(photo by Stacy Keck)
“YOU are your best investment”- Vanae
My philosophy that I live by on the daily:
“Create exponential goodness.”
My 3 check points:
1. Is it modern?
2. Created with compassion?
3. Done with integrity?
I am guided by these values and I am super happy that I get to spend my days empowering people for inner fulfillment, personal growth and refining ourselves as modern men and women living a meaningful life….This is my passion.
I am:
- located in the beautiful city of San Diego, CA.
- Consultant for Dating Sites & Businesses on Web Presence, Social Media, Video Marketing and Branding
- Earning a Masters in Counseling, Marriage Family Therapy
- Certified Integral Coach (ICF accredited from New Ventures West)
- Peer sexual health educator (university level)
- Non-profit founder (Rock Your Awareness)
- B.A. in Communication, Psychology (minor)
- HERE FOR YOU.
Since my teens, I was a magnet for people to open up to me about dating, relationships, sex and life. Maybe because I was an open book. Maybe because I love the dating process. Maybe because I liked to connect with people on an authentic level. But what I knew for sure that my purpose in life is to positively impact as many people as possible, creating exponential goodness, using a fresh approach.
Reaching over 10 million views on my webshow, Vanae.com show,
Coaching hundreds of individuals all around the world,
36,000 v’stars all over the globe…
here I am..humbled, doing exactly what I was called to do.
And I’m glad you’re with me on this journey to reach our full potential for love and happiness.
The purpose of this blog is to empower you with authenticity, nurture your soul to succeed in your dating life! It’s not about them. It’s about you. Showing you how to fish, not hand you one.
A splash of hip. A splash of personal-ness. A splash of you. This blog is full of awesome. This is the journey for the V’star community.
My key advice: Carpe diem! Take charge and take balance. Do everything you want to, that makes you happy. Do good – through volunteering and charity. Take time to get in tuned with yourself and be in a place where you don’t need to date in order to be happy.
Facts about me, I:
1. LOVE sending/receiving postcards and letters.
2. Superb at making lists
3. Write, film and produce my own videos
4. Believe HUGS can cure almost anything.
5. Mango is my favorite fruit
6. Love nerding out about video marketing, branding and social media
I get to connect with people from all over the world and empower them for transformation. It’s amazing! We’ll identify the root cause then create a plan to move you forward and up! You’ll be such a happier person.
For one-on-one coaching, dating profile make-overs, social media consulting or to ‘Say hello’ click CONTACT ME.
If you’d like to send me mail or goodies:
P.O. Box 3210
San Diego, CA 92163
Love,
Vanae
Hey there V! i was thinking have ya done a vid on tall girl short guy couples? Everyone tells me there’s such a set line and that i can’t go for girls taller than me. Thing is i’m pretty confident and often do. am i wastin my time?? mind they’re never more than an inch to two inches taller. Cheers
hey tom,
i’ve seen plenty of taller gfs and i don’t think it’s much of an issue.
i truly believe that height doesn’t matter to the right person, but it starts with you. You gotta be ok and confident about your height, yourself. Cus you don’t have an issue with it, she won’t.
accidently found your video on youtube while searching for how to build up your confidence.went through some of your videos.i am really impressed.keep it up.and really looking forward to hear you sing your full song.great voice you got.i hope i turn out to be one of your 2000 subscribers.bye.
hey v’star meren,
i’m glad you found us! looking forward to having you in the v’star community.
happy holidays and wishing much excitement for 2010!
Vanae
Hey, I’m Martin, optimist and trying to see everything from positive perspective though life is often tough on me, though I’m just starting to step into life(I’m in high school), so I hope you don’t mind I take you a bit as my idol, where to reach with the optimism. Have fun!
hey v’star martin,
welcome welcome!
i’m super flattered that you see me as your idol for optimism.
embrace the beauty in life, my dear. it’s all around us, living each moment.
reach up and forward.
Vanae
you are damn cute
Hey! I just stumbled upon your youtube and it lead me here. I literally have known about you for like 10 minuutes but I’m already in love with you and what you do!! I look forward to improving myself and learning through your site and videos!!
-Gerri
You’re AWESOME Vanae!!!!
thanks a lot for everything Vanae!!! im really getting inspire by you! your so positive and optimist. you are like my inspiration to keep it up and always be happy and look after myself… <3 U
I enjoy your upbeat sense of humor. Your website is well designed too. Look forward to viewing for of your videos.
Hey Vanae,
Really love your channel. I recently broke up with my GF after 6 years and it has been hard to deal with the situation. The hardest part is waking up in the morning and realizing that she isn’t there. I think the term is called “empty bed synderome” how do you deal with this part and these emotions?
Aden
PS. Hello from UK
Hello Vanae,
I absolutely adore you. I think you’re amazing and you give great advice to people. Keep up the good work:)
wow another martin…so I am martin1 now… nice site!!
Hey Vanae,
My name is David from the netherlands and ive seen ur vids on youtube.
Ive dated tons of women also having experiments how woman react on certain ”moves”
Im very intrested in psychology also..
You are a peer sex educator @university level? hmm wut does that supose 2 mean?(sounds intresting to me
)
I would like 2 have some mailchat wit you 2 transfer information\vision about dating and other things.. like how 2 create acttration during a date
Whats ur vision about that? Cool website btw
(my english isnt great, srry 4 dat)
keep up the great work!!
Greetz&love
David
ps i was tryin to email you but i can so i do it this way:)
Hey i’m really happy that I actually found this website that actually makes since.
Hei Vanae. Just wanted to say, its kinda refreshing to see some relationship/dating advice coming from a female perspective.
stumbled across one of your vids on youtube while I was searching getting out of the friendzone.
I dunno if you’ve heard of Carlos Xuma before, but both your methods and advice share similarities with each other.
Personally I think its because the advices you both are sharing are coming from a genuinely good place, (lets face it, there are alot of PUA’s on youtube who try to do the same thing, but something about their methods or unhealthy views about women just rubs ya the wrong way.
Anyway, i’m getting of the subject here. Just wanted to say, like your work, and keep up the good stuff!
baz
Vanae- Stumbled upon your videos by accident on Youtube. I’ll be honest, you looked hot in the thumb nail sketch so I had to check you out. To say the least you are very interesting. Quick question first, Tran if I’m not mistaken is French Indo China (Indo China royalty as the rumor goes) and Vanae is French so it makes logical sense your birth name is Vanae, but I would bet you created the name. Just a guess, your name fits you well which is rare.
I watched one of your videos on sex on the first date, and I believe your response was more or less go for it. I would like to give you the perspective of an alpha male. I, as well as many of my alpha friends, are having a very difficult time staying interested in a our relationships even though the girls were pronominal catches. Sorry I’ll speak English now. Why was I getting tired of having sex with hot chicks after only a few months? My quest for the answer led me to the work of Dr. David Hawkins. Don’t know if you are familiar with Hawkins’ work but I would put him in with James, Jung and Freud. Bottom line is I had to transcend my ego and re-contextualize sex and restore it the “default settings” of my spirit. What? The guy must adore his girl and sex must be a continual gift not the self serving, egoistic, I will give you the sexual experience of your life, that the narcissistic ego craves. Ie Charlie Sheen. That’s a case study. Anyway, just a suggestion you’re an impressive girl and your videos are great, if you want the juicy truth email me back and I’ll give you my number.
i love ur tips. i am 28 m single. i wanna marriage with beautiful girls but i have some money. i know without money i can marriage with beautiful girls. i am really upset without marriage. i am very nice person. why girls no accept my proposal. plz give me advise and help me.
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i lllove your video’s add you to myspace eddiecouch12@yahoo.com bye
i love you…this is my email:kako.mysterio16@hotmail.com…..you can add me and we can have a good time together…see you babe
hey Vanae,
i happened to run across a few of your youtube videos earlier and got hooked on them right from the first one…i like how personal you are in your videos…even though its published to the masses, it feels as though you are giving each person individual attention =) please continue to do what you do…you certainly help people smile when they need it~ i will continue to watch them and use your tips in practice =)
thanks for being there for me~,
Ray
I was just watching a skyyjohn video and came across a video of yours. I watched a few and I really like them. You are funny and give great advice. I love what you are doing and I would like to contribute. I have suffered from depression, anxiety, lack of confidence and priority problems over the last 5 years and would like to share my experiences with others. I will be submitting a guest post when I have time.
Churr
You’re awesome =)
hi…i love this website..i haven’t thought to have a dating motivator before.but when i watched your video,i think i should have a dating motivator.thanks..