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Comment by Wissam
2009-07-06 09:49:29

I am naturally shy, introvert and I used to barely able to talk two words to a girl when I was a teen.
I am still trying to overcome it, not as bad as before, but still very shy.

Comment by vanae
2009-07-08 00:16:40

hey wissam, so what made you become less shy than your teens? i’m curious how each person gets out of their shell

Comment by Wissam
2009-07-08 10:59:18

believe it or not, the internet helped big time. I was starting to make conversations in here, its much much much easier to talk here. Blogging helped too, it helped me deliver my ideas instead of just being quiet.
My next step was with woman, as Dan below I am too friend zoned a lot, which used to make me sad and all.And as we know once friend zoned that’s it, but I learned to embrace that (only very lately) and enjoy their friendship which is helping with the communication with women.
I am still shy, but I do stutter with women , I can have a normal conversation. I have to work on the last step, become a man and not just a friend. I know I look good, I am smart, and funny, so it will be ok soon :) .

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Comment by Wissam
2009-07-08 11:00:59

I mean I don’t stutter with women anymore (sorry headache)

 
 
 
 
Comment by Dan
2009-07-06 12:19:15

I am so unconfident! especially with girls. i never feel that im good enough for anybody! girls just want to be friends with me aswell, noting more :(

Comment by Wissam
2009-07-06 14:15:26

hey Dan, its okay.
I have more female friends than male friends because of that, but the more female friends you have and you treat them as friends, the more you will get used to be around women and become less shy with the ones you want to date.
Its starting to work with me.

Comment by Dan
2009-07-11 18:31:27

yeahhh i suppose that makes sense. ill give that a go! cheers mate

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Comment by Naren
2009-07-06 12:45:10

Great video (I love the enthusiasm).
Confidence is some times natural some times you work hard to achieve it.
Take up acting classes/singing/dance/pick up xD. If any guys out there have trouble talking to girls just remember the line
“express, don’t impress”.

Comment by vanae
2009-07-08 00:17:03

great line! express, don’t impress. i like that.

 
 
Comment by Camellia
2009-07-06 17:15:31

Hey Vanae :) good video. i’m pretty sure most ppl can identify with all the things you’ve said here. I can say this is something I’m still working on. It can be pretty tough to put yourself out there the first few times, especially if you’re used to playing it safe. I know for myself I’m still not completely comfortable in certain settings but it has gotten just a slight bit easier over the last little while… hopefully I’ll get to the point where i’ll be able to talk to anyone and not worry :)

 
Comment by shady
2009-07-06 20:21:48

actully , I don’t have problems with confidence with myself or boys , but when it comes to G!rLs , I explode ! it’s just so hard for me to be normal with girls (I’m soooo SHY)! because in the arab world , the boys has their schools and the girls has thier schools separatly ! in addition I don’t have any sisters ! but I’m trying to improve .

 
Comment by Matthew
2009-07-06 21:49:02

I am not very confident of asking girls to dance with me at the bar during live music. I am so shy asking girls to dance with me. I am like the guy standing there in the corner watching girls dancing sometime they ask me to dance with them and I accept their offer. What cool when I am standing there by my self is some guys will ask me why are you dancing by your self because I do not know mah people here even though I had been going to the bar for over 5 months now. so, I would join the guys and introduce me to some of his friends same as girls. it like i need to put my foot on the floor and start dancing.

 
Comment by Tommy
2009-07-07 19:13:30

Well sometimes its not as simple as have or not. Sometimes it even can be contradictory actually. Like me for example, i am very comfortable around girls… Heck i’m the one in my group of frens that usually goes out of the way to meet people and ask gals numbers but then i always feel like there can be no one that is willing to love me. So is it that i am confident or not? a bit of both i guess… And my worse habit is that whenener i get close to any girls, especially ones i like, i’ll push them to frens. Wierd habit huh…

 
Comment by Kristina
2009-08-10 03:06:19

I am confident with myself. I am just really shy and have been for a long time. I really want to change for the better..but i freeze up when i am with people i dont know..and i think about what they will think about me too much.

Comment by Sonia
2010-01-25 11:35:40

Yes! Me too .. I’m exactly the same :P i’m reading the secret to teen power.. It’s pretty good but also Vanae is great! Continue doing your blogg :)

 
 
Comment by Grandma
2009-08-25 18:53:21

One word: mindset :P

 
Comment by Watcher
2010-01-01 00:41:43

Hey vanae I’m not going but I was wondering what you do at your workshop thing

 
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