I would really like to improve my conversation with the other person. So far I had 3 girlfriends and maybe a fling but I was never able to keep it longer then 2 months.

I think I’m running out of things to talk about to them and therefore I cannot fulfill their requirements.

I will be a successful college professor one day and I want to be successful with someone else too, not just me. Therefore, with your help I can be one of the best guy out there.

I really need your help. I keep meeting these guys that don’t want anything serious.

My last boyfriend didn’t even call me to break up with me.

I see the red flags but for some reason ignore them for some reason. I really need to break this vicious cycle.

Please help!

Something i would like to improve on is inner confidence and understanding of how women think. I want to be able to approach females anywhere even if they are in a group of 5 or 6. This is something I have put lots of effort into but haven’t had great results. I know that finding a mate isn’t simply about settling with the person who accepts me but finding the person who I truly connect with. I know dating does not produce quick results but I do believe with enough time and effort I can get there . Although I do believe everyone is a successful canidate, I would totally love it if you picked me cuz I really believe you can help me build a better framework of how to go about it. I am very passionate and willing to put in as much work as it would take to get my potential equal with my results.

name: mark m
Occupation: retail worker
Topic you’d like to improve on: relationships
Why I should pick you to win the Coaching Scholarship: for the life of me i cant seem to start healthy relationships, after a few months the spark is lost and thats that. i have overcame lots of things(low self esteem and debt) but this is my hang up. please Vanae, help me

i’m a medical student in the Philippines
i had a girl friends before but no one seems to last i’m quiet type of person.. by your guidance and knowledge, i like to improve in my conversation skills to connect to people especially to girls that sometimes i really dont understand but i really really would like to understand them, i have a very low self esteem i dont really approach a girl but when i do walk to a girl i just suddenly blank out like literally no words comes out of my mouth. though i met girls who are aggressive they like me coz i dont talk much but they dont last long and left me.. i’ve been viewing your videos and learned a lot i beleive in your way your principles and teachings .though i’m not from the states.. but sometimes i go there coz i have lots of relatives there.. i’ll be honored if you would coach me personally even through email..

Hi,
My topic will be ‘How to get a girlfriend/wife and keep her’ I,m a construction cost estimator. Right now I,m 56 and strong, healthy, persistant, funny, happy, sexual and courageous. In 14 years I’ll be 70! Out of these next 14 years I will be asleep for 4 years, standing in lines, eating, driving, shower,shave, toilet for about 1.5 years. Working for 2 years, so that totals 7.5 years which means that I have only 6 and a half years to get it together!! So I better get cracking and thats why you should pick me. A time crunch situation… It will be a good challenge for you! Have a happy St. Paddys Day to you and all the V stars out there!!! My hearts in the bay area, but my body is in LA, hope that doesn’t exclude me….

I am a massage therapist in Texas and a full-time student. I have problems with self-confidence, anger, and no matter what, I never feel satisfied with my relationships or decisions. I’ve had a free session with you in the past, but never could come up with the money to continue with it. I’d really like to be able to talk to you every week as you were very helpful and I’d love to be more successful in every aspect of my life.

Name: Peter
Occupation: Product Test and Reliability Engineer
Topic: Self confidence/image
Why choose me:

I happened to end up on your blog because you commented on a friend’s wall on facebook. I’ve read most of your articles and have been trying to apply it to my life. Along with the art of manliness website and reading Ishmael. I’ve actually made some breakthroughs recently and my boss/friend has helped me create a road map to becoming more confident. I am bold at times and other times very timid.

I guess I am blessed/cursed. I can’t see what is good in me and have never been able to let myself be happy. I have been told that I have the total package but can never see what they see. The same issues keep creeping back in. I have never believed that I am worth anyone’s time. I would say, choose me if you like a challenge? I am trying to get through my layers of defenses and would love the help.

I’m nothing special compared to anyone else, so here I am waving my hands hoping to get picked. If you don’t pick me, it’s not the end of the world and maybe Martin, even though he’s not in the bay, might need more help than I do. I have time on my hands.

Thanks for your blog and thanks for having a wonderful voice. You’ve inspired me to make changes already.

Sincerely,
Peter

Name: Jamie

Occupation: Web Developer

Topic you’d like to improve on: Dating/Attracting the right guy

Why I should pick you to win the Coaching Scholarship: You should pick me because I am not happy with my love life, and I’ve decided that it’s about time I did something to change that. Up until this point, my dating life has been pretty much nonexistent. Now that I’ve declared that I’m ready to date, I’m not really sure where to start… With your guidance, I know that I could attract the right guy, and be in a happy, loving relationship.

Occupation: umm…. High School student

Topic you’d like to improve on: Mainly on Dating and How to get a girl to like you. I’m bad at that.

Chances are that im not going win.But i really need to vent. I have people who make fun of me. Girls never pay any attention to me. I never kissed a girl or even had a girlfriend.And on top of that i feel like i have to fit in with everyone just to get somewhere in. life.I also had a speech problem that makes me feel like im a outsider at school sometimes.You helping me would make a huge difference in my life and i will always remember it. but thanks you very much for the chance to express my life and get those needed tips.:P

Love,
Tyris Mayo

- Your name
Vance
- Occupation
Event Planner
- Topic you’d like to improve on
Communication
- Why I should pick you to win the Coaching Scholarship
Because I need it more than I’m willing to admit. I also will spread what I learn to others in need.. but not before I plug you of course

Thanks for the opportunity Vanae

Need to have more options & get out of “the one” syndrome. Got destroyed in March 2009 after a 2 year love affair & thought about being done with romance at that point.

Then started a romance campaign in July 2009 & decided to spend 1 year seeing what could happen. Got hit pretty hard with “the one” syndrome right away. Quickly realized “the one” was not an option & realized I needed more firepower if that’s the kind of heroine I was going to be into because She was just extremely rare.

Not attracted to what men normally are, you see. Halfway through the last affair, started thinking she wasn’t “the best”, she wasn’t princess charming, that I could never love someone for very long who wasn’t really some kind of warrior or some kind of military officer & those are just too rare to be very successful unless you’ve got some major romance firepower going for you.

Then, you know what? “The best” appeared. Read & watched a lot of Vin DeCarlo, Mystery Method, Neil Strauss, Vince Kelvin, David Deangelo trying to get more firepower. Always looking for another angle, more knowledge, real world practice, & feedback.

Starting to miss the days of not being in love again. Starting to want to go back to the days of being alone & stop the romance campaign early. Before the last affair, was going to someday live on 10 acres alone & do whatever I wanted, no sharing. Really rough going through the last affair, then “the one” at the start of this campaign, & shutting it down. Just looking for a good reason to keep going with romance.