Comments on: Are you overthinking? How to stop!

By: Ellie

Ellie — Mon, 19 Dec 2011 04:11:52 +0000

I am SO glad there are so many comments on this topic! I have felt so alone because i thought that i was the only one who thought like this to the degree that i do. I know it’d so unhealthy and i’ve been doing it since i was just little (i’m 24 now). I have been dating the most amazing person and i feel that i am picking apart his every move. He’s 19, he hasn’t picked a major in school yet, etc. These are just some of the things i panic about. I worry so much about everything that i give myself panic attacks to the point of being sick. He’s such an incredible person and calms me down when this happens but shortly after, i’m back at it again, overthinking everything he does. It’s EXHAUSTING!! but i feel like there isn’t any other way to act. This has killed several relationships for me and i just need to stop because when i’m not anxious and stressed, i feel that he could be someone i could marry one day. I do love that you’re all writing about your issues as it makes me feel so much better!!! Thank you thank you THANK YOU!

By: Taylor

Taylor — Tue, 29 Nov 2011 10:07:13 +0000

I read this because i notice myself constantly over thinking my relationship. I can instantly turn something positive into something negative, and it makes me sick. i love the person i am with, and they have never done anything to me that has caused me to be so scared and untrustworthy towards them, but there is something about the mind of a female that likes to make things worse than they really are. I wish this wouldn’t happen, and i wish i could stop myself before i start. I dont really realize that im doing it till i have thought up the most negative thoughts possible, then i will be like “ughhh, you’re doing it again, chill out”. Its really exhausting, and im going to start working out fixing the issue

By: Jamie

Jamie — Mon, 20 Jun 2011 14:19:57 +0000

Hey, I just scrolled across your page and I found some of it to be very helpful. I really do over-think things with my relationship and I think I am poisoning it. I will sometimes see that my boyfriend has sent emails to his friends that are girls saying he wants to hang out or party one day with them. I really over-think his love for me and I’m afraid he would cheat and try to lie about it. He said he never would though, but everyone lies. I’m going to try and take the information you put on here and follow it. Because every time, I have been in the wrong and seemed crazy, so thanks.

By: Michael

Michael — Thu, 07 Apr 2011 11:17:57 +0000

Funny, because I’m actually awake at 4:13 because of insomnia thinking about what I should do with this one girl. And then randomly strolled to this page that I’ve never come across in my life.

By: Abhishek

Abhishek — Wed, 09 Feb 2011 19:41:39 +0000

I really appreciate that , i think we should not waste our tears for someone who never did and probabily won’t do any thing for us. Look there are many hearts which beat for us just like parents and good friends please try to give a little tribute to them

By: Joseph

Joseph — Tue, 28 Dec 2010 14:35:13 +0000

over thinking you know that thats the main cause of insomnia

By: Saurabh C

Saurabh C — Sun, 18 Jul 2010 03:45:42 +0000

Some time i over-think when i truly love a person or miss some one. But then i tell to myself that what’s mine is mine nobody can take away from me and what’s not mine i am not running for that or pretending something else. I generally live my life with this attitude.

~ SC

By: Antonio "jay" Golez/Aras Ferrer Junior

Antonio "jay" Golez/Aras Ferrer Junior — Fri, 18 Jun 2010 19:28:20 +0000

I couldnt agree more.

I tell my friends a saying

its like sitting on a porch eatting popcorn watching a tornado/hurricane that is running through a city of problems.

By: William

William — Sun, 13 Jun 2010 23:39:12 +0000

I think Derek is totally ignorant to this advice and I would like to give my thoughts on the subject.

Step 1: This is telling you to do what you want and not what others want you to do. Derek thinks people will leave you because you don’t want to do what they want. I say, if someone is willing to leave you for this reason then would you really want to be with this person, and if you get rid of these people in your life you will get rid of a source of negativity because you’re under no pressure to do things you don’t want to do. You will also find people respect you more because you are you.

Step 2: This asks you to release thoughts by doing activates you like. Derek doesn’t understand this and asks how this is possible. Well, as an aspiring artist, I like to draw and When I am drawing I am so focused I forget about everything else. After I am done, I have a fresh perspective on my thoughts and realize I was just being silly. Once these thoughts are out of my head, I can start to think about the more important things in my life.

Step 3: this seems similar to step 1, but where the first asks you to do things for yourself, this one is asking you to realize your potential. I mean just because you have the confidence to say no and do what you want, does not necessarily mean you know what you are capable of. Knowing what you can achieve will go a long way in the struggle to find happiness in ones life.

Step 4: This might be the kind of thing you here over and over but that’s only because it is true, trust is the key to a good relationship, you have to have trust in yourself to be happy, and I think the most important advice here is if someone doesn’t feel the same way move on. Think about it, if you’re chasing someone who doesn’t feel the same way you’re missing opportunities to meet someone who would if only he/she had the chance.

Right or wrong, these are just my opinions on the subject.

Oh and Derek is it not a bit childish to insult someone because you do not understand the advice they give you.

Vanae if you read this I would just like to say I love Vanea.com. It has inspired me to go for my goals in life. I also love your singing voice.

“Don’t take life too seriously; you’ll never get out alive.” ~Elbert Hubbard

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