About/ Contact Vanae
aries. laughing. fire. mango. small caps. community. piggyback rides. HUGS.
i’m a 20-something female from the sf bay area ‘out to change the world, by first changing myself’.
i studied psychology and communication to open up hearts and minds then bring people together.
here i am, sharing my journey of growth, cutting edge music and things that are:
amusing
positive
thought-provoking
or just damn cool!
we learn and share our experiences to grow into better people. ultimately BE HAPPY. and this ties into my goal in life: positively impact as many lives as possible, to impact others.
i hope that my blog brings you smiles, because isn’t that what life’s about?
love to hear from you…
leave a nice message at (415) 830-3164
or ayvanae@gmail.com
your girl,
vanae
Hi Vanae,
Nice chatting with yeah!
Comment by brian epa — June 21, 2007 @ 9:27 am
vanae rules the known universe!!!
Comment by d merlot — June 22, 2007 @ 2:38 am
When you become famous can you take me to exclusive parties? =P
Comment by Sarah — June 22, 2007 @ 3:17 pm
How are you? Miss our conversations bella.
Comment by 7evin — June 22, 2007 @ 8:21 pm
Hi Venae,
I just stumbled across you somehow on youtube and ended up here! Your site and videos made me smile. I love your philosophy-mine is very similar.
Have a great day!
Comment by Ally — July 9, 2007 @ 10:05 am
Vanae!
Your positivity is inspirational and contagious- I love it!
Comment by Samantha — July 10, 2007 @ 2:33 am
Hi Vanae,
This is Philip. Volunteered for you at Asian Pride family dinner last year. I heard about the craiglist non profit bootcamp and will be going this year. Thought you might be interested, too. Here’s the website:
http://www.craigslistfoundation.org/index.php?page=2007_SF_Bay_Area_Nonprofit_Boot_Camp
Comment by philip chang — August 10, 2007 @ 10:56 pm
Amor omnia vincit (dicitur).
Opto ut valeas.
(Will you thesaurize this?)
Comment by toninicasanipasta — August 29, 2007 @ 9:39 pm
hi…,,,
i’ve see your videos in youtube…,,,
i think it’s realy great…,,,,so..,when i check out who made dat videos…,,,,i’ve ended here..,at your site..,,
keep up your great work..,,
(^____^”)
Comment by chow_yang_shen — August 30, 2007 @ 11:12 pm
OOuuuw..,yeah..,,,
i.ve forget…,, may i have your MSN..,???
so we can chat sometimes..,,
coz..,,there a lot of thing dat i want to share n ask u..,,
Comment by chow_yang_shen — August 30, 2007 @ 11:18 pm
don’t worry i’m kinda weird to but hey its not all that bad now is it
Comment by kevum — September 11, 2007 @ 11:45 pm
Hi Vanae,
How are you? Hope you are doing great.
I guess like others I just happened to come acrossed your videos in youtube. Click here and there, eventually I landed here in you official website. Pretty cool way of expressing your thoughts and ideas. I guess you won’t be hearing the last from me.
Oh by the way, I am residing at the other corner of the world. Gee technology really can bring us nearer, look what the technology has done. Anyway, great to explore your site and like the dating tips. I am sure lots of guys are grateful to you. Cheers.
Thomas
Comment by Thomas — September 25, 2007 @ 6:00 am
Hey! Vanae,
I watched your video, signs that she likes me or not. Well, I have a question. This is regarding a girl that I am dating. You know girls could be a heck of a confusion for the guy, and so is she. About 3 weeks ago, I met this girl, who seem to like a lot in the first conversation and I felt that she liked me too. We went out for a formal date about 10 days ago. I took her to a romantic french restaurant and took her out for desert. Well, all that evening she held my hand really tightly and I felt that things were happening a little fast. But, I accepted it thinking if this is for good, then I am OK. At the end of the night, when I dropped her off. Then came that ender moment and we kissed each other really like lovers. I saw the glare in her eyes and I knew she is in love with me. Any how, cutting the story short, I am confused after that terrific date, she has slowed down. SHe has an exam that she is taking this week, so I am not sure if that is on top of her mind all the time. But before this she would call me every night. All, I was not able to figure out, is this the exam factor or has she changed her mind. Give me your thought on this.
Thanks
Jessie
Comment by jessie — September 26, 2007 @ 1:55 am
Hey Vanae, this is weird…one of my good friends Vinod from Singapore (whom you apparently me at some aiesec thing more than a year back) tells me you’re living at the EPA mansion now. I’m from Singapore too and while i was there for a good year, EPA mansion was my home…and a lot of crazy things happened there…is Chris berry still there? anyways, watching your videos brought back alot of memories of the place…drop me a mail and let me know how its like…im wondering if all our photos i printed out are still stuck on the fridge.
cheers!
Tim
Comment by Timothy — October 4, 2007 @ 7:45 am
you have great advice, iwas feeling kinda down today, but i seen your vid on youtube now im feeling better now, ty. P.S. your very beautiful. i also have a myspace account to if you wanna contact me there. its myspace.com/berony65roninblade.
Comment by brian — October 23, 2007 @ 8:22 pm
Hey Vanae, What’s up baby! I came across your videos on the youtube website and it’s very useful for guys like me who are taking beginner lessons in love and relationships. Thank you very much.
But, in the meantime I would also ask your views on premarital sex which is the topic to be addressed. It’s considered a taboo to go in for premarital sex in any part of world today. Thats it.
Your show is great and keep up the good work.
Comment by vicky — October 24, 2007 @ 9:46 am
can i sign up for e-updates and stuff? i want to be in the V-loop…
Comment by frankus — October 26, 2007 @ 8:29 pm
may i be your another admirer? always love to meet another beautiful creature… thanks for: the beautiful mind, beautiful faces/smiles, beautiful vision…
Comment by KoKo — October 30, 2007 @ 1:53 pm
Hey Vanae,
Wow your terrific…
Okay question I live in LA and I want to join in one of your groups,how can I do that?
Thanks a bunch.
More power.
Comment by leslie — November 4, 2007 @ 6:05 am
wow. You’re sooo cool. I wish i had an outgoing personality like you.
Comment by Impressedguy — November 5, 2007 @ 4:36 am
I love your smiles, beautiful outgoing personality .
Comment by JT — November 14, 2007 @ 5:48 pm
Hiya Vanea
First I would like to say that I love you’re videos on you tube, I think that what you are trying to do is amazing. Thanks. I was also wandering if you could help me out a little.
I live and work on England at an airport, and I am a baggage handler. I get to see lots of people, but only for short periods of time. I am also quite shy, but who isn’t. Now there is this girl that I like who I don’t get to see all of the time. She is quite a friendly girl, and someone told her that I was into her. She realised that I was. We do talk about stuff whe I see her, so we are cool together. She says she is also quite shy. Now, a friend of mine told me that she is on facebook. I found her and added her as my freind, she accepted, which was nice. I found out that she has taken 3 weeks off work, so the only way I can talk to her now is facebook.
Is this a good idea? I hope you can help xxxxxxx
Antony
Comment by Antony England — November 15, 2007 @ 11:28 am
hi Vanae. i just watch your video blog on a singles site & i would love to have you tell me the name of the track that is playing in the background. it is this the video titled “be a gentlemen”. i am a huge trance fan & love to spin trance, i have heard the track before & cant find it. please help me out. my email add is djcodered05@ yahoo.
Comment by Codes — November 17, 2007 @ 12:35 am
Vanae,
Please, I can’t believe you never expected that some wacko would eventually find your videos and send you stuff like that.(dennis) I’m surprised you have not received worse.
As far as the help videos for the guys, I applaud you. I was one of those inept young men at one point in my life, and some of my friends (which happened to be girls) helped me understand the female psyche. Because the guys were just totally clueless.
Frank
Liberator of the Oppressed
Casual Hero and World Traveler
Wars fought, Revolutions Started
Assassinations Plotted
Governments Run / Overthrown
Alligators Castrated
Nymphomania Cured
Perversions Taught
Virgins Deflowered
Comment by Francisco Barcenas — November 28, 2007 @ 1:55 pm
hey vanae, I’m Asim from the UK.
I stumbled accross you on youtube a few days back, and ended up watching all ur videos. I would just like to show some appreciation for your efforts and say thank you for the advice in the videos. I think that your way of thinking is ace and Keep up the good work!!
Asim
x
P.S ur new haircut is amazing, you look a lot more sophisticated in my humble opinion.
P.S.S - i like ur name =)
Comment by Asim — November 30, 2007 @ 5:49 pm
Hello,
I just what to say that i love your videos, in this Sunday morning after a night’s of work, your videos are a nice surprise
I think that your messages can help some people that are a confused and insecure about things like love… yes… the big problem… that is a wonderful thing
Well if you have any time to talk send me an e-mail back
Kisses
Comment by Rui Ribeiro — December 2, 2007 @ 10:03 am
hey Vanae, ur advices are damn great!!!!!
i have some problem with my love in my life. I would like to share my story, n maybe u can help me giving opinion… It would be embarassing if i share in this open forum… would u mind sharing ur email? thanks a lot…
Comment by Kane — December 8, 2007 @ 4:54 pm
Hey. I have a question for you. Do you think it is important to save all sexual interaction for marriage? What do you think the God of creation designed relationships to be like? Does our Creator God have a plan for relationships?
Comment by Zach — December 12, 2007 @ 5:29 pm
Dear Vanae,
You do charming and amazing! Real life saver, well done!
Just want to know how can you do it?
And how do you inspire yourself to inspire people?
Fans of Yours
Shaun
Comment by Shaun — December 15, 2007 @ 9:30 am
HI Vanae, I accidentally found your video on youtube and I like your advice and style.. id be glad to get in touch with You
My email is my msn too..and I am on facebook as well.
Steve from hungary,europe.
Comment by steve — December 21, 2007 @ 1:38 am
hey,you ‘re great…but most of your videos refer to new relationships..what about ex girls that we broke up recently and need them back?please contact me if you can help..
Comment by stelios — December 29, 2007 @ 3:34 am
you should read some details about my case…it ’s complicated…but she ’s with someone else now and i reeeeeeaaaaaaally need to do something…i ‘d love your advice on that…i ‘m waiting…
Comment by stelios — December 29, 2007 @ 3:41 am
Dont answer good things just to be nice to me please.i have a problem in my leg and makes me walk funny, this makes me very shy at the time of approaching any girl. i want a honest answer please. do girls mind if a guy has a physical problem when they look at guy like a potential partner ? what is the first idea that comes to the mind of a girl if she is approach by a man with a physical problem ? for dating not friendship.
Comment by pedro — January 3, 2008 @ 4:25 pm
Hi,
I wasn’t sure where to ask a question, but I have been following your posts on Youtube and you offer great advice!
I have a girlfriend, been together for like 5 months, the thing is that now we are at long distance because she moved back to Japan and I’ll be following soon because its my intention to become a teacher there.
Anyways, lately shes been really busy and we hardly talk,
normally I am pretty cool about these things but its been like 2 weeks, and now lil things are getting to me, like shed normally say I love you everyday but it has been a week since>.<
I know I am overreacting and the best I can do is give her some space because I know her pharmacy exams are more important but…
Well, what do you suggest? I email her a little to let her know I am there but also not too much to not smother her.
I just wait it out?
Thanks=)
Comment by Noe — January 4, 2008 @ 6:46 am
Hey Vanae,
i have seen your video in youtube & i think you did a good job. you gave some cool advice. still i am not confident dating australian girls. is is possible to chat with you sometime. i am living in sydney & i came here just an year ago, i was busy with studies & job. now i really need a gf & i like to have fun but i am looking for a serious relationship too. please help me
sydney boy
Comment by Sydney boy — January 9, 2008 @ 6:45 am
Hey i need some advice. There was this girl who I was hanging around with for a while. I kiss her on the check and we still were hanging around she would still text me and call me. But one day i was talking to her on the phone i was telling her all these stories that other girls were all over me but i told her nothing happen. Then she told me she had a boyfreind and i got really piss because I felt i was always honest with her and she made an ass out me. I told her i didnt want to be her freind and she keep insisting to still be my freind. Then i dont call her for about 2 months then she tells me that she missed me as a freind. So I decided to be just freinds. Things start to go back the way they were slowly but i never got over the fact she lie to me and i dont want to be her freind but she still wants to be my freind.
Comment by Elson — January 11, 2008 @ 10:40 am
Just to say hi!
And want to give you a smily face
8-0
Comment by 8-0 — February 5, 2008 @ 10:51 pm
Just fell into this site and wanted to say ‘hi’. Weird is good; keep it up!
Comment by Canadian Boy — February 20, 2008 @ 2:17 am
hey,
Nice videos and content, keep it up. i cant help it notice though (being a chiropractor) that you’re hair is constantly making you tilt you head to the right, tsk tsk. let me know when you start having neck pain and headaches, then perhaps we can exchange chiro adjustments for …i dont know, advice/opinions.
Comment by RL — February 24, 2008 @ 12:20 pm
Hey V,
Just saw your roadtrip thingy and the video on how to keep a girl interested. Good stuff! The vibe I get is really positive…. and how much that is needed today.
So thanks for that.
R
Comment by r — March 11, 2008 @ 12:11 pm
Bonjour Vanae,
was nice to meet you, share desert & drink some Quebec beer during this weekend.
I found this fan club of yours… did you know about it:
http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=10396513223
salut!
Comment by alin — March 31, 2008 @ 5:25 am
hey vanae! Loving your site and the deep thoughts behind it. Your inspiring statements and tips always brighten up my day =D
Comment by Ced — May 8, 2008 @ 7:44 am
I think I have a good idea of how to keep a girls attention, the thing is, I don’t yet know how to attract their attention in the first place. I’m rather shy and can warm up to them after a little time, I just need some advice on how to get them to notice me without me trying to introduce myself and having them laugh at me and walking away…again…I’ve had only one girlfriend in the past, but something didn’t feel right in it, so we seperated…Please give me some advice. btw, nice youtube videos.
Comment by Colton Meek — May 18, 2008 @ 6:12 am
Hi V. interesting that you are giving out advice and all, and seem to be a positive person. I am a guy, been dating girls for 20 years (OMG that is long) and here are my 4 key points for girls to guys (and really only the first point is key):
1. Never mention another guy and sex in the same conversation. Note, of course you can mention other guys, eg my ex. . or there is a colleague. . ; and you can talk about sex, eg I like this sex. . , or why do people have that type of sex. .
But simply never mention any other guy and sex in the same conversation, examples are: my ex used to like to do this. . , or there is this French guy at work and you know how French guys are (bad attempt at humour) etc. It amazing how many women don’t seem to know this basic rule. No guy would ever mention any other girl and sex in the same conversation. And what a guy will do if a female makes the above mistake is usually not react, but in his mind something has clicked and he will no longer take the relation seriously.
2. Do not offer sex on the first date, fair enough guys should not pressure for it, but even if you can wait until the second it shows some basic self control,
3. Many guys do not like doggy-style, they want to see the girl, if she wants from behind then it seems like she is not really into you but just wants sex which any guy could give,
4. Not all guys are into oral sex- either receiving or giving- some guys think it is wrong/ gross, so if he declines an offer, or does not offer to perform, then leave it alone,
Good luck
Comment by Mike — June 11, 2008 @ 2:07 pm
you know my advice is go slow and get to know the person before you have sex. seriously there are some dishonest people in the world and well diseases and its a great way to find out if someone really likes you for you or just wants to get laid.
also you should be a therapist/counselor. such positive energy.
Comment by lulu — June 29, 2008 @ 7:44 pm
hey girl,
you are doing very fantstic job
well help me out i havent have sex yet but really wanna to do it
i dont have girlfrnd
suggest me what should i do
thnkx
Comment by vish tomar — June 30, 2008 @ 7:32 am
hi vanae.^-^
am from united kingdom..but am originally from hong kong/nepal.. well iam in a band here in uk ..we juss play gig in small hall and parties.. well i was wondering what do i need to do to get mah music or to live in us ..i always wanted to live in us since i was a kid as now am 19 year still living in uk with hope of going to us and make something in the music fields …
plzzz can you help me with this …if you can give me some advice help then please mail me at mah email…thank you…you fan maniman
Comment by Maniman — July 8, 2008 @ 11:17 pm
hellloowwww its bout the date bid>>… i dont live in us can i still bid and may be may be if and when i come to us we could gooo on a date…..>>how does it sound
Comment by sstha — August 9, 2008 @ 9:58 pm
hey….
its nice …..
tell me where i send u mail or text to knw about a girl
Comment by hunny — August 14, 2008 @ 9:46 am
Hae Vanae! Just wanted to say I love the site! You give excellent advice!
Comment by Ryan — August 15, 2008 @ 6:54 am