Comments on: Dating your friend’s ex

By: Kelly

Kelly — Thu, 30 Dec 2010 21:24:43 +0000

I just started dateing my friends ex. When they broke up she told me what he had done and I diden’t beleave it at first and still don’t. So when we started dateing I told him what she had told me and he said that it was a lie. But he wont tell me what realy happoned. I know it was bad thats it. So we decided to tell her on monday and Im a little scared about what the out come may be. What shoud I do, can someone help me.

By: Alan C.

Alan C. — Wed, 15 Apr 2009 22:48:52 +0000

Don’t do it! Find your own person, like your friend did in the first place. It is not worth the friendship, especially if it doesn’t work out.

Alan C

By: Vishal

Vishal — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 08:06:12 +0000

hi,

i need your suggestion but i do not know where to post it.

I have send u mail too.
please reply and let me know where to post for suggestion on Dating.

Vishal

By: matthew

matthew — Sat, 03 Jan 2009 05:06:05 +0000

hi vanae to answer your question i do think it is ok to date a friends ex if you have permision but make sure the permision is genuine but you and your friend will probally drift apart if you talk about her allot my case of wat happened to me but other then that i think it’s fine if both you and your friend kno wat ur getting into

oh yea i have really bad spelling so don’t get mad if i spell something wrong

By: Shady

Shady — Fri, 02 Jan 2009 04:25:16 +0000

Great topic , and no I didn’t date any of my friend’s ex . you’re right Vanae , THE REAL GOOD FAITHFUL FRIENDS are hard to find these days , so we better give it a thought before losing a close friend because there is alot of attractive people but the real friends are rare

By: bobby

bobby — Thu, 01 Jan 2009 18:20:14 +0000

This is indeed a very tricky situation. I will venture to guess (without stats), that most of these situations don’t work.

How many people can honestly watch an ex with their best friend? How would they feel if the two are a success, while they failed with this person? How many friends would be completely “feelings free”? Friends talk about relationships all the time, can a friend talk with another about their relationship if one friend has the other’s ex?

Unfortunately, I would have to suggest staying away from this situation, even if that person is perceived to be “the one”, why? because it takes time to know if a person is your “soulmate” or not. Within that time, the person may end up NOT being your soulmate, and you may have lost a friend.

By: Keith

Keith — Thu, 01 Jan 2009 05:43:12 +0000

Yeah, I’ve heard that before; the “out of respect” thing. Had those thoughts also.

To me, it comes off as weak. It’s look like your asking permission. Then there is the potential for your possible lover to think:”Does this idiot think my ex had &/or has that kind of control over me.” Plus, most women want to be desired past everything.

Think about it, your friend is still your friend, but to your potential new lover, thatz their ex. Like I said, it has the potential to be a touchy situation.

Check this mentality out. The girl I was talking about trying to get with; she has went “banana ape shit” on friends, over dating a guy she met, with her friend. Literally, just met, at a bar, hung out for a night. Her friend hooked up with the guy she liked, & started dating, & she was livid. It actually came to blows. She was of the opinion that her friend betrayed her. That was the man she was going to date, & her friend was suppost to know that.

Anyway, I’m quoting snoop on this subject:”….the bitch chose me….” lol(not an immature LOL, itz a just to let you know I’m joking lol).

Anyway, happy new years, & be safe.

By: Tram

Tram — Wed, 31 Dec 2008 22:01:02 +0000

I won’t revolt against any friend who’d date my ex because sometimes I think maybe it’s their destiny to be together (one of my close friends married my ex-husband). HOWEVER, it’s really out of my limit. I just don’t find ANY of my friends’ guy (or any woman’s guy for that matter) “sexually, lustfully” attractive, even if they are very good looking. I don’t like the feeling of being inferior or insecure, and I can’t imagine any girl would either.

Great blog as always, Vanae! Keep it up.
xoxox

By: vanae

vanae — Wed, 31 Dec 2008 19:55:37 +0000

clearing it with a friend, is out of RESPECT for him/her. the last thing you want to do is make your friend feel betrayed.

Vanae

By: vanae

vanae — Wed, 31 Dec 2008 19:54:14 +0000

ahaha more electric fencing!!

thanks for being a V’star and sending you more strengthy vibes for 2009 and beyond!