vanae (happier you* guide)

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after a breakup, you wonder if you’ll ever be friends again…considering all the pain, mistakes, intensity, love, happiness, and sorrow that you went through.

two highlights of my year are:
1) forgiving my most recent ex-boyfriend, BT
2) more significantly, forgiving the man who broke my heart in 2005, JB

it took me some time to get to this place of zen and realization that holding negative energy, makes your life heavy..it weighs it down. it was a major move to forgave JB, when got in contact with me after 3 years.

then, one of the main things that helped me come to forgive BT, is reflecting back to my most recent relationship with him and realizing how healthy it was. it was the best relationship i’ve ever had. we shared our lives, our love, our friends, our compassion for people, our love for music and our growing pains. WE WERE BEST FRIENDS.

then we lost that closeness once we broke up, because i had resentments for the mistakes he made. now, i think about those mistakes and they are a speck of sand compared to what we can absorb from this world, from each other. to lose a best friend because it didn’t work out romantically…it’s a shame.

but i do have to mention, in order come to this point of forgiveness and peace, you must have spent enough time away from each other to reflect, understand and be at peace with yourself. it took me 3 years to respond to JB and let him know that i forgive him. and tonight (after more than a year), i also forgave BT.

but when i did, it meant the world to me. as it did to them.

have you forgiven your ex? how did you let them know?

vanae (feeling light as a feather)

i believe in soulmates.
and i believe that there isn’t just ONE person for you on the planet, because if so, it’d be sad to think that you’d have to bump into him/her within 50 miles of your proximity.

the one(s) exist anywhere on this earth. and you may meet him/her randomly but most likely not when you’re looking for it. but here’s a funny episode of ’sexy beijing’ where a jewish chick is looking for a bf in city of beijing.

i love the theme. (i’m a huge ’sex and the city’ fan!)
also, love how fluent she is in mandarin. totally catches people off guard.

Danwei TV Sexy Beijing - Looking for Double Happiness - Funny bloopers are a click away

new episode on:
how to break up with someone
and
how to survive a break up

http://youtube.com/watch?v=fIp1v8d20xU

what has helped you through a break-up?

are you subscribed to ‘pick the brain‘ blog? you totally should! it’s a great blog on self-improvement and awareness. here’s a video sharing their tips on ‘how to be extroverted.

then it is…

too good to be true

april is std-awareness month

i get ALL types of messages, but i like to highlight the ridiculous ones on my blog.

this is the best match msg i have ever received.

the type to bring home to mom. (insert sarcasm here)

the end is always hard.

incoming thoughts replaying moments, things he/she said…emotions of sadness, bitterness, happiness , confusion.

take these thoughts and fold them into a paper boat. put it in a stream and gently blow it downstream.

and let it go. 

there’s no point of overthinking it. sometimes it doesn’t work because it wasn’t a fit.

give yourself time to heal for someone who does deserve your time. trust me…it only gets bigger and better. 

refresh-ing,
vanae