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Comment on what you’d like to improve…and what you’re going to do about it?
Let me know your thoughts on this episode of V’chat Thursday:
I am naturally shy, introvert and I used to barely able to talk two words to a girl when I was a teen.
I am still trying to overcome it, not as bad as before, but still very shy.
hey wissam, so what made you become less shy than your teens? i’m curious how each person gets out of their shell
believe it or not, the internet helped big time. I was starting to make conversations in here, its much much much easier to talk here. Blogging helped too, it helped me deliver my ideas instead of just being quiet.
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My next step was with woman, as Dan below I am too friend zoned a lot, which used to make me sad and all.And as we know once friend zoned that’s it, but I learned to embrace that (only very lately) and enjoy their friendship which is helping with the communication with women.
I am still shy, but I do stutter with women , I can have a normal conversation. I have to work on the last step, become a man and not just a friend. I know I look good, I am smart, and funny, so it will be ok soon
I mean I don’t stutter with women anymore (sorry headache)
I am so unconfident! especially with girls. i never feel that im good enough for anybody! girls just want to be friends with me aswell, noting more
hey Dan, its okay.
I have more female friends than male friends because of that, but the more female friends you have and you treat them as friends, the more you will get used to be around women and become less shy with the ones you want to date.
Its starting to work with me.
yeahhh i suppose that makes sense. ill give that a go! cheers mate
Great video (I love the enthusiasm).
Confidence is some times natural some times you work hard to achieve it.
Take up acting classes/singing/dance/pick up xD. If any guys out there have trouble talking to girls just remember the line
“express, don’t impress”.
great line! express, don’t impress. i like that.
Hey Vanae
good video. i’m pretty sure most ppl can identify with all the things you’ve said here. I can say this is something I’m still working on. It can be pretty tough to put yourself out there the first few times, especially if you’re used to playing it safe. I know for myself I’m still not completely comfortable in certain settings but it has gotten just a slight bit easier over the last little while… hopefully I’ll get to the point where i’ll be able to talk to anyone and not worry 
actully , I don’t have problems with confidence with myself or boys , but when it comes to G!rLs , I explode ! it’s just so hard for me to be normal with girls (I’m soooo SHY)! because in the arab world , the boys has their schools and the girls has thier schools separatly ! in addition I don’t have any sisters ! but I’m trying to improve .
I am not very confident of asking girls to dance with me at the bar during live music. I am so shy asking girls to dance with me. I am like the guy standing there in the corner watching girls dancing sometime they ask me to dance with them and I accept their offer. What cool when I am standing there by my self is some guys will ask me why are you dancing by your self because I do not know mah people here even though I had been going to the bar for over 5 months now. so, I would join the guys and introduce me to some of his friends same as girls. it like i need to put my foot on the floor and start dancing.
Well sometimes its not as simple as have or not. Sometimes it even can be contradictory actually. Like me for example, i am very comfortable around girls… Heck i’m the one in my group of frens that usually goes out of the way to meet people and ask gals numbers but then i always feel like there can be no one that is willing to love me. So is it that i am confident or not? a bit of both i guess… And my worse habit is that whenener i get close to any girls, especially ones i like, i’ll push them to frens. Wierd habit huh…
I am confident with myself. I am just really shy and have been for a long time. I really want to change for the better..but i freeze up when i am with people i dont know..and i think about what they will think about me too much.
Yes! Me too .. I’m exactly the same
i’m reading the secret to teen power.. It’s pretty good but also Vanae is great! Continue doing your blogg 
One word: mindset
Hey vanae I’m not going but I was wondering what you do at your workshop thing
I remember when I was in high school that confidence was all about being comfortable around girls and being outspoken. But as I grow older, the idea of confidence has had much refinement. Confidence now includes believing in yourself and your abilities…knowing what you can do and what you can’t do.
I don’t think confidence is innate in each of us. Confidence is based tremendously on our environment…how we were raised and how we interacted in our social circles during our growing pains.
Confidence here we go again!! who cares everyone has butterflies when they first meet or see someone they truly have feelings for, nobody is truly confident in the beginnings of connections because you would not have those feelings if you were so confident right from the start. Confidence builds over time and for some people it builds up quicker than others.
I personally feel girls should not just judge boys on their confidence levels just like boys should not just judge girls on their physical appearance. The personality of the person should be the key determining factor and nothing less because a personality will tell you everything you need to know about the person, and you can not tell what someones personality is after a week or two it takes months, even a lifetime.
Ummm this vid was awesome wish I could go to your workshop I live in Texas D; ehhh I want to be able to approach whoever I want without being overly self conscious of my self .. I overthink everything.. So I’ll plan to say hi but I back away.. I wish I could blurt out whatever was on my mind .. I’m very goofy & fun withy family but when it comes to school I shut down =_= I do have friends but I want to make more? ;/
i have no confidence at all i want to start going to the gym, but i don’t want people looking at me, make me feel paranoid and i hate my body, i can never go on dates because im worried they’ll hate my body. i even tell them this so their aware but they always say im goregous no need to worry, it has been said and done before and i got rejected but then was nice to my face then behind my back said horrid things, and to be honest it hurt me badly, and made my confidence very low, what do i do to gain it back?
thank you xx
please reply and help me