Last week, I did an episode on trust and believing what your significant other revealed about their sexual history. Inevitably, this spawned the discussion about sex partners ( and sadly, some guys had very sexist thoughts/expectations of women). One male even commented that he wanted to know how many people she’s been with so that he can protect her. Now, I’ve never heard of this reasoning before..so I’m surveying you to get your thoughts on this topic.
First off. we all know how important it is to honestly talk about sexual history with your mate – about sexual practices, STIs, safer sex, birth control, etc. So this talk is standard and it’s essential. Now that we’ve gotten that out of the way…
Game Dae Wednesdae is: Does it matter to you about your partner’s past sex rendevous? Whether it be the number of partners, what they’ve experience, how long ago? If so, why? Also, what is your age? and I’m not referring to as a curiosity. When I say matter, I mean, it really matters to you.
I have a theory about this and will see if it’s true according to our v’stars.
My friend, Timid, sent this to me recently and wanted my thoughts on this. But before I share my opinion on this, I would love to hear it from each V’star.
I’m sure everyone has heard of or read the book, The Game by Neil Strauss. There’s mixed feelings about this book. Some consider it as the male’s bible to dating, confidence and social interactions. Others consider the Book of Douchebagery. This book depicts Neil’s journey into the Seduction Community and Pick Up Artist Community.
Curious, what do you think of The Game?
Of course, I have thoughts about The Game and the PUA community but I’ll share them on an upcoming Vanae.com Show episode.
So, what are your thoughts on The Game? Be honest. I’d love to hear it.
Ever thought ‘I would love to share my article on Vanae.com?’ Well now you can! I have been getting articles and questions from those who want to post a guest blog article here. So I’m currently accepting submissions from guest bloggers!
Here are the guidelines:
- Must tie in the theme of dating, relationships, sex, spirituality or personal development
- No more than 500 words
- Be sure to include a short description about you, your blog and a url link.
Submit to: ayvanae@gmail.com
I will review each submission and will contact you if I decide yours will make it on here. Who knows, if your shietz good I might invite you to become a regular guest blogger here on Vanae.com
Many of you have been there since the very beginning: when Vanae.com was just a personal journal and I was experimenting with different styles for my early webshow videos. It has developed into our thriving V’star community and I am extremely fortunate that my coaching has helped thousands and thousands across the globe. Then there are v’stars who joined pretty recently, welcome welcome! Well, it’s been an incredible year of 2009 and I wanted to thank you all for being on this journey and evolving with me. Creating this best-of list, I realized I’ve shared and done a lot. Experienced a big year but even more excited about this new year! Here, I share the best-of topics, articles and games we’ve played in 2009!
I love talking about topics that are taboo! Sex was a very taboo topic growing up in a conservative yet gangsta vietnamese community. Shietz, it was the reason that got me interested in this area, in the first place. But I wanted to challenge that and was one of the rare open book (in high school) to talk about sex, sexuality and dating. Hence, my natural calling as a Life & Dating Coach and Sexual Health Peer Educator (in college).
We all do it or at least it’s on our mind. We talk about it with our friends yet it’s not openly discussed much. So let’s get it out in the open, explore and have real talk! For those who know me personally or met in person, you’ll know that I am goofy, crude, love to laugh and very open about talking about anything.
So here is the 2nd part of my episode with SkyyJohn, part of V’talk Thursdae, discussing a taboo topic (that people rarely talk about) – if you are open to/ like ass stimulation and you’re a guy, does that mean you’re gay?
Look, gay is a sexual orientation- a preference and attraction to the same sex.
Gay IS NOT an adjective. Nor does it have anything to do with sexual acts between heterosexuals.
So perhaps this ventures into a sub-topic:
Gay- what does that mean to you? Especially Gay V’stars, I would love your thoughts so we can breakdown this excessive usage of the term ‘gay’ for the wrong reasons. Claim it.
V’stars, would love to know what your thoughts are on this week’s Vanae.com episode!
MUAH!
Vanae
Here’s the male vs. female perspective episode with SkyyJohn. Hanging out with him is never dull. Our humor together is super crude, silly and we cuss alot (I actually say a lot of profanity in person). So on this episode, he interviewed me on my thoughts on porn, strippers and other things. Let’s not forget that we ALL do it, so let’s stop pretending that we don’t and talk about it.
I hope you enjoy this as much as the fun I had doing this interview!
