vanae (happier you* guide)

one of my quality readers wrote a beautiful response to “renewal”:

i can’t tell you how happy it made me to read that piece you wrote yesterday, v-girl. The beginnings of true wisdom,yo.

see now the larger forces in our world are going to conspire to bring you true love. it’s only by letting go and nurturing our real needs that we find what we seek.

so none of this so far probably makes sense to you. here’s how i see it working: by taking care of yourself, restoring your own balance, when an opportunity to open your heart to another comes, you will be on balance, less dizzy, less vulnerable, feeling less of a need to seize and cling onto whatever emotional driftwood the currents of life bring by . . . you’ll be swimming on your own. like a beautiful sea otter, playing and lithe and powerful . . . you’ll find another playmate and make beautiful noise.

have you ever missed yourself?

felt like you have been restless, a void, or been lost for the last couple of years and wanted to find your way back? 

this is an epiphany of mine recently.

i used to meditate every morning. read books, connected with deep souls, who were spiritual and full of great energy.

it was a calm time in my life.then for the next few years i chased:

graduation, career, death in the family, and i dated to fill the void.

my revelation is that i should center myself and find my natural spirituality. i’ve realized that YOU are the person you spend the most time on.  before engaging in a relationship with someone, you must be fully centered.

so, i made a promise to:

BE GOOD TO MYSELF  

this means:

good to my body (eating healthier, almost no alcohol)

good to my mind (read, good intellectual conversations, learn)

good to my soul (meditate, fun activities i’ve always wanted to do, connect with others even more so)focus on priorities (family, RYA, engaging hobbies)  

i’m ready to be good to myself…

are you too? or are you already there? 

i’d love to hear about your journey. 

here’s a sweet catchy song that has been playing pretty in my head. you can get her awesome album here

do you have someone who accepts you the way YOU are?

the end is always hard.

incoming thoughts replaying moments, things he/she said…emotions of sadness, bitterness, happiness , confusion.

take these thoughts and fold them into a paper boat. put it in a stream and gently blow it downstream.

and let it go. 

there’s no point of overthinking it. sometimes it doesn’t work because it wasn’t a fit.

give yourself time to heal for someone who does deserve your time. trust me…it only gets bigger and better. 

refresh-ing,
vanae 

a gem from christopher walkens.thanks frank for posting this!  

you just gotta dance

vanae’s tip of the dae: kisses on the forehead ARE the best!  

happy valentines day!

“Don’t go through life, grow through life.” Eric Butterworth 

have you ever wondered what that ‘person’ is up to?that ‘person’ who was your cross guard growing up?the mailman who delivered your mail in those funny shorts?the female teacher you had the biggest crush on?it’s nice to give some thought to those who entered our lives for a short time,but left an imprint.

vanae’s tip of the dae: for valentines week, think about those people and share a BIG hug with your MUM. if she’s not here, call her and tell her you’re giving a big hug over the phone.

XOXO,Vanae

absence makes the heart grow fonder