if not more, have exchanged intimacy and value, and I am confident, based on her actions and interest, that we will continue to be going out, at least several times. I have a lot of other things going on right now, so if I reach that stage, I’ll probably not be looking for or dating other women, even if we are not yet exclusive.
That is not the same thing, however, as going on DATES with other people. It happens — you have a great date, a steamy makeout, the other person even saying “that was one of my best dates ever” — and you never hear from them again. If I’ve gone out with someone a few times, and I meet someone who interests me, I am going to ask them out, and I do NOT owe them explanations or declarations that I am dating other people.
Dating more than one is rarely the same thing as dating more than one for months at a time. Some people do that, and yes, you should be honest earlier. Other people, however, turn down dates when they’ve only had 1-2 good dates with someone else. Or, they don’t ask someone else out because “I’m sort of seeing someone and want to see where it goes.” I think you should accept those other dates and ask other people out until you are confident — not hopeful, but confident — that it is going to go somewhere, ESPECIALLY if you are still developing your dating skills and confidence.
Good Stuff! I fully agree with the dating multiple ppl thing. And really, as long as you are completely up front about everything it works pretty well. If your particular partner isn’t for it, then you have to decide if you can be more serious with them or cut them loose. Really isn’t another way around that..at least not in my experiences.
Second tip from me, Know ur limits. It gets kinda tricky trying to juggle a lot of partners at a time. Know how many is too many! Some women get a little cross when you mix up her qualities with anothers… And if you’re having sex with multiple partners BE SAFE! and BE OPEN about it!!! Cuz that isn’t just a ‘you should know’ sort of thing, it’s really a Health Risk for everybody. Nice topic btw!
thanks for your sharing your perspective, victor!
Dear Vanae,
I’m a martial arts blackbelt and just wanna ask “How to be my girl’s bodyguard”? Thanks.
Yours truly,
Dennis
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