(photo by Stacy Keck)
“YOU are your best investment”- Vanae
My philosophy that I live by on the daily:
“Create exponential goodness.”
My 3 check points:
1. Is it modern?
2. Created with compassion?
3. Done with integrity?
I am guided by these values and I am super happy that I get to spend my days empowering people for inner fulfillment, personal growth and refining ourselves as modern men and women living a meaningful life….This is my passion.
I am:
- located in the beautiful city of San Diego, CA.
- Consultant for Dating Sites & Businesses on Web Presence, Social Media, Video Marketing and Branding
- Earning a Masters in Counseling, Marriage Family Therapy
- Certified Integral Coach (ICF accredited from New Ventures West)
- Peer sexual health educator (university level)
- Non-profit founder (Rock Your Awareness)
- B.A. in Communication, Psychology (minor)
- HERE FOR YOU.
Since my teens, I was a magnet for people to open up to me about dating, relationships, sex and life. Maybe because I was an open book. Maybe because I love the dating process. Maybe because I liked to connect with people on an authentic level. But what I knew for sure that my purpose in life is to positively impact as many people as possible, creating exponential goodness, using a fresh approach.
Reaching over 10 million views on my webshow, Vanae.com show,
Coaching hundreds of individuals all around the world,
36,000 v’stars all over the globe…
here I am..humbled, doing exactly what I was called to do.
And I’m glad you’re with me on this journey to reach our full potential for love and happiness.
The purpose of this blog is to empower you with authenticity, nurture your soul to succeed in your dating life! It’s not about them. It’s about you. Showing you how to fish, not hand you one.
A splash of hip. A splash of personal-ness. A splash of you. This blog is full of awesome. This is the journey for the V’star community.
My key advice: Carpe diem! Take charge and take balance. Do everything you want to, that makes you happy. Do good – through volunteering and charity. Take time to get in tuned with yourself and be in a place where you don’t need to date in order to be happy.
Facts about me, I:
1. LOVE sending/receiving postcards and letters.
2. Superb at making lists
3. Write, film and produce my own videos
4. Believe HUGS can cure almost anything.
5. Mango is my favorite fruit
6. Love nerding out about video marketing, branding and social media
I get to connect with people from all over the world and empower them for transformation. It’s amazing! We’ll identify the root cause then create a plan to move you forward and up! You’ll be such a happier person.
For one-on-one coaching, dating profile make-overs, social media consulting or to ‘Say hello’ click CONTACT ME.
If you’d like to send me mail or goodies:
P.O. Box 3210
San Diego, CA 92163
Love,
Vanae
Vanae,
Just came across some of your stuff on you tube, which lead me to the your blog.. .. and I felt compelled to tell you that I really enjoy your sites and your brightness.. good one you ! best of luck.
Great SMILE !!
b a
hi there Vanae…
Hi
Ur Cute and Nice
Bye
Depression Depression Depression aaaaaaaa
HEEEEELP
I hate winter! I want summer!
Thanks for the videos you uploaded on youtube. I get a lot of information there and it is helping me big time. Thanks and more power!
im speechless.
you are amazing. you videos help so much. oh so much.
::sighs::
can you do a complete video of take me as i am?, please.
have you ever thought about doing radio?
you should.
really.
david from so cal.
hey david,
perhaps, i’ll do a full video of that song =)
radio, would be interesting
V
another question?
what video cam are you using?, the quality is superb.
it’s my iSight on my macbook pro
I can’t decide if I watch your videos to avoid doing required readings for my lectures, or to keep gazing at your beautiful smile.
Hey vanae.. i just wanted to say thanks for putting a smile on my face after watchin a couple of ur videos on youtube… i been havin a rough time since this girl n i have broken up recently after 2 years. Its just nice to be reminded how a great smile can be so contageous =-) take care
Wow, Vanae!
That was so awesome of you to call on Valentine’s day. Really cool of you. You’re right though. I do tend to over-analyze things and silence isn’t necessarily (hope I spelled that right… LOL!) a bad thing. ^-^
Thanks again,
Stephen “Mr. Awkward Silence”
PS – I know that you’re pretty wise so when I said friend I was really talking about me. Sorry for lying. I don’t like admitting that I have a question or problem. Especially sometimes when it comes to trying to figure out dating… I apologize.
Hi i just added you as a freind on youtube. I loved! your videos got so addicted to watching them over and over so interesting and beleive every word. I looked at some other videos that guys made on the topic of how to get girlfriend and I just did not find it as conveincing as yours. Your a very intelligent woman thats making alot of people happy and more to come. I have been having serious trouble getting a girlfreind and I hope and think you just might be able to help me. I suppose I just need to find out what I’am doing thats wrong and stopping me from getting one. Hope to hear back from you.
U R Great! Sexy! Cute!
Just tell me how to get you babe!!!
hi vanae i just stumbled at youtube and ended up here i think your awesome
Wow… Just like I remembered you! You look amazing and it seems all is beyond well for you!
And Battlestar Galatica?! Neato! Lol. Keep it up girl.
Take care.
great to hear from yah moises
=)
V
you are amazing…. im speechless. (all the time)
everytime i see my subscriptions list on youtube, and i see your video, its like a rainbow to me.
do you actually read all these post..?
just wondering
david
yups, i read all the comments.
thanks david, very sweet of you to say.
and i’m glad you’re part of the V’star community!
love the way u r. n ur positive thinking to words the world. and try to build a healthy environment. that all good i like that n ur so active as well keep it up
mrs vanae
and to all v stars
Hi venae i just recently had stumbled upon you too on youtube and was surprised at all the talent you have, i believe u are soo much more than a helping hand and believe one day you will be very famous… im soo glad i got on the V train. thank you for giving me this oportunity. LOVE
OHH AND U HAVE THE CUTEST DIMPLES EVER!!
Hi there! I stumbled on to your youtube videos and I feel compelled to say God bless you and your family for all that you do and will do to help people in need. Your an amazing person, you inspire us all to be better people. Peace!
hey andy, thank for your support and kind words! i really appreciate it.
we’re all here to bond to make this place a bit lovelier.
Hey Vanea just wanted to say Hi and thank you again for making my days brighter
thank you for letting me sun-shine it up!
you are beatiful.
i am only new to you i found you on youtube and just seeing 3 or 4 of your videos i find you to be an absolute legend and terrific advice giver, and i am exceptionally pleased that a women has gone out on a limb to actually help males AND females alike, and the best thing about it is that you are speaking truths that i think 90% of the worlds population could relate to and work with, truelly i am in admiration of your life smarts
keep up the good work
Josh from Australia
greetings to australia! i’ve been wanting to visit there for a while now!
i appreciate you taking the time to share a kind comment. my passion is to help people and engage them positively.
i love it and thanks for coming along for the ride.
V
Hey
I was on youtube in desperate need of dating advice, and I happen to see one of yur vids and ended up on your website. I just wanna stop by and say thanku for all that your doing when it comes to helping people build self-esteem and improve their social life. You are truly someone special! Keep up the good work!
Talk to you later
-Mike
you’re super welcome! keep it locked Mike!
I’ve been traveling for work and away from Vanae.com for several weeks. I’ve met someone and it’s complicated (of course), but coming back and reading posts past and present, you make me feel better about the prospects. Thanks for being here.
hey david,
where did you travel to?
=)
welcome back!
and thank you.
vanae
I watched a couple of your youtube videos; awesome stuff! I really wanted to know how a beautiful young girl like yourself got into something like this. It looks to me like you wouldn’t have any problems getting a boyfriend. Me on the other hand, can use all the help I can get. Im a musician. Im 21 and I live in Chicago, and of course Im single, but im keepin my eye out for the lucky lady. If and when I do find her. WHAT DO I DO??? ha ha
~peace~
hi vanae im idris from sudan,i guess im da only arab guys talkin 2 u,im 21 single studyin engineering telecommunications,i have problems i think ure da only 1 who can slove them n i cant say it here coz its kinda embarrasing so i need ure help plz,thnx i hope in da near future i can be 1 of da biggest v’star of ures,thnx
Hi Vanae! I love your great advises but I hate snail mail. Any way I can contact you through e-mail?
hey cha, yeah, you can definitely call me or click on ‘contact me’ on the top right of this page
V
Just stumbled across a couple of your videos on the ‘tube by accident, solid stuff. You articulate very well and really connect with your audience. It’s phenomenal seeing fellow 20-somethings passionate about what they do. Keep it up!
hey brandon,
i’m glad you stumble upon me and this V’star community!
thanks for the kind words and look forward to seeing you participate in this awesome community!
Vanae
Hey, Came across your vids on you tube, again by pure accident….. left you hello msg on you tube.
Tony
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rrmC4TA9Rkw
HI tony, thanks for your video!
it’s always nice to see a face and a personality with my V’stars. i’ve posted your vid to my blog to be included as questions submitted to ‘getting personal with Vanae’
cool accent!
and i’ll be answering your questions in the next episode.
=)
i’m impressed and inspired with ur vids on youtube. your words are theraputic… keep up the gud work. Godbless u.
hey girlbert, i appreciate your kind words! glad to know that my efforts are paying off.
=)
welcome to the V’star community.
Excuse me i want ask for help, i want to know how to keep relationship with girls, or maybe more into it, cause i really like this girl, and she got a lot of boys are going around her, so how can run up and easly got date with her. O My God pls help !
You ever been kissed by your relatives (or parents) and they do that “sniff kiss” on you? It’s a sign of affection where the person basically goes up to your face, nose first, and just does a quick sniff-kiss…
To take it to another level, have you ever dated a bf who sniff-kissed you? Ever sniff-kissed your bf? What do you think about it? Now THAT’S true Vietnamese right there. haha
I dated a girl who did that, and at first it bothered me, but eventually I found it to be cute.
mark,
you have NO IDEA!
I LOVE SNIFF KISSES!!! to me those are the best form of affection, along with kisses on the forehead.
my mum was the one who taught be sniff kisses. and still today, she sniff kisses my cheek every time i see her!
Vane
Can someone clarify a sniff kiss, me lika the sounda!
is it like an eskimo kiss??? regardless very cute! peas out Big V
hey im from finland i suriously thinking about moving in to CA i hate snow and the cold so it would be fun to know least 1 more person in there my m8 is living in san diego… any how i just like to say that u cant have too many friends
finland? seems like an interesting country to visit.
you’ll love CA!
Im sure you get this all the time… but i do really LOVE YOU!… those other guys that don’t mean it like i do… so im just putting it out there… if you need a man that will LOVE YOU FOREVER, THAT WOULD BE ME… come visit San Diego when you get a chance… you have my email, use it whenever you feel like! have a wonderful life!!!
Hi Vanae, it’s the first time that i look your site and I love it….or better still, I love you. Bye and ciao
thanks for stopping by giorgio!
hey vanae, somehow i just find out about ur videos at youtube and ended up here, im from Costa Rica so whenever u wanna come just let me know
hey andres!
greeting to costa ricaaaa!
your blog and videos are incredible. i would love to chat with you and learn from some of that magnificent coaching skills of yours. i think we’d get along quite well! <3
hey daeung,
email me at ayvanae@gmail.com if you want one-on-one coaching!
=)
and thanks for your kind words
vanae, i called you and your number was disconnected or something.
my number works.
remember to dial (1) first then my number.
HEY EVERYONE! I’m Jonathan from San Antonio Texas. I’d like to say my TESTIMONY. I don’t know if there was a specific testimony area or what. But i figured this page under Vanae would be nice to post this here. Since I’m giving my testimony for Vanae and everyone here. I’d like to say that Vanae is truely a wonderful person. A true leader and Awesome Inspire’er. um if that’s a word? lol
Question #1. What was the before and after of talking to vanae? before i had a chat with vanae on the phone. I was still holding myself from moving forward. A good 6 years, a lot of feelings and emotions have drowned me. My experience after talking to Vanae was inspiring. At first i found myself for the first time and so long. I have had my father always tell me to step back and look at the picture. But i could never get into focus. The way Vanae spoke to me, was magical. She knows how to smooth transition her words to heal your soul in such a way. She has a gift of guidance. And i really, really enjoyed speaking with Vanae. She made me feel so comfortable as if i could speak to her like a best friend. I painted a Beautiful Canvas in my mind of all the wonderful things in my life, Thanks to Vanae. The next Day i was the happiest as can be and still contemplating on what i must do to perform the cleansing of my life. To remove the dark taint of which I’ve let spread, like the taint of prince of Persia. (360game) Later that day, the moment of truth and realization had come to my attention, i got worried, that maybe I’d find an easier way to ease the pain and maybe go a different route. But NO, I had to call Vanae again. She was so nice to talk to me a second time, let alone leave me a voice mail. She is Really wonderful. I had a small doubt, and i talked to her. Out of the time she spent, 2 hours with me the day before. Now an added 20 min or so. I am truly grateful for her time and i will not waste it in vain. She told me the only way to get rid of my darkness was to address the problem and really take care of it the hard way. My attention to my issue has made me agree to do as Vanae has advised.
2# how has this advice helped me become better to the point of realization? Not only did she address this one particular issue, but it was the strongest issue and contagiously affecting everything else in my life. By fixing this one, she sought out to purify the taint in my Canvas. she noticed it would change my life forever in ever aspect. With her great knowledge she has advanced forward, guiding me, to resolute my problem. Now i have a chance to be a better me. Finding who we are is the center of every one of us. Now i can start.
Thank you Vanae for all of your help, truly. If anyone needs help by advice, please do no hesitate to get a hold of the pretty Vanae. She’s Magical.
thanks for this lovely testimony, jonathan! i’ve added it my testimonies page!
Fantastico, u r Gorgious (inner and outer)
aww thanks MR!
very sweet of you to say!
Hey Vanae! I just watched a few of your very inspirational videos on Youtube and I’d just like to say that they’re all awesome! Even though the dating styles are WAY different here in the Philippines, you still get to make a lot of sense. Keep up the awesome work!
hey karmena, thanks! i really appreciate that. and i’m glad you joined our V’star community!
You have the rare gift of helping the world. Keep up the fantastic work, young one.
hey dmc, you called me ‘young one’ so i’m guessing you’re older.
=)
i feel very fortunate to be able to help people like this! so thanks for your support! and keep on’ rocking’
Vanae
hi Vanae, hw r u?
im NAif from saudi arabia, realy i like ur site and i like what u do.
good luck and god bless u, bye (^^,)
hey naif,
hello to saudi arabia!
so glad you stumbled upon my site and the V’star community!!
thanks for the well wishes!
=)
vanae
hey i have seen a few vids on youtube and i would really like to get some advice from you so if possible could u email me backor whateva you gotta do i dont really get how this works and i could tell you my situation and hopefully you can help me out a bit…thanx
hey vanae Iam 16 and your vids are really helpful and i really appreciate you taking the time out to help others. But when ever you can could you make a video about how to deal with stereotypes. Thanks
Mike
hey there v’star mike,
let me know what type of stereotypes you’d like me to address.
vanae
Hey Vanae! You’re awesome. You’re real down to earth and fun and at the same time very informative. I enjoy your posts. I’m really into music, as well. I love the choonz you select for intro/backgrounds for your vidz. Could you tell me who the artists/DJs are that you love and use often?
I have a question for you – an issue that has been troubling me lately; I guess you could say I’m confused. After asking out a number of girls (over time) I often get a response like: “I don’t feel comfortable going to dinner alone with you. If you wanna hang out come to [some group function].” Do you personally think this is just a way of hinting that she is not interested in dating me, or do you think that that is just some sort of boundary that she grew up with earlier in life? Now mind you, I have received this type of comment from several girls who didn’t know each other. Thanks V-girl…
4Eva Tru,
Rich – NJ
I stumbled upon your video ‘How to make a girl fall in love with you’. From this I could see that you are wise and broad-minded. It is nice to see that you are using your talent to help people worldwide, by giving very good practical advice.
It also gave me a good feeling because you appear to have a pure heart.I am 50+ and happy to see that there are people like you around.
Daniel
London,UK
hey daniel,
greetings to the UK. i truly appreciate your kind words and support.
makes me happy.
keep rocking it in the UK!
Vanae
Hey Vanae, I just to say thanks for the advice.Of those Video of Youtube.
you’re very welcome, v’star alfredo!
I also want to say you have a Nice Smile.
Hey Vanae, i was wondering if you can help me out,cause i have come up with a theory a pact to make a good relationship. I was want you advice or opinion of what you think of the This Pact i Made in order to made up in order for guy/girls to have a great relationship.
hey alfredo, email me about your pact theory.
HELLO !!!! miss V !!!! Nice website..Dropping by to ask u a question.. What is your nationality? i mean, i am a Filipino(I’m proud of it) . Just wondering if you are a pinay(because you look like one) …
thank you and hope you find time on giving my message a quick reply . thanks and god bless alright . chow …
hey v’star russell,
i’m vietnamese.
vanae