It has been a rad experience these last few days at VidCon! It started out on Thursday morning, meeting up with Mark from Mahalo to film a series of videos on flirting tips for their Mahalo Network. Then hung out with Jacie (my roomie) and friends (Sam Proof, Kicesie, Steve Nguyen, and more), and met great YouTubers. Last night, we were at Freddie Wong’s place, playing ping pong and meeting very interesting folks in the video content and video game space.
So below is the first part of my interviewing series at VidCon. Here is KevJumba:
I will be in LA from July 8-11th attending the YouTube Partner Conference & VidCon 2010 (put on by the NerdFight Green Brothers). It’s the first of it’s kind and I’m excited to meetup with my YouTuber friends, V’stars and do some fun interviews about dating!!
In this recent episode, I’m highlighting some V’stars who received a postcard from me!
In this week’s episode of Vanae.com Show, I have a special guest, Nando (New York Gay Dating Guru) from Nandoism.com to answer V’star Zach’s question about gay dating!
Update: here in our V’star community, we are inclusive and we should support each other (no matter what sexual orientation). Please refrain from posting any negative comments towards our gays, because essentially, you’re putting down one of your v’star friends…and that makes me sad. Whether straight, bi-sexual or gay/lesbian, we’re defined by more than just our dating preference…each of us is an amazing individual with qualities that makes us unique- we’re human.
What do you think? Share your dating tips as a comment!
Oh, the debate of the decades…do women want assholes or nice guys? Now, notice that I wrote women, as in adult….as in mature. Not a 14 year old, who’s still figuring out herself and the world. What I’m talking about is from a perspective of quality women who are mature and know what they want.
Less than 24 hours of posting my episode on this topic below, there were 200+ comments of people’s thoughts. Lots of them were males with jaded views, thinking that women don’t know what they want…OR that secretly we want assholes.
Here’s the thing, it’s the traits and chemistry that these women are attracted to:
- fun
- confident
- assertive
- good hearted
- genuine
Here’s a secret…You can have these traits without being an asshole! Yes! I mean it! You can be the good guy and still have this awesome traits. That’s the winning combo! Let’s abolish this term of ‘nice guy’ because it’s been getting a bad wrap and people have splash all this lard on this term.
Clean slate. Strive to be a good-hearted guy who’s assertive and stands his ground.
I’ll be completely honest with yah, I wouldn’t give an asshole or a douchebag a second of my time. Why? Because when I was much much younger, I’ve dated an asshole. Been there, done that. So that experience taught me so stay away from those guys because they’re not good for me. Why date assholes, when I can date an awesome guy who supports me and treats me the way I treat him (fabulously). My boyfriends after that, were awesome people.
Ultimately, be genuine and treat people right without jeopardizing who you are and what you want. You will draw in the right match for you!
Women: At some point in your life, you’ll date an asshole (hopefully, sooner than later). Learn your lesson and never go back! It’s like when you were a kid and you saw a hot stove…you’re curious. You go to touch it. You get burned! Don’t go back and keep making the mistake! Don’t date anymore assholes!! You can still date good guys, who have the traits and chemistry you want! For whatever reason, you’re not sure if he’s an asshole, ask your friends to be honest and listen to them! They’re your greatest mirrors!
Men: Don’t be bitter. Forgot those ‘hot girls’ who only date assholes. They’re not the type of chick you wanna date anyways! Quality women will know how to spot good guys from the assholes. So be on the side who wins in the long run- the good guy with assertive and confident qualities. IF you want to be coached on how to be more confident and assertive, then contact me.
Game Dae Wednesdae: Female v’stars, have you dated assholes? Ultimately, what type of men do you want? Men, what do you think about this topic? What have you learned in your experience?
